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Like a masked vigilante, we are free to air our opinions
My answers are controversial
My answers are geared to survive of a relationship
My answers may not be ideal, but it is practical
My answers are hated by the other posters because they know that I am damn right
My opinions are real and down to earth
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Top agony aunts are crowd pleasers
If I am a crowd pleaser, then I will not be helping you or anybody at all
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They will just say what you want to hear but they couldn't help you.
They just want their heart sign stay with their name
As if answering questions is a game
What is the big deal having a heart sign?
Are the moderators going to give me a free burger, if I top this thing?
Is there a sort of reward given for being No.1 Agony Aunt?
No siree, not a crumb and not a dime!
I had a heart sign twice and rated 7.14, since I joined this website
It is flattering but I believe it is better to work without them
Because it defeats the purpose of objectively answering your problem
I want to help people. People who cheated and who knows not how to deal with the situation, in-love with somebody they cannot have and those who have the same problems like I did have and experienced.
If I seek popularity, the green bars will be excellent
If I penned a useful answer, the green bar will be poor
My rivals are at work and they have rated me poorly
Thank you! Even the Batman is viewed as a villain by the residents of Gotham.
It means I am doing a helluva job!
Examine my answers on the topics I have tried to answer, and decide - am I helping or not.
Who rates the post?
Is it the one who has a problem
Or is it somebody whom I pissed off because I gave an objective solution to the problem?
The rater must have said to him/herself "Why didn't I think of that!"
I will continue to answer divisive questions unmindful of the ratings
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Why do people believe - or not believe - in God?
Q. Im just curious here, I wanna hear from people who are and are not in anyway, religious. To the folk who to believe there's a god, why do you believe so? A personal miracle happened to you, or some sort of experience that has made you believe? Or ...
A. 11 February 2009: Let us say, you saw a house in the middle of the desert
What comes into mind?
Someone must have built that house, right?
And it is impossible for some unexplained random accident, natural phenomena or the forces of nature to put together the... (read in full...)
Married & cheating with a co-worker
Q. I cheated on my wife with a co worker (we made out once). I completely regret and I wish didn't. My wife always has been faithful towards me. She has no I idea what I have done. Should I tell her? The co worker keeps flirting with me and I can't ...
A. 8 February 2009: Hmmmm - so NitramBlue, do you really believe that concealing...or deceit is the right idea in this situation?
If the purpose is to save the marriage, conceal it. It is as simple as it gets, then sin no more.
Like you say...what she doesn't know... (read in full...)
Pain when I go to toilet & "sticky stuff"
Q. Hi there i am realy stressed, and not getting what to do, as i had a sex with many ....and now my pennis is giving out some sticky thing out when it is normal also, and it is giving the tread like structure out which is sticky, and it gets pain ...
A. 20 January 2009: There is no bleeding so probably its not Gonorrhea.
I will bet my bottom dollar on Chlamydia.
You probably have Chlamydia. It is an infection spread through sexual contact. This disease infects the urethra in men. It is one of the most common ... (read in full...)
How can I make her believe that I love her so much knowing she didn't feel my love before?
Q. Dear readers who support this page, I begin my question with the story with my loved one and only GF. First of all I've been in relationshiop now (LDR) I can say relatioship is going strong even where far, we both committed for each other and s...
A. 20 January 2009: I will answer your questions concisely for now. Since you are my countryman, you can send me a personal message if my answers are not sufficient for you. You wrote a long letter and it seems you are quite worried that your relationship will not work ... (read in full...)
Bathroom problems. Sensitivity problems?
Q. How do I stop being so sensitive? Do you think this is a medical problem? I’m sensitive. Emotionally and physically. I am shy when going to the public bathrooms and I don’t want anyone to be in there as well. I used to not be this way. I’m sensiti...
A. 20 January 2009: How do I stop being so sensitive? Do you think this is a medical problem?
If you believe you have a disorder, why not visit a psychiatrist so she could do some test and diagnose your problem professionally.
At first glance, I would think that... (read in full...)
Should my girl's sexual history bother me?
Q. So first off i want to say i am a virgin and this girl and i have been talking about sex. Well she is also technically a virgin guys have never done anything to her but she told me she has done things orally to like 5 different guys. I mean i am ...
