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36-40,
*harmedv10
writes:Ok so there is a guy that I've liked for a while who is about 5 years older than me. I've been crushing on him for over a year now and he has already graduated and is going to a grad school elsewhere. since he is no longer attending the same university i am and is possibly miles away i felt confident enough to send him a message. although, not confident enough to tell him it was me. i had created a sort of fake facebook account (i already have one under my real name)to send him an anonymous message that was just lyrics to a song telling him how i feel. i didnt expect him to actually see it. the account looked deserted since there was no info filled out although i knew it was his. even if he did see it i expected him to just delete it. this was back in the middle of may and once it was sent i thought nothing of the account. my sister had however discovered it since it was created using my personal email separate from my university's email and i had added her. now, recently at the end of june i receive an email from that account and its from him. all he writes is my name and a question mark. nothing else. for a while i couldnt figure out how he knew since i had left nothing that would have revealed myself. then i figured he must have gone through my sisters account to look at her friends and to see who he knew and connected the dots. since then i have responded and fessed up since there was really no way to get around it. it has been a few days now since i responded and he hasn't said anything. thing is, why would he go to any lengths to find out who sent the message, out me, and then not say anything else? again, at most i was hoping he would have just seen the message, realized it wasn't from anyone he knew and just toss it. what's his deal? btw i dont know if this helps but i have no idea if he has a girlfriend or not. when i first met him he did but at this point im not too sure.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (11 July 2010):
 He could probably tell you had a crush on him while he was still around, which is how he might've known it was you. He asked because he was curious, that's all.
This is why Facebook should never be used for this sort of thing. How can you send someone a message, and then not expect them to see it? How can you expect them to even take it seriously when you're sending it anonymously? It's better not to send a message at all if that's the case.
Sending him lyrics while hiding behind a fake account wasn't the best thing to do, and to be completely honest, he probably thought it was a bit creepy. It makes you look obsessive and immature, even if you aren't.
He obviously doesn't want any part of it, so move on. Don't use Facebook to tell someone how you feel next time.
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reader, Ravenxx91  +, writes (6 July 2010):
 All you can do is wait for him to reply. I always say dont send out anonymous things unless your prepares for it to get back...and thats what you want surely. nothing to loose! x
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reader, Neverbeenloved +, writes (6 July 2010):
Truth of the matter is he didn't reply the second time after he found. The lyrics were sweet and all but he could of freak out that you sent it under a different name or he may just not be that into you. Which is ok. Now its time put your focus else where. Next time send it from you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2010): On facebook it doesn't take that long to guess who someone is, it doesn't take hours of hard core searches, more like five clicks and a maximum type count of about seven words.
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