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writes: I find myself wanting to spend every free second of my day with my live in boyfriend, even though we have been together for a while now. He makes me so happy that I really think I could never get tired of being around him. It hurts my feelings that he doesn't want to spend that much time with me in return. I am beginning to feel as though he just doesn't care about me as much as I care about him. Am I crazy, needy or is this something a lot of people have problems with? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): I live with my boyfriend too, except I am the one who is moving in. Like you, I seem to be the one who is begging for his attention. I don't see him all morning until we are both home from work - which is around 4:30. When I get home, he is already settled in and playing WOW or his xbox (but mostly W.O.W.). When I cook him dinner he decides to take a break and spend a little time with me - but when I wanted to cuddle he turned off the tv and was annoyed.
I think pinksofkitten is right. Oh I just realized this article was written 2-3 years ago. Oh well..maybe someone else will find this helpful!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): It is not healthy for you to spend all your time with him. Every one needs time alone. And i firmly believe you need to be happy with yourself and be able to be alone and not feel like you need to be around him to guarantee your happiness. I live with a man who is so totally needy and tries to make me feel guilty if i ever want to be alone. I hate my life the way it is now and i can only blame myself for this.
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reader, pinksoftkitten +, writes (12 July 2005):
You are in grave danger of ruining a perfectly good relationship this way. You are becoming dependent, needy and your boyfriend feels the pressure of this. Where's the girl he fell in love with? The one who made him feel like chasing her all over town. Where's the girl he was aching to be with all the time?? Why, she's right here, all the time. He never misses you, because you're always there, right in front of him. Men need to feel passionate about their partners, they love unpredictability, a strong happy partner, who lives her life to the fullest. A confident fun person. When you spend every minute of your time with him, or trying to be with him, you are taking away his feelings of missing you, chasing you, desire for you. He never knows what it's like to want you to be there, because you always are!!!
Back off, before he gets so bored that he leaves. Believe me, it doesn't take a man long to switch off. Keep his interest in you by having interests of your own and not relying on him to provide all of your entertainment. Men need time to be away from their partners. Let him have this and he'll be happy as larry to see you.
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reader, Courts +, writes (12 July 2005):
hi therein short dear you are living with your boyfriend and you are spending a lot of time together. now you wanting to spend more time with him will only make things worse than what they are. maybe he feels he is being suffocated. try to make him want to spend time with you and not the other way around.if you spend less time with him, surely he will miss you and want to be with you. its a very complex situation. people who are together get quickly frustrated whereas people who are apart find themselves wanting to spend a lot of time together. just do it in moderate. if u spend to much time with him again surely you will have started the cycle all over again.cheers
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