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writes:*OP's Original Title*Hey aunt and uncles.I just wanted to know your opinions on abortion. About a year ago i went with my brother and his ex girlfriend for them to have an abortion. I know it wasn't me having an abortion but it really affected me, maybe it was because i saw how much pain she was in, or how i felt the little life inside of her get snuffed out.To this day it still brings tears to my eyes. Have any of you got any tales of abortion that you wouldn't mind sharing? or opinions on it? I just want to know what people think. Thanks cupids :) xx
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reader, becca emma louise +, writes (16 July 2010):
i understand its a free country and everyone has the right to choose and i respect that, but its pushing the boundaries when people start telling me what to do! i would never have an abortion in my life no matter what, no exceptions :) teens who have abortions are just backing out of facing the truth, but in the end you created that life and it is part of you. to me it would be like killing a part of me. i had a miscarriage about eight months ago after deciding to keep my child, id planned my future and i know things wouldnt be perfect but thats no reason to end an innocent life. i would have done the best i could and hoped my child would have been proud that i would have brought him or her into this world :) i know that the day i lost my child i felt like i had lost a piece of my heart and i have never got it back or felt the same. it affected me a lot because it was down to fate and i couldnt fight it, abortion may be your choice but you cant control the feelings of the aftermath... just think about it!! :(
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reader, Ravenxx91 +, writes (5 July 2010):
 I personally feel their wrong in alot of situations. For example teens and even adults which have gotten themselves into that situation from purposly not using protection. However with human rights it is their lives. My point is i think people should be responsible for their own lives and if they abort due to not being able to provide for it or wanting the baby then they should give it up for adoption for the couples who would love a child.
I do however completely agree when the baby has been concieved due to rape or abuse as it may be hard for the mother to carry and care for the child. The other case is if the child is disabled or damaged and from that will have a low quality of life or be in pain all of their lives.
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reader, Afterglow  +, writes (5 July 2010):
 All I can say is, as a MAN, I could NEVER fathom the idea of not having total control over the decisions I make governing ANYTHING that happens with my body.
I simply do not believe that a person should have the right to decide what another person does with her own body...period!
Abortion is serious and only a woman should be able to make that choice for herself.
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reader, KeighleySky +, writes (4 July 2010):
KeighleySky is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks guys, all of you. I know that everyones opinions are different and heres mine:I am on the pill and we regularly use protection so if i became pregnant i would abort, because i dont want to bring a child into the world that i dont want. I want to be able to plan when i want a child. But, if i weren't using any kind of protection, not even condoms then i would not abort, because it would be my own fault and i could not rid myself of an innocent life who cannot be blamed for my actions. Maverick494 i agree with you on the unhealthy fetus, i wouldnt want to give birth to a child who would be in pain for the rest of his/her life. I have promised myself that if i happened to get pregnant from my own personal fault i would neither blame the childs father or my unborn child. I would reap the consequences and love the child as if i'd wanted him/her from the start. Thanks for all of your opinions.And for those of you who have had abortions and it has affected you i send my heart to you. Your baby will be waiting for you in heaven and this is coming from a person who isnt religious. Again thanks for your opinions and stories xxxx
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reader, alwayznd4eva116 +, writes (4 July 2010):
 I had an abortion two yrs ago. I still regret it to this day. I feel terrible about having sex unprotected knowing it causes consequences but wasn't woman enough to deal with them. Then again, I had all intentions on keeping it but the father was a lot older then me, he was my cuzzin's friend and I was TERRIFIED of how to tell my mom. All those things plus the father preching to me about how its the best decision if I want to be with him and if I want to finish school. He promised me soo much before the abortion and after it, I just felt played. He went back on every word. I was pressured into the abortion bcuz otherwise, I wouldve been another teen mom. But now I'm in the same situation and I'm at a loss. Bcuz I promised myself I'll never make that mistake again but now I really want to go away to school. Its soo tough to make this decision and I still didn't make one. But I just hope the one I make will be right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): Abortion is a very difficult subject, and when you think about it it might hurt. It hurts me everytime i think about it. When i was 17 i was foolish and for some stupid reason thought i wouldn't get pregnant. I did. On Dec 19 I was 9weeks 4days into a so far successful pregnancy. I wasn't sure what to do. The father was only worried with how his life would be affected and begged me to have an abortion. (said he would pay half but i've yet to see a penny). I was still living at home so of course my mother recgnized morning sickness and i was found out. She told me that it was "my choice" and she would support me with whatever i did. I looked into adoption, but decided there was no way i could have my shild and then give him or her up. In a daze a decided ot have an abortion, I pulled my measly savings and drove myself the hour from my hometown to the clinic. I sat by myself in the waiting room for over an hour and was finally called back. I was planning an doing the abortion by pill but was informed that i could not and so i had to have a full abortion, by myself at 17 an hour from home. Since i drove myself they couldn't ive me anything more than an ibuprofen. No one in my family knows to this day but my mother. I drove myself home later that afternoon, told my little brother i had eaten something bad and was going to bed. I went upstairs and sobbed "where's my baby?" over and over again. I knew i had made a mistake.
Abortion should be used by rape victims and by those women whose own health could be put danger by bringing the fetus full-term.
Any woman living in the US has access to protection, Condoms, the pill, education. Don't use abortion as a day-after pill.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): I think every child should be a wanted child. There are lots of people out there who want to adopt a baby, so if a girl finds herself pregnant, doesn't see herself able to care for the child, but can find it within herself to carry the child to term in a healthy way, then God bless her for giving the child up for adoption. But if for whatever reason she isn't willing to care for the unborn child -- if she's an addict, if her family or social circumstances are such that having a pregnancy known would be disastrous -- then abortion can be a reasonable option. Far better to abort than to bring a child into the world with fetal alcohol syndrome, for example.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (4 July 2010):
 When a woman, or girl, finds herself pregnant there are three choices she can make. And regardless of which decision she makes she will live with it for the rest of her life.
She can keep the child, she can choose to have the child adopted or she can chose to terminate the pregnancy. Her reasons for chosing which of the three choices are her reasons and she should not be judged by the rest of us.
I wish your brother and his ex girlfriend well and I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive any transgressions you may see in the choices made, and accept the decision that was made.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): Another vote in favor of it.
Abortion is not pretty or painless but that's not the point. Once you are accidentally pregnant then none of your choices are painless from then on. Single motherhood, adoption, abortion, all 3 of them are decisions that you will be second-guessing for the rest of your life.
And if you don't want another life to die for you, it's a little late for that. You are alive today therefore you have benefited from the deaths of other humans and animals. There is no way around it. Food, products, medications, wars, safety regulations, indirect things, etc.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (4 July 2010):
Well, first I want to stress that it doesn't matter what we think. It's personal. My opinion is my opinion and that means that if you have a different moral compass than i do, your take on it can be totally different. No side is the "right one".
That said, I am for abortian. Under the condition that it enables the pregnant woman a future she otherwise would not have had and/or preventing the child from being born into unfortunate circumstances.
I also don't judge abortion if the fetus is unhealthy ( and would be born severely handicapped, etc).
In the above cases, I get why people get abortions.
But if you're, say, 30, you have a job a home, basically a stable life and you mess up and get pregnant, I think it's wrong to get an abortion because I think it's your responsibility to deal with the consequenses of your actions. An abortion shouldn't be the delete/backspace button in your life.
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