A. 19 January 2009: Should my girl's sexual history bother me? Am i making a big deal about this?
If it does not bother you, you wouldn't post that your girl did a Lewinski maneuver with 5 guys. (just kidding) As a man, you acted naturally and you supposed to deal ... (read in full...)
Feeling low because of my sex history.
Q. dear cupid, i really need your help. Im 18 years old and in college. i waited until i was 18 to have sex and it was a drunken one night stand that turned into a semi relationship for a month and a half. then i had sex with this guy who i don't even...
A. 19 January 2009: In a liberal society like the United States, most young people are exposed to many sexual adventures at an early age. You should not think that you are a whore for experiencing sex. A whore uses sex to earn money, so you are not.
However you shou... (read in full...)
Threatened & raped by neighbor, I can't tell my husband
Q. ok i happy to found this site i think it help us to finde answers in all things in our life my english not good but i try do my best :) i was raped by neighbor when I was 14 years and he 25 years i think he play with me like my brother i thin...
A. 19 January 2009: There is no hymen in the rectum (anus). You have to consult a female doctor and have it checked. A female doctor who specializes in sexually transmitted diseases.
I do not want to pre-empt the findings but if you are feeling some discomfo... (read in full...)
Would you get an abortion?
Q. Ok, so here I am again finding myself confused about life. I am 19 years old with a 7 month old daughter and a fiance. And now I am pregnant again...but before I found out I was pregnant again I found out that I have cervical cancer....eek huh? ...
A. 19 January 2009: The conservatives who are against abortion will not agree with me. Some of them are 110% against abortion and they just could not believe that a case, like yours, exist. To the conservatives, listen up!
Actually we had some exchange of views a ... (read in full...)
Married & cheating with a co-worker
Q. I cheated on my wife with a co worker (we made out once). I completely regret and I wish didn't. My wife always has been faithful towards me. She has no I idea what I have done. Should I tell her? The co worker keeps flirting with me and I can't ...
A. 19 January 2009: When you open a can of worms, its your fault. Its like in a movie. The hero said, "Dont open the front door, there is a zombie waiting." But the poor guy turns the knob...
What do we say when we watch the poor guy turning the knob? "Oh...yo... (read in full...)
Married with kids and in love with an old lost love
Q. I have been with my husband for 12 years and married 6, We have two kids together a son 16 months and a daughter 4. Recently I have found a lost love online that I have been searching for since before I was married. I love my husband but feel I am ...
A. 19 January 2009: Do you stay in a loveless marriage just for the sake of your kids? Modern and Western ideas would answer a straight and unequivocal "no."
If you ask me what my preference is, I would rather have no marriage or any kind of relationship at all but ... (read in full...)
Married & cheating with a co-worker
Q. I cheated on my wife with a co worker (we made out once). I completely regret and I wish didn't. My wife always has been faithful towards me. She has no I idea what I have done. Should I tell her? The co worker keeps flirting with me and I can't ...
A. 18 January 2009: "Do unto others, what you want others do unto you" - oh yes, the golden rule. You cheated, you tell your wife...your wife cheats also, and tells you likewise. Is this from is Mutually Assured Destruction handbook or is it from the teachings of ... (read in full...)
Married & cheating with a co-worker
Q. I cheated on my wife with a co worker (we made out once). I completely regret and I wish didn't. My wife always has been faithful towards me. She has no I idea what I have done. Should I tell her? The co worker keeps flirting with me and I can't ...
A. 18 January 2009: Before you make a decision to tell or sweep the whole thing under the rug, let us make a drama script on what dialogues to expect should “The Honesty is the Best Policy” scene looks like.
You Honey, I am home!
Your wife Thank God, dinner is re... (read in full...)
How to tell if a guy is just nervous or interested?
Q. What are the ways a guys actions different when he likes you and is nervous and when he isnt interested? If a guy is interested but nervous how can you reassure him? This is a guy friend that i still see and I hooked up with a long time ago, like a ...
A. 18 January 2009: All what I am going to do is tell you about those unconscious signs so that you could use them to know whether someone loves you or not.
When you're interested in someone you tend to keep a smaller private distance between you and him/her compared... (read in full...)
Breaking up and moving on
Q. How do you get over a breakup? Today, me and my boyfriend split up, i'm devostated and can't stop crying, please give me some tips on how to move on!? Thanks so much!...
