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14 May 2008: Love hurts. I have heard this before, but I never imagined that it could be so very true. The literal pain that I feel inside of me is intolerable, and you are none the wiser. I’m in love with you, did you know that? I doubt that you did. I have ...
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29 April 2008: I don't know how to tell you How I really feel. I'm not sure that I even know that it's really real. I can't breath and my heart is in pain. My legs are weak and I'm crying again. You'd never know, because I'd never say. You'll never k...
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Do guys really need to sleep around before settling down? It hurts me to see him with other women.
Q. I have been dating this guy for the past six months and we got really close and he was the best guy I have ever dated. I have a bad past with men and it takes time to trust them, but with him it was different almost right away I felt comfortable ...
A. 21 July 2008: Wow. He sounds like a pig. I'm sorry to say that considering your feelings for him, but who the hell does he think he is? If he sees you as someone that he could spend his life with, then why throw you away to get with some dirty bar skank? It ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is great, but what do I do about his HUGE porn collection?
Q. I am in need of some advice. I feel as if I'm running around aimlessly, within my own head, in search of an answer... My boyfriend of 10 years has (what I believe to be) a serious porn problem. Currently, his collection consists of a couple hundred ...
A. 21 July 2008: Hey. Okay so, to answer this question I am going to refer to my relationship. My boyfriend, like most men, likes porn. Do I mind? Of course not. It's natural and healthy and I know that he loves being with me, so it doesn't bother me. Now, in terms ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can say or should I just walk away?
Q. Is there anything I can say or should I just walk away? For a year and a half now I have been with a guy who keeps pushing me away. At first, we wouls see eachother for a few months and then he would push away because he was afraid of getting close ...
A. 1 June 2008: Actually he five years older than me. He's 26, maybe I should have mentioned... (read in full...)
I'm not gorgeous, but I'm not ugly either!
Q. I am 15, and have never had a proper bf. I wouldn't say i am ugly, but i also wouldn't say im drop dead gorgeous either. So what to lads like about girls?...
A. 1 June 2008: I never had a boyfriend until I was sixteen years old and I would not consider myself ugly at all. I wouldnt really worry about it all that much. It's not even really about how you look, although it helps to look nice. It's really all about ... (read in full...)
Can you explain sex?
Q. I am wondering besides humping what is sex? I am only 11 years old so, do not make your answers that detailed or gross. Thanks if you answer nicely....
A. 18 May 2008: When you go into middle school, they should teach you all the science of it and give you the kind of explination I think you're looking for in health class. Trust me, throughout middle school and high school, you will learn more about the ... (read in full...)
Love and Pain
Q. Love hurts. I have heard this before, but I never imagined that it could be so very true. The literal pain that I feel inside of me is intolerable, and you are none the wiser. I’m in love with you, did you know that? I doubt that you did. I have ...
A. 18 May 2008: The guy this was written about actually just broke my heart Friday night. After a year and a half he decided to tell me that he doesn't like the fact that I have a son because he hates kids. After reading this, you might imagine how incredibly ... (read in full...)
I'm waiting to hear him tell me he loves me!
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and 3 months. We talked about the word 'love' early on, and we felt it was best not to use it so soon. As of now, I feel like it's been long enough. I want him to tell me that he loves me, but I don't think ...
A. 15 May 2008: Hey, I'm not really sure what kind of avise to give you here because I'm in almost exactly the same boat. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half and I am in love with him, but I'm not so sure he feels the same way. I would ... (read in full...)
I'd expect this from him when I'm old, but not now!
Q. I just caught my husband masterbating to images on the internet. When I confronted him, he said he does this often. I am a 25 year old, 92lb girl, many guys say he is a fool! I'm a very mellow person, and I happen to enjoy porn a lot too, so I didnt ...
A. 9 May 2008: I am very aware that my boyfriend watches and enjoys porn when I'm not around. He actually tells me about porn that has recently purchased. I don't have a problem with it. I know that he appreciates me and loves being with me. Sometimes men just ... (read in full...)
Can someone shed some light on my secret fantasy?
Q. okay I am hoping someone can shed some light on my secret fantasy. I am not normally turned on by other women, and have a boyfriend, but sometimes certain women really turn me on (if they are attractive and have the right personality). ...
A. 9 May 2008: It's kind of funny because I've been asking myself that same question for a while. I don't think I would ever reall.y be up for a threesome because I couldn't stand to watch my boyfriend with another woman, but I have a very strong urge to ... (read in full...)
"If I am 16 and have relations with a consenting 15 year-old girl, is that rape?"
Q. Hi! I'm studing law in history, and one of the questions is, "If i am 16 and have relations with a consenting 15 year-old girl, is that rape?" Please help me answer this question...Thanks....
A. 8 May 2008: No, In the USA, it is not rape, as long as neither one of you is 18 and over. You're both under age and should probably consider holding out for a bit longer, but if you're really set on it, just know that it is not against the law to have sex. Just ... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with him, how do I tell him without destroying our friendship?
