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writes: I'm 18 years old girl. My problem is about my close friend. Last week she found that she was pregnant with her boyfriend! We don't know what to do. I told her to tell her mom but she said she can't because her mom will not accept and it'll make things worse, So I think maybe I should tell my mom or ask for help. Please help us... Reply to this Question
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reader, hopeless +, writes (18 July 2005):
I understand that it maybe scary for her to tell her mom. Hey I was only 16 when I got pregnant with my first kid but I also realized something, that it wasn't going to go away, plus the choice wasn't mine any more. It wan't time to think about me, it was time to think about my baby, so remind your friend that you're there for her but also remind her she needs to see a doctor. It's not only her body anymore there's somebody in there needing her, and remind her, her mother loves her no matter what. She'll be there as a parent and you'll be there as a friend.
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reader, kirsty2hot +, writes (13 July 2005):
It would be best if your friend told your mum. Her reaction may be angry at 1st but she'll come to terms with it.
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reader, pinksoftkitten +, writes (12 July 2005):
I also fell pregnant at 18 yrs old, and with no stable job, no stable partner and no home of my own ( lived with parents), I was unsure what to do. The first thing I did was to tell my mum I had missed a period. She asked me if I was pregnant, to which I replied 'I don't think so, but I'll go to the doctors and have a test anyway'. A few days later, my mum asked me if i'd had the test. I admitted I had, and she asked what the results were. I couldn't speak, so she guessed I was. I apologised, but at least it was out in the open. Your friend could try writing a note to her mum, because I think it would be much better if it came from her. Her mum will get angry, but then she will be extremely supportive. I've never known a mum worth her salt to be unsupportive when her daughter finds herself in this position. The longer your friend leaves it, the worse it's going to get!! So tell her to take a deep breath, and broach the subject. She'll be glad she did. My child is now a teenager, and my mum has always been there, through thick and thin. She adores her grandchild. Similarly, if your friend decides to have a termination, she'll need the support and love of her family. Why not suggest you will tell her mum that your friend has something important she's got to tell her??
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reader, mamma +, writes (12 July 2005):
i would advise your friend to tell her mum.She may be very surprised by her mothers reaction,sure she may be angry but her own mothering instinct will kick in and she will want to protect her daughter.Does your friend have the support of her baby's dad because if he is standing by her then she will have him to fall back on IF her mum rejects her.The best thing for you to do is to continue what you are doing and be a good friend and always be there for her no matter what she decides to do.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (12 July 2005):
Is she keeping the baby, if so then she must tell her parents. If you feel that your own mother wont say anything to your friends mum then tell her, but really , its not your worry. be there for your friend.
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reader, Louiser4you +, writes (12 July 2005):
Wel first of all, decide on what you will do with the baby. Are you definatly keeping it? If you keep it do you know what you will be putting yourself into? If you dont keep it and have an abortion what will you be feeling and how will you deal with it? i suggest you see someone about this a guidence helper or councilist because this is a major thing that wont go away and at some time its going to have to be said to her mom! If you tell your mum make sure you trust your mum not to say anything to the girls other mum because i anybody should tell her she should definatly do it her self. i hope this helps.
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