A. 18 January 2009: When women cry, afterwards comes anger. These are natural emotions. I could suggest some but it's kinda wierd but it works for me.
To move on and forget the break-up, I usually do these things to divert my mind:
1. Reading a book on
Notori... (read in full...)
Married with kids and in love with an old lost love
Q. I have been with my husband for 12 years and married 6, We have two kids together a son 16 months and a daughter 4. Recently I have found a lost love online that I have been searching for since before I was married. I love my husband but feel I am ...
A. 18 January 2009: Some of the people have different views on marriage from the way I see it. There can be a marriage, but no love. There can be love, but no marriage. Ladies and gentlemen, this is a case worth looking into.
First and foremost, being married ... (read in full...)
Married & cheating with a co-worker
Q. I cheated on my wife with a co worker (we made out once). I completely regret and I wish didn't. My wife always has been faithful towards me. She has no I idea what I have done. Should I tell her? The co worker keeps flirting with me and I can't ...
A. 18 January 2009: Should I tell her?
Hell has no fury like a woman scorned. If you are going to tell her, then prepare for a horror not found even in hell. There will be a divorce, probably.
I suggest you sweep this under the rag, for your sake.
The co ... (read in full...)
How do you know when its love?
Q. How do you know when you love someone? Is their a certain way u feel? ...
A. 18 January 2009: A person's heart feels a mixture of passion, lust, fear, sin, love, worry, desire, unpredictable behavior, strong overwhelming emotion... Love is this the mere insanity. It seems like the true feeling of love tends to give us all a sense of insanity ... (read in full...)
Any books I can read about student/teacher relationship?
Q. my teacher is totally hot and has all the same views as me! are there any books about a student getting together with her male teacher, so that i can live vicariously through her? i think that's the only option, because i can't just get over it. we ...
A. 18 January 2009: There are 10 books being sold by Amazon.com
under the category:
Teacher-Student Love Stories
http://www.amazon.com/Teacher-Student-Love-Stories/lm/34QJM6CP88E9J
See this thread, you can order online.
There is nothing wrong about fo... (read in full...)
Threatened & raped by neighbor, I can't tell my husband
Q. ok i happy to found this site i think it help us to finde answers in all things in our life my english not good but i try do my best :) i was raped by neighbor when I was 14 years and he 25 years i think he play with me like my brother i thin...
A. 18 January 2009: I bet your country have different set of legal ramifications about rape. It differs from one country to the next.
Though definitions vary, rape is defined in most jurisdictions as sexual intercourse, or other forms of sexual penetration, by one p... (read in full...)
Any books I can read about student/teacher relationship?
Q. my teacher is totally hot and has all the same views as me! are there any books about a student getting together with her male teacher, so that i can live vicariously through her? i think that's the only option, because i can't just get over it. we ...
A. 18 January 2009: Any books I can read about student/teacher relationship?
There are no books about student-teacher love relationships because teachers are suppose to be supervising you in your academic studies.
You have the same case with a female British s... (read in full...)
Can a student date and EX teacher?
Q. Is teacher dating his ex-student prohibited? Is it frowned upon? He's just... i always said i would never get married after watching my parents' marriage fail, but i think i'd be happy with him. we have so much alike. he's 10 years older than...
A. 18 January 2009: Is teacher dating his ex-student prohibited?
It is not prohibited for a teacher to date his ex-student, as far as the educational system is concerned, the student is no longer in the academic guardianship of the school and the teacher.
Can a s... (read in full...)
I don't prefer breast feeding, but I have an alternative, what do you think?
Q. I'm not pregnant, I don't have any children, I'm not in a relationship. But I have been asked the question if I did have a child would I breast feed. I don't want to. Now, I'm willing to pump the milk and bottle feed. People have reacted so hosti...
A. 17 January 2009: A child under 4 years old does not remember anything when she/he was an infant until she/he reaches the age of 4. In no way will the infant be affected psychologically if she/he was breastfed or bottlefed. Based on this point, there is no relation ... (read in full...)
She wants to marry me but I just want to remain friends even although I love her.
Q. Hello friends, I have been very close to a girl and we even proposed to each other. We hung out for a while and then because of her family problems we broke off. We decided to remain friends after that. We kept going back and forth initiall...
