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writes: He keeps (5) breaking up with me then calls me, telling me that he miss me. The longest we have ever stayed away with out talking is 3 days! Being that he has not called me do you think that I should call me or just let it be? The reason that we broke up was because he missed his flight and the same night he came in the house at 3:35 am without calling me. However he did call his uncle to let him know that he was ok. How many time do you think that you should let a person back in your life? Do you think it is healthy for the kids (8 and 6). We have only been together for 7 mo. Help in Florida
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reader, becky05 +, writes (13 July 2005):
No, I don't think this is healthy for kids.I don't think you should take him back again, if it's like this after only 7 months there is no future in this relationship.
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reader, pinksoftkitten +, writes (13 July 2005):
Is it always your b/f who breaks up with you?? Men have this natural desire to seesaw between being very intimate with someone ie you, and being totally independent and autonomous. This means that as soon as your b/f feels loved and safe, he will want to be independent and alone. This gives him chance to miss you, then he feels his desire to be close to you again. Believe it or not, this is the norm for men. It's not good for your children to view this as a series of break ups though, it would be much healthier for your children to realise that your b/f had gone away for a few days, and was coming back soon. These periods of breaking up will become less frequent as time goes on. Don't worry about them, just go with it. It's perfectly healthy and normal. Try to accept it as a normal part of your relationship. Your children will only be affected if they see you getting upset or angry. Your b/f just becomes overwhelmed, and needs to get away. This will diminish over time, but you have a good healthy relationship. It's how you react to what he's doing that will determine how your children react, and how successful this relationship becomes.
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