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writes:hey, i need your help.I met a guy of facebook, he lives in my area and we met up and now going out. We've been together a month now, but last Friday he told me that this Friday he's meeting a random girl off the internet for the first time to go "shopping". She lives about 90 miles from us. Why would she travel so far just to go shopping?? I've asked many people about this including my counsellor and they all said it sounds more to it then meets the eye. I've asked him and he says they are best mates and nothing is going to happen. But how can you be best mates with someone you have never met? Can anyone offer advice? Should i let him meet this girl and just trust him, or tell him if he meets her its over? I'm so confused. Please help!
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reader, MissWendlemoot  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 He is up to no good. If it is as innocent as he claims, then he would have no problem with you going with him to meet her. I would tell him how you feel about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): I agree with the other posters, and lean towards the womens's response.
He may be a easy go lucky type guy, friendly, or maybe he is unsure if he has found the right one, or, because of their discussions, they want to hang out because they find each other interesting as friends only. Maybe she has a boyfriend, who knows.
Though I had dated this girl, she lived far away, but because she had a good head on her shoulder, I agreed to meet up with her. We had a good time, but friends is all we remained.
Your decision I think should be the ladies suggestions, notinthesane and LIERIN.
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reader, oldfool +, writes (29 April 2008):
 It's quite possible that nothing is going to happen. I suggest he's still curious about other possibilities. He's going "shopping", but not in the normal sense of the word. Either way, he's not really committed to you in a very serious way if he's going to run off 90 miles to check out some new girl.
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Hi there,
You cannot force him to not meet this girl. And he cannot force you to stay his girlfriend.
Seriously, how naive does he think you are/
Time to get yourself another boyfriend mate, you've got a lousy cheating rat on your hands.
Shopping! yeah right! nice try mate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): That is definitely a lot more than shopping. There is no reason to meet someone you don't know and have never met in person to go shopping. There isn't even a reason to be meeting people on the internet when you are with someone.
-Mason Stanley
www.menanswer.blogspot.com
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reader, LIERIN  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Well .. it sure sounds wierd.
Maybe you should ask him if you can go with him .. there is nothing wrong with you beeing confused. Trust me, every women would be!!!!
How can they be best mates, when they dont even know each other? And she is traveling 90miles to go shopping? Sounds more and more as a "sex" date to me!
I wouldnt trust him ... this is not just a shopping meet up. Go with him, or do something ... she is not coming to go shopping for shoes with him!!!!!!
Good luck
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reader, notinthesane +, writes (29 April 2008):
 I would not be comfortable with this in any way, shape, or form. I think you are right to have doubts about his intentions, so I think that you should tell him how you feel and that you are not comfortable with it. If he really cares about you, he'll understand.
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