A. 17 January 2009: I have experienced what you are feeling right now, 9 years ago. I had a girlfriend who was possessive, dominant and passionate that me losing her would have caused tremendous pain. She got me hooked and played her cards well. In her arsenal, she ... (read in full...)
I don't prefer breast feeding, but I have an alternative, what do you think?
Q. I'm not pregnant, I don't have any children, I'm not in a relationship. But I have been asked the question if I did have a child would I breast feed. I don't want to. Now, I'm willing to pump the milk and bottle feed. People have reacted so hosti...
A. 17 January 2009: I don't prefer breast feeding, but I have an alternative, what do you think?
That is the title of the topic starter.
Her alternative is - Now, I'm willing to pump the milk and bottle feed.
Her problem is - People have reacted so hostile a... (read in full...)
I just want a peaceful wedding and parents are making it difficult
Q. iwant to get married soon and i dont know what to do concerning my mum.i grew up with my mum and as time went on she changed my surn name to her father's name,which made my relationship with my father's family weak,so i did all to process a change ...
A. 17 January 2009: This is the problem when you have a church wedding. Those tiny details seem to appear in the last minute and Murphy’s Law goes into action.
It is just a matter of asking your father to come to your wedding even when your mother disagrees. If it is... (read in full...)
I don't prefer breast feeding, but I have an alternative, what do you think?
Q. I'm not pregnant, I don't have any children, I'm not in a relationship. But I have been asked the question if I did have a child would I breast feed. I don't want to. Now, I'm willing to pump the milk and bottle feed. People have reacted so hosti...
A. 17 January 2009: Point of clarity in this topic - the topic starter "willing to pump the milk and bottle feed" I presume the milk will be pumped from the woman's breast not from a cow then bottle feed. It is still breast feeding except that the baby will be ... (read in full...)
I don't prefer breast feeding, but I have an alternative, what do you think?
Q. I'm not pregnant, I don't have any children, I'm not in a relationship. But I have been asked the question if I did have a child would I breast feed. I don't want to. Now, I'm willing to pump the milk and bottle feed. People have reacted so hosti...
A. 17 January 2009: Their problem is being hostile to something that they couldn't understand. But do tell them that what you said is being done in different parts of the globe. In the Philippines, August 15,2008 the news was:
MANILA, Philippines – Over 130 women do... (read in full...)
Threatened & raped by neighbor, I can't tell my husband
Q. ok i happy to found this site i think it help us to finde answers in all things in our life my english not good but i try do my best :) i was raped by neighbor when I was 14 years and he 25 years i think he play with me like my brother i thin...
A. 17 January 2009: Have you tried talking to a female lawyer in your country or some caused oriented group in the Kingdom of Saudi? I believe you should ask help so that justice can be done. You have to seek legal remedies or help to tell what happened to you.
If no... (read in full...)
What makes the guy change?
Q. Why do most guys always distant themselves as soon as they girl gives in and starts liking him? At first they will ring you text you all these sweet things no stop and then when you give in bang..they stop all they sweet things.. the phone calls, t...
A. 17 January 2009: What makes guys change? I could suggest some, but you have to choose which one:
• Because they had the option. The old saying “men are only as faithful as their options” can sometimes ring true. Men don’t get offered sex as often as women so when... (read in full...)
I've haven't smoked in a week but I really want to!
Q. ok so yeah , im 14 and i smoke.!! :(( yeah i know its bad. Save it I've already herd all that.!! The thing is my boyfriend that I've been with for almost 7 months now really wants me to quit.! I'm trying REALLY hard, i havnt had a cigarett...
A. 17 January 2009: If one is a smoker, one understands what cigarettes do and what cigarettes have. Cigarettes have nicotine.
Nicotine is an addictive drug. It causes changes in the brain that make people want to use it more and more. In addition, addictive drugs ca... (read in full...)
Have car, need girl!
Q. 10, no,12 years for me not having a real relationship. I Know that I came frome, Chile, There was zero chance for me since I didn't own my own vehicle. Now that I have the chance of owning, but not driving it, my own vehicle, why can't I get my o...
A. 17 January 2009: “Now that I have the chance of owning, but not driving it, my own vehicle, why can't I get my own girlfriend?”
Having a car and having a girlfriend are two separate distinct things. Although girls are attracted to cars, it doesn’t mean that the... (read in full...)
Pro life vs Pro choice?
