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writes: okay I am hoping someone can shed some light on my secret fantasy.I am not normally turned on by other women, and have a boyfriend, but sometimes certain women really turn me on (if they are attractive and have the right personality).I have a friend who is female. We were at the bar one night and she told me she found me really attractive and was buying me drinks all night, even when I insisted I pay for them. When she told me how attractive she finds me, I was like, "Aw, you're so sweet. You're pretty too." I acted totally innocent because I was scared. I wonder if she was hitting on me? Anyways, it really makes me want to experiment with other women, but at the same time, to do so feels like total taboo. I was scared out of my mind to tell anyone! I don't really know any lesbians or bi-females. I suggested to my boyfriend that I would like the have a 3-some at some point with another women of course. That is something I'd be totally up for, but where on earth would I find another women who I could trust and who is a nice person?Do you think I'm bi-sexual or just curious? I was reading a question about bi-sexuality and it totally makes me weak all over. That is the ultimate fantasy.Thanks!
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reader, reluctant  +, writes (29 September 2008):
there is nothing wrong with u. every one wants 2 be with the same sex. i am a 40 yr old male that wants 2 make another man cum in my mouth. i am married and i am going 2 have a dirty 3 way so i can. my wife showed me that all hot chicks want each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys.
Don't worry, I wouldn't do anything behind my boyfriend's back. I dunno, I'm always checking out women and well, I don't know if that's normal. I am not attracted to my female friends, except the one who might be attracted to women but I'm somewhat intimidated by her. She can be quite awkward, but she's really nice and I love her friendship. I sense she is gay, but I don't know if my radar is accurate. I don't want to ask her!? I almost feel for her if she is because then obviously she's having to put forth the energy to keep it secret. To be with another women doesn't feel like cheating, but I guess it really is. I asked my boyfriend if he thought it would be cheating and he just laughed, because he has no clue I am attracted to some females, lol.
But thanks again!
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reader, Susan Strict  +, writes (9 May 2008):
 Don't do it.
NOT because there's anything wrong with you wanting to experiment with another woman, but simply because it's cheating on your boyfriend exactly the same as if you decided to experiment with another man.
Three-way relationships rarely work, even one-off experiences. Your relationship with your boyfriend will never be the same.
Being bisexual, if that's what you are, doesn't mean you can experiment with two people at the same time. With a very few exceptions, people need an exclusive one-to-one relationship whether it's with someone of the opposite sex or the same sex.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (9 May 2008):
 I guess I'm going to be the bold one here and try my best to help you...
Personally, I actually don't see the harm in any sexual experimentation at all. If you decide to follow through with your secret fantasies, great! If you decide not to, that's also great. You see, in my humble opinion, everyone has some kind of fantasy. I suppose it's completely up to you if you choose to indulge them or not.
Taboos are something that society creates that is its way of controlling the individual. I really think that nothing is taboo when there are two consenting adults passionately exploring their world. What's out of bounds is completely your choice... the others be damned!
Regarding your threesome idea... it seems that your friend from the bar would be a good candidate. I think that if you three are going to do something like this, please be sure that everyone is on the same page... talk it all out ahead of time!
Good luck and have fun (oh, and keep the fantasy life alive and well!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): I think you're just curious. I've read on several places that fantasies involving the same sex are completely normal and common, and that doesn't mean that the person having them is gay or bisexual... it's just curiosity and experimentation.
You're totally normal, give yourself a break. It's common ;)
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reader, frumpologist +, writes (9 May 2008):
 In all honesty, I think that curiosity is normal for all women (and, though it's not admitted regularly, men). The female body is appealing and beautiful; it's natural to want to know what it would feel like to be with a woman. I don't think that there's anything wrong with you or that you're bi or lesbian or anything. I think that you just want a well-rounded opinion and there's nothing wrong with that. :)
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reader, notinthesane +, writes (9 May 2008):
 It's kind of funny because I've been asking myself that same question for a while. I don't think I would ever reall.y be up for a threesome because I couldn't stand to watch my boyfriend with another woman, but I have a very strong urge to experiment with a woman. Like you though, I've been to afraid to go out and try. I guess this would be one of those, you never know until you try situations. A suggestion that was given to me by one of my friends would be to go out to a les bar. You can look online for bars near you and even get reviews on them. Good luck
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