We break up over and over. How many times should I take him back?
Q. He keeps (5) breaking up with me then calls me, telling me that he miss me. The longest we have ever stayed away with out talking is 3 days! Being that he has not called me do you think that I should call me or just let it be? The reason tha...
A. 13 July 2005: Is it always your b/f who breaks up with you?? Men have this natural desire to seesaw between being very intimate with someone ie you, and being totally independent and autonomous. This means that as soon as your b/f feels loved and safe, he will ... (read in full...)
We like each other, but he's my friend's boyfriend...
Q. I'm a freshy in the university. I've met many new friends. One day I met my friend's boyfriend, I think he quite likes me and I feel that too. We exchaged our phone number and went out together. But the trouble is he's my friend's boyfriend. Please...
A. 13 July 2005: It's always difficult when this situation crops up, you fancy him, he fancies you, and you want to take it further.
You must think of how your friend would feel if she found out. She would most likely feel hurt, betrayed, angry etc. Her boyf... (read in full...)
Our overseas relationship was only going to make one of us unhappy... so I broke it off...
Q. I'm 16 years old and i live in England. Last summer while on holiday in the Carribean I met a beautiful American girl. We both liked each other but were too shy to say it to each other so we exchanged e-mail addresses and when we got home we started ...
A. 13 July 2005: How awful for you both!! I think you should tell your girlfriend that this relationship is postponed, not over, until you both finish your studies. When you have both finished your studies, you can decide if you still want to be together. Keep in ... (read in full...)
My fiance left me alone to deal with my personal trauma. What am I letting myself in for?
Q. Dear All, I am having problems talking to my boyfriend. We are getting married in 3 weeks and I have had some terrible news 2 weeks ago when my brother suddenly passed away. I am hurt and have no one else I can really talk to other than my bo...
A. 12 July 2005: Hold off the wedding!!!!!!!!!! You two have some serious issues to address!!!!
First of all, I agree that you are not children, which also means it's not his responsibility to look after you!! He should definetely put your feelings above those of h... (read in full...)
My boyfriend think he's the smart one, I'm the dumb one, and only his opinion counts...
Q. How do I stand up for myself? My boyfriend thinks it is all me, I am the dumb one, he is the smart one. He thinks I need straightening up. Yes, I do, but some of his problems are what is causing my problems, but he refuses to believe that and ...
A. 12 July 2005: Your boyfriend behaves this way because you allow him to. What do you think any confident girl would do?? She would tell him to sling his hook, because he may love you, but girl, he aint got respect for you. He may be like this with all the ... (read in full...)
Have I done the right thing, shielding my son from my judgemental extended family?
Q. Somedays, I feel so despondent about my extended family. (my mother, sister and aunts) I grew up with very judgemental, opinionated, gossipy family members. As a child I recall being criticized and feeling humiliated with cruel words, on a dail...
A. 12 July 2005: I think you've done a marvellous job of bringing your son up with all the hurt in your past. Sometimes, we feel obliged to people, just because they are related to us. I'm pleased to hear you have broken away from them, even if this does leave you ... (read in full...)
I want to know what experiences people have with age-gap relationships...
Q. I don't really have a problem..(well i do, but thats a dif. story..lol) Anywho, I just want to know if there is anyone out there that is dating or married to someone with an age difference of over 15 years,and if so what makes it work and what ...
A. 12 July 2005: The only advice there is for an age gap of more than 15 years is to take each day as it comes, each partner must live and let live, you will want to do things your partner wont be keen on, so it's about taking it slowly, and lots of compromise on ... (read in full...)
Just not interested in sex with my bf anymore. Should we break up?
Q. Me & my boyfriend have been together for 4 1/2 yrs and he & I have been through a lot of difficulties and made it so far. He is my best friend and we have always had an amazing sex life but recently I have found it increasingly difficult to have sex ...
A. 12 July 2005: The longer you go without sex, the harder it's going to be to get going again!! How about a quickie now and then, to relight your passion. If you don't have sex at all, you will lose the desire to have sex. It's as simple as that. You need to make ... (read in full...)
I detect a spark with a co-worker, but I'm about to change workplaces!
Q. Hi, I'm 23yr old woman who is very intelligent and good looking, and believe me I appreciate these gifts. The problem is social, most people are scared of me! Men assume I must be going out with someone. Because I'm seen as a genius most peop...
A. 12 July 2005: Why not give him your number or your email address, and say you've enjoyed working with him, and if he gets the opportunity, maybe you could meet for coffee. That's not too heavy, but if he likes you, he'll call, or email. ... (read in full...)
Time to break up with my married guy. Can we stay friends?
Q. I am in love with a married man. I have been seeing him for 3 years. It seem like I make all the effort. How can I tell him I can't do this anymore and still be friends?...
A. 12 July 2005: why would you want to remain friends with this man?? You must look at this in the cold light of day!! He has betrayed the ones nearest and dearest to him, put himself above all others, thought only of his own needs, without considering anyone else, ... (read in full...)
My friend is pregnant and she feels she can't tell her parents...
Q. I'm 18 years old girl. My problem is about my close friend. Last week she found that she was pregnant with her boyfriend! We don't know what to do. I told her to tell her mom but she said she can't because her mom will not accept and it'll make ...
A. 12 July 2005: I also fell pregnant at 18 yrs old, and with no stable job, no stable partner and no home of my own ( lived with parents), I was unsure what to do. The first thing I did was to tell my mum I had missed a period. She asked me if I was pregnant, to ... (read in full...)
I'd like to spend all my time with my boyfriend, and it hurts that he doesn't feel the same!
Q. I find myself wanting to spend every free second of my day with my live in boyfriend, even though we have been together for a while now. He makes me so happy that I really think I could never get tired of being around him. It hurts my feelings that ...
A. 12 July 2005: You are in grave danger of ruining a perfectly good relationship this way. You are becoming dependent, needy and your boyfriend feels the pressure of this. Where's the girl he fell in love with? The one who made him feel like chasing her all over ... (read in full...)
Our child's energetic nature annoys my wife, we argue a lot and she never initiates sex. In short, I'm unhappy!
Q. Hi I have been married for 2 years now. I have known my wife for 4 years before getting married. Thing is, we were so happy before we got married and everything was good. Yes we had our ups and downs. Now that we married and have a 2 year old kid ...
A. 12 July 2005: Hi there. Is it possible your wife is depressed, or has she always tended to be this way?? Here is a woman, who's dwarfed by negative feelings, uninterested in sex, arguing, shouting, and finding her 2yr old child too difficult to enjoy. I think you ... (read in full...)
Attracted to a lifelong friend and not my wife... Unfortunately, we both have partners and children!
Q. I am married with a child. I have a loving wife but I feel sexually attracted to a lifelong friend whom I have known for over 15 years. We are very close and she has a child as well. Our kids play together and she and my wife hang out a lot. S...
A. 12 July 2005: Hi. Since you have already slept with your friend, I think you are close enough to talk to her about the way you feel, and find out if she feels the same. Are you both prepared to leave your spouses to be together, or not. If not, then I would ... (read in full...)
Not sure if this guy is really serious. He just brushes me off about our future...
Q. Hi, I'm 16 years old and ever since me and my boyfriend broke up a year ago from a 4 year relationship it's been hard for me to meet someone that I can get serious with. I've been seeing someone now for about 5 months and I feel that he could be...
A. 12 July 2005: I understand the need to 'get serious', but rather than concentrating on him or any other man for that matter, you would be far happier if you concentrated on yourself. If he weren't in your life, what things would make you happy?? Pampering ... (read in full...)
He doesn't feel about me, like I do about him...
Q. Should I stay with a guy who doesn't have the same feelings towards me that I have for him? ...
A. 12 July 2005: Whether you should stay with him or not remains your choice, but personally it would depend how long I'd been seeing him for. If it is more than 6 months, then I would break up. You will only be more and more hurt and frustrated at his lack of depth ... (read in full...)
On again, off again with my boyfriend because he doesn't have the same goals and ambition...
Q. I've been on & off again a few times with my b/f for 5 yrs. We've been really serious and we are each other's best friends. However, I feel as though he isn't going anywhere with his life. I'm about to graduate college, and he is just going ba...
A. 12 July 2005: Hi. I think you and your boyfriend are probably going in different directions. He's young, and wants to have as much fun as possible whilst doing just enough studying to get him through. You on the other hand have burning ambition to succeed. I ... (read in full...)
I'd like to try some new things - even sex! - with my boyfriend, but he couldn't care less!
Q. I am 21 and I don't have the most experience. I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half and the most we have ever done is some heavy petting. I don't know for sure but I think he might be a virgin (he's 27). We have a great relation...
A. 12 July 2005: Hi there. After a year and a half, I would have expected more than just heavy petting! Your boyfriend obviously finds you attractive, and loves you, but I must admit that there is obviously a problem. Do you know his history as far as women are ... (read in full...)
Six months after we broke up, I still worry about my ex and other guys...
Q. Hi, In February me and my girlfriend split up after 2 years. The split happened whilst we were in university together. We were friends for two years to begin with then we decided to have a relationship and go to the same university becau...
A. 12 July 2005: Your ex girlfriend seems to have all the control over this relationship at the moment. That's not a good place for you or her to be. You are making it so obvious that you would do anything to have her back, and literally hanging onto her every ... (read in full...)
I want to marry my 50-year-old boyfriend, but Mum thinks I should find a boy my own age!
Q. I'M 18 and love my 50-year-old boyfriend very much. We met five years ago at a family barbecue. He loves me and has asked me to marry him, so we've set a date this time next year. The problem is I don't always understand him and this has...
A. 12 July 2005: I also dated an older man, I was 17 and he was 28 and a half years older than me. I loved him so much. I wanted to marry him, and knew I could be committed to him for the rest of our lives. He would have reversed his vasectomy so we could have ... (read in full...)
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