Q. So I've been dating a wonderful woman for about 7 months. We met on a popular dating site back in May. I kept it cool for the first few weeks, as I was casually seeing a couple of other people at the time. I'm in my early 40's, so I've been ...
A. 17 January 2009: Abortion has its pros and cons. I am so appalled that people make a statement like “fetuses are developed because they want to live.” I truly believe that abortions are necessary in certain special circumstances and in unusual events:
1. When the... (read in full...)
My future husband doesn't know I smoke and I'm scared he will hate me for it
Q. I've been smoking for three years and dating my man for 2 years. he doesn't know that i smoke. I've tried quitting but its so hard because it's my relaxing point. but i'm in love with him and he hates people who smoke. i don't want to tell him ...
A. 16 January 2009: If one is a smoker, one understands what cigarettes do and what cigarettes have. Cigarettes have nicotine.
Nicotine is an addictive drug. It causes changes in the brain that make people want to use it more and more. In addition, addictive drugs ca... (read in full...)
I just recently started talking to my ex again, but I have a fiance, how do I make the right choice?
Q. I just recently started talking to my ex again, but I have a fiance, how do I chose the right choice? I have been dating my fiance for 2 and a half years now. My family loves and I do, too. But just recently my ex started talking to me again an...
A. 16 January 2009: “I just recently started talking to my ex again, but I have a fiancée, how do I chose the right choice? “
The right choice is to follow what your heart tells you. If you spend a little time off, let us say for a day to listen to your heart. T... (read in full...)
Pro life vs Pro choice?
Q. So I've been dating a wonderful woman for about 7 months. We met on a popular dating site back in May. I kept it cool for the first few weeks, as I was casually seeing a couple of other people at the time. I'm in my early 40's, so I've been ...
A. 16 January 2009: The plus I see in your relationship with this woman is both of you have ideas different from each other. The way I see it, both of you will have a lot of things to talk about. She being a pro-choice and you being a pro-life. She being a liberal and ... (read in full...)
I've haven't smoked in a week but I really want to!
Q. ok so yeah , im 14 and i smoke.!! :(( yeah i know its bad. Save it I've already herd all that.!! The thing is my boyfriend that I've been with for almost 7 months now really wants me to quit.! I'm trying REALLY hard, i havnt had a cigarett...
A. 16 January 2009: There is a drug that could help you quit smoking. But before buying the drug you have to be positively sure that you are going to quit.
I have a cousin-in-law, who have been smoking for 20+ years and my cousin is a non smoker. She wanted to quit ... (read in full...)
My future husband doesn't know I smoke and I'm scared he will hate me for it
Q. I've been smoking for three years and dating my man for 2 years. he doesn't know that i smoke. I've tried quitting but its so hard because it's my relaxing point. but i'm in love with him and he hates people who smoke. i don't want to tell him ...
A. 16 January 2009: There is a drug that could help you quit smoking. But before buying the drug you have to be positively sure that you are going to quit.
I have a cousin-in-law, who have been smoking for 20+ years and my cousin is a non smoker. She wanted to quit ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to love & be with my cousin?
Q. i am in love with my cousin since i was in my early age. he is soo handsome and a lot of girls likes him soo much, i am a simple woman not pretty not sexy, i dont really think soo that he would feel the same way,he likes me also,every day we were ...
A. 16 January 2009: A third cousin? A third cousin is a second cousin of your mother or father.
If we are going to apply an "inbreeding coefficient" the chance that there will some mutation in the cells of an offspring - it would be 1.53% better than the followin... (read in full...)
I want to get married soon.
Q. I am a 24 year old female and have been in a relationship with the same guy for four years now. He is 34 years and am hoping that soonest we will be engaged and get married. I am so close to his family and loved by everyone and I really love him ...
A. 15 January 2009: I went to the same situation your man is experiencing right now. When I went for it this "marriage thing" it only lasted for less than two (2) years. I wasn't ready. I preferred a quiet civil wedding but she preferred a festive reception.
Now t... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to love & be with my cousin?
Q. i am in love with my cousin since i was in my early age. he is soo handsome and a lot of girls likes him soo much, i am a simple woman not pretty not sexy, i dont really think soo that he would feel the same way,he likes me also,every day we were ...
A. 15 January 2009: I think you have a situation there, miss. Since we belong to the same country let give me give you something to think about. Legal stