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*attie90
writes:Hi everyone, i have a question that has bugging me. I love my boyfriend to death, and i'd do anything to see him happy, and that's how he is with me. We get along perfectly, and we are 110% comfortable with each other. We do almost everything together and it seems to good to be real.I love him so much i want to marry him we have been dating for 10 1/2 months. We broke up once because the timing was wrong and we were dating for 3 months then, it's so confusing. This is where the question actually starts. We fight almost everyday but we love each other so much that we can't say goodbye to each other, and i'm worried that it might turn bad! HELP ME PLEASE! Thanks so much, and one other thing, how do i stop the fighting from happening any things that i can say or do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): Wow 110% comfortable, spend 24/7 together, yet fight every day...I fail to see how that can be happiness?
What are you fighting about?
Spending alot of time with someone isnt always a good thing, you both need time to do other things, you will find that you have something more to talk about and it also gives you a break from each other. Perhaps your personalities clash or something but it does not sound healthy that you cant bare to say goodbye to each other it sounds like obsession to me. x
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reader, siren_guj  +, writes (29 April 2008):
You fight every day, no problem but whenever you get chance try to hug him for 15 minutes, and tell him to shut his mouth. During this 15 minutes try to push your energy on his body. Energy means kisses and some oral therapy, and ask him to play with your breast with his head. look this will givw you positive results in 15 days.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): What do you fight about? We can't provide a magic word to stop it, but understanding what you fight about will reveal areas you both need to recognize and learn to change this behavior.
Sometimes, we get angry because we believe something should be done a certain way. This is a mistake in most cases, because we are individuals, we've had different teachers/mentors, so we will do things differently. As long as they accomplish the intended goal, then we should be happy they got done, now we can move on to something else.
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reader, Artistry +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Hi there, If you are going to be in a relationship with another human being, you will have disagreements, you will
have fights. But not everyday. If you are fighting everyday,
then there is some underlying problem with the relationship. You must sit down, and talk about what is making both of you lash out at each other. Are you too jealous of him, is he being too controlling of you?
There is something going on, that is preventing each of you from enjoying the company of the other, you are quite young and maybe it is a matter of maturity for both of you. In a relationship, boundaries must be set, where you maintain an intangible, area that you both have agreed to, regarding fighting, fighting can occur, but you have to have boundaries, where you go so far and no farther, otherwise your relationship will be destroyed. If the two of you cannot work it out, if there is real love here,
you might want to try a counselor, an objective third party, who can help you figure out, why the two of you argue like you do. If the relationship is worth it, to you both, and you can't come to a point of growth through understanding, find a third party professional to help. Good luck to you both in the future.
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reader, softballplaya +, writes (29 April 2008):
 alrighty, well instead of arguing ask him to make a compromise with you. Find a middle ground and get there together, it helps if your on the same page so know where he is coming from and make sure he knows too. Express yourself, get all the cards laid on the table because keeping stuff in will result in worse arguements. Save yourself the time by doing this. If you feel an arguement comming on then quickly change the subject or avoid leaving a remark that will make him continue to bicker. Keep a good attitude and think of things you both like and talk about them or do stuff you like to do together to brighten the mood. I am deff not saying make this all about him, because thats not right. Sometimes I am sure the fighting is his fault, at one point we all faight and we all gotta take blame. You have to both compromise. DONT BLAME YOURSELF. things happen, I look at it as this-God is testing you to see if you and him can handle any obstacele together..its just a good way i like to look at things=]
anyways I dont mean to go all "religious" on you (lol)
take care && good luck
I hope everything goes good=]
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reader, notinthesane +, writes (29 April 2008):
 I think it all depends on what the fighting is about. I hate to say it, but if you guys fight every day about all the little things, sooner or later, the little things will add up and become big things. You should really try to figure out what starts the fights and see if you can elliminate that factor. Although I hate to say it, contrary to what the Beatles may have led people to believe, love is not all you need. Love is great, but that alone can not carry a relationship so, if the two of you can't figure out a way to resolve this, I'm afraid it won't last. Good luck to you.
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