Q. I have been in a sexual relationship with a friend for about a year and a half. About six months into the relationship i fell in love with him. He makes me so happy and i really think that he could be the one for me. How do i tell him this with...
A. 8 May 2008: I hate to say this, but if you're sleeping with him, the friendship is already ruined. You don't have a friend, you have a sex buddy. If you think this guy could be the one for you though, what better way to find out than to tell him. You might just ... (read in full...)
I took 2 brands of pill within one month, could I be pregnant?
Q. I am on the pill (estrogen and progestin). I accidentally dropped one and since i had an unfinished pack (a different brand, same composition), i just took one from there. This was the 2nd to the last pill of the packet. I expected my period toda...
A. 8 May 2008: I doubt it. Do yourself a favor and wait a couple of days before you freak out. The pill doesn't keep you on THAT tight of a schedual. A little wiggle room is needed and it can fluxuate a couple of days here and there. I'd say to give it a week and ... (read in full...)
Should I break with him or just take a break?
Q. the 11th is me an my boyfriends 8 month aniversary an he doesnt even wanna do anything but hang with his friends. and i wouldnt mind if he didnt do this on a regular basis. this is an everyday thing.i always ask him if he wants to hang out just me ...
A. 8 May 2008: I think that, although 8 months is an accomplishment, it's not something to make a huge deal out of. Celebration is not called for at month marks. It's the years that are special.
When it comes to the friends always being around, a guy needs hi... (read in full...)
I need some advice about taking the pill.
Q. I want to take birth control. My question is, do i take a pill and do sexual intercourse a few days later? and if i don`t do sex and i don`t take the pill (would that get me pregnant?)...
A. 8 May 2008: Once you start the pill, you should use an alternate form of protection (like a condom)for a full month, because your body needs some time to get used to the pill. While you're on it, make sure that you remember to take it at the same time every ... (read in full...)
What is the sweetest thing that he/she ever said to you?
Q. I don't really need advice, I'm just curious. What is the sweetest thing that he/she ever said to you?...
A. 7 May 2008: LOL Thanks for your postings guys. I am a romantic at heart and sometimes it seems like love and romance just isn't as prominant in the world as it used to be. I love to know that there are still some people out there that understand the importance ... (read in full...)
What are some girls "turn on" spots?
Q. Hey, I'm wondering what are some girls "turn on" spots? Like all I know with my girlfriend is neck, knee/thigh's, and ears. Are they're more that I could try out?...
A. 1 May 2008: All the sensitive areas on the body. The hips, nipples, and maybe the shoulders. The fingers are incredibly sensitive as well. Try licking or sucking on one of hers.... (read in full...)
I was shocked when my friend told me she was no longer a virgin.
Q. Yesterday my best friend told me a secret. She told me that she wasn't a virgin anymore. I was in total shock. I thought she knew better than to do something like that. I don't know how to explain it, but ever since she told me that she wasn't a ...
A. 1 May 2008: Listen, it was her choice to make. She didn't do anything wrong by wanting to connect physically with her boyfriend if she felt that she was ready to, and only she can decide when she's ready. The fact that she has had sex does not make her a ... (read in full...)
My Poem
Q. I don't know how to tell you How I really feel. I'm not sure that I even know that it's really real. I can't breath and my heart is in pain. My legs are weak and I'm crying again. You'd never know, because I'd never say. You'll never k...
A. 1 May 2008: Thank you so much for the comments. I love to write, if anyone is interested on reading more, please let me know. I would be more than happy to share.... (read in full...)
Why would a man who loves his wife and family keep me around? I want us to be together!
Q. I have known a wonderful guy for over 20 years -we have been having an affair for 15 years. I have loved him all this time. He has been married with kids all this time - I've been married and divorced twice. Although we have never discussed this, ...
A. 1 May 2008: I have a friend in a very similar situation. I will say to you what I say to her and, hopefully, you will take my advise the way she hasn't.
The way I see it is, you are only going to end up being hurt. He wants to have his cake and eat it too, ... (read in full...)
I get the feeling he's got past issues and comparing me to them.
Q. Six weeks ago started dating this guy. He's not very cuddly i guess you could say. I noticed he wanted to move very slowly. That's ok....always seemed to do the things he wanted to. One night he took my vehicle and drove his son and girlfriend home...
A. 1 May 2008: It sounds like this guy definately has some issues and I would just let it go. You can't fix him if he has problems, he has to work them out on his own. I think you should just let ti be and see if he calls. If he doesn't, then it just wasn't right.... (read in full...)
How can I avoid having an affair with this woman at work?
Q. I'm married and have a baby but I've been attracted to this woman at work for a few years, and I believe she is attracted to me as well. I don't plan on breaking my marriage vows, but I can't get her off my mind. Any suggestions on how to stop ...
