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writes:I am wondering besides humping what is sex? I am only 11 years old so, do not make your answers that detailed or gross. Thanks if you answer nicely. Reply to this Question
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reader, lotsofgiggles123 +, writes (22 August 2008):
 so like yea i hope my idea works oh yes im am also 10-12!
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reader, lotsofgiggles123 +, writes (18 May 2008):
welll i really i dont think i will you should ask a parent someone you trust or even a relative about the *whispers* sex or surf the internet thats all the ideas i have.
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reader, Susan Strict  +, writes (18 May 2008):
 "The birds and the bees"? "The facts of life"?
Sex has many names, and few of them come close to describing it. Neither, unfortunately, does most of the "sex education" at school or the explanations from many parents.
There may be great debate on how much should be explained to an eleven-year-old, but I'll do my best.
First and foremost, sex is procreation. A long word, but quite simply it means the method used by all animals and most plants to produce more animals and plants. I'm sure you already know that, but it is most important to remember that from the beginning of time that and that alone has been the main purpose of sex. Two sexes, male and female, are required to reproduce.
If you keep that in mind, you will begin to understand how important sex is. It is, therefore, a very deep and basic instinct in every living thing. In humans, and in humans almost alone in the entire animal and plant world, it goes even deeper. The desire for contact with someone of the opposite sex (usually the opposite sex, but not always) is more than just the desire to reproduce. There may be many reasons for this, but I think it is mainly because we are possibly the weakest animals on the planet. We are totally unsuited to our environment. We cannot survive unless we cover ourselves with clothes and build structures, houses, to protect ourselves from the dangers of the world. Our young take a very long time to reach maturity. We have to protect them, YOU, from the dangers of the world for many years. We cannot do this alone, and we need a mate to share our responsibilities. The sex urge helps us to do this, to bind us together with our mate.
What form does this sex take? And that, I’m sure, is really what you are asking. It may take many forms and many varieties, quite apart from your delicate description of it as “humping”! In short, it is the physical enjoyment of the body of the person with whom you have formed a bond - your mate. For most people, it is at its most enjoyable when that bond, that mating, is a permanent connection - marriage, for many.
There are many, many actions that can bring enjoyment and strengthen the bond between two people, all of which are part of “sex”. Many people are different, and what two people may enjoy together isn’t necessarily what another pair may enjoy. The details you don’t need to know right now. Many, you will find out about on your own when you have a loving partner; many you will discover together with your partner; and many you may read about and try or not try depending on whether both of you find them exciting.
Sex is wonderful when it is at the right time between the right two people. It is, probably, the greatest of all the pleasures that humans can experience. It is not, in my opinion, something to be taken lightly nor without careful consideration, because it produces such powerful feelings and emotions that to do it with someone you don’t know very well, love, and intend to form a long-term relationship with can leave both of you emotionally upset, disturbed or even damaged. That’s what many, many of the questions on here are about, and if you have read any of them you will realise that the healing process after sex and love has gone bad is not a straightforward matter. Your emotions and appreciation of what and who works well sexually for you, develops and goes on developing for much of your life. Starting too early before those emotions and that understanding have even begun to form properly, tends to end in disaster. That’s why there are legal limits in most countries for the minimum age at which you may have sex.
And no, eleven is not too young to know these things or to be asking these questions. There’s far more that I haven’t even started to explain, but I hope you were able to understand what I have written and I hope it helps.
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reader, jezman +, writes (18 May 2008):
 what made you come here to as that question?i agree with softballplaya when she says that its probably best to ask your mother or guardian.you have to find your own view on sex without letting anyone else influence you. decide what sex is for you...after you know what it is best of luck :)
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reader, notinthesane +, writes (18 May 2008):
 When you go into middle school, they should teach you all the science of it and give you the kind of explination I think you're looking for in health class. Trust me, throughout middle school and high school, you will learn more about the fundamentals of sex than you ever wanted to know : )
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reader, NobodyKnows +, writes (18 May 2008):
 Okay i'll try to do this in least grossest way i know how, sex is when two people get in bed and are naked. the man puts his "thing" inside the womans "personal area" There are 1000's of different postions todo. you must use condoms to prevent pregnancy and sexual diseases. if you want to know anything else on this topic send me mail! Hope this helped you! WiTh LoVe, Kylie*
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): The fact that you've turned to this website to ask this question suggests you don't have anyone to talk to. This question shouldn't be answered by strangers on the internet, it should be explained to you by your parents, or in sex education at school. If you're worried that your friends all seem to know and you don't, don't worry, the likelihood is that half of them have no idea what they're talking about either. We've all been there, that age of wanting to break out of your innocence, so to speak. To be honest, sex is so subjective that listening to anything anyone on this website or any other tells you will give you a preconceived idea about it. Your best bet if you can't find an older confidante to explain it to you, to look up some sex ed sites specifically for young people, and these will tell you the biological facts. This will, at least, put your mind at rest and stop you feeling confused when it comes up in conversation.
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reader, softballplaya +, writes (18 May 2008):
 well, for starters your 11 years old.
Why are you so concerned with the explanation of sex?
this is a question you should prolly ask your mother or your guardian. If your that interested in what exactly sex is then look it up....
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