A. 1 May 2008: We are all animals, like it or not, and it is in our nature to have these feelings. There are so many biological and animalistic factors that you have to consider. I don't think there is any way to stop your intincts, but you do have self control ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend comes from an abusive background. Should I be worried if he abuses our cat?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating over a year now and I couldn't be happier with him. But, he comes from an abusive background and that worries me. We have a cat that we bought together. He likes to put her inside the bath tub or shower because he ...
A. 1 May 2008: All cats are afraid of water. He needs to understand that, but don't think that just because he comes from an abusive background that he will be an abuser. I am 21 and spent 19 years of my life being physically, mentally, and emotionally abused, ... (read in full...)
I would like to end my fixation on my ex and start dating again!
Q. My ex and I have a very long history (about six years) of on-off dating. For the last year she has been going out with someone else and seemed very happy. I have (or had) just gotten to the point of being over her and happy with my life, albeit ...
A. 29 April 2008: The two of you have been on and off for six years. That should have been plenty of time for you to see that you just don't work as a relationship. Love is a wonderful thing, but you need so much more to keep a relationship going and it sounds like ... (read in full...)
Hard-to-get or hard-to-pay-attention or just plain ol' uninterested?
Q. I finally caved and put up an online profile at the behest of my friends who swear by internet dating....and low and behold, I found someone! We are in related professions, attended college in the same area and now live in the same town, we have ...
A. 29 April 2008: It sounds to me like he is just weasling out of telling you that he isn't interested. It's a childish way of going about it, but that's what it looks like. I would back off and see what happens. If he is into you and you back off, he might step up, ... (read in full...)
I discovered my wife's embarrassing history! What now?!!
Q. I discovered recently that my wife worked as a high-priced prostitute, two years prior to our meeting. She was desperate for money at the time. She says she's been thoroughly tested and does not have any communicable diseases. Further, she deeply ...
A. 29 April 2008: Everyone has a past although, some are more colorful than others. I believe that a person's past should never be a factor in how they are viewed in the present. People change, and situations arise, and people do what they feel they need to do. Do ... (read in full...)
We are very much in love, but we fight constanly, what should I do?
Q. Hi everyone, i have a question that has bugging me. I love my boyfriend to death, and i'd do anything to see him happy, and that's how he is with me. We get along perfectly, and we are 110% comfortable with each other. We do almost everything toge...
A. 29 April 2008: I think it all depends on what the fighting is about. I hate to say it, but if you guys fight every day about all the little things, sooner or later, the little things will add up and become big things. You should really try to figure out what ... (read in full...)
I'm a bit shy, so how do I ask this girl to go to the movies with me?
Q. Hi, i need some advice, i really like this girl, how can i ask her out to go watch a movie? Also when i went out with my last girlfriend we were not very close, and it didn't help that i was a bit shy. If i was to go out with this girl, how can i be...
A. 29 April 2008: You really just have to work up the nerve to ask this girl to the movies. I think that is the only thing you can do. When it comes to getting close to someone though, you just have to take your time and, eventually, you will start to feel more and ... (read in full...)
I do love him and want to please him, but I find what I'm doing really uncomfortable. How can I make it easier?
Q. I've been seeing my boyfriend for about 9 months and we have been "official" for 4. (we're long distance, but I will be home this summer). This is both of our first relationships, so we've been taking things really slowly. I've given a few hand...
A. 29 April 2008: I am not to crazy about hand jobs for the same reason. I think that all you can really do is try to find a comfortable postion for your hand and, if you aren't, use some lubrication. Just a small heads up...blow jobs aren't very comfortable either. ... (read in full...)
Why are my boyfriend's friends so harsh on women needing to fit a certain prototype? I don't understand.
Q. I think I may have a problem with self-image. The thing is, of late, I've more been around more people who really take into account appearences before they get to know people. They are my boyfriend's friends and they are often discussing and deba...
A. 29 April 2008: Look, as long as your boyfriend isn't as shallow as his friends, don't worry about it. He obviously likes you for who you are as a whole, so that is all that should matter. There are many people out there that can not see beyond the physical, but ... (read in full...)
Morning after pill messed up my periods. Is this normal?
Q. hi, i had the morning after pill last month on the 3rd day after having sex i had a period b4 i had sex on the 13th after taking the pill on the 30th of that same month i had a period again just 3 days after taking the morning after pill i was only ...
A. 29 April 2008: I think that the best thing for you to do would be to speak to a doctor. The morning after pill is prevention, but it's not fool proof. There is still a possibility of pregnancy. There might even be something wrong health wise. Speak to a physician.... (read in full...)
Should I let him meet this girl and just trust him, or tell him if he meets her it's over?
Q. hey, i need your help. I met a guy of facebook, he lives in my area and we met up and now going out. We've been together a month now, but last Friday he told me that this Friday he's meeting a random girl off the internet for the first time to go "s...
A. 29 April 2008: I would not be comfortable with this in any way, shape, or form. I think you are right to have doubts about his intentions, so I think that you should tell him how you feel and that you are not comfortable with it. If he really cares about you, ... (read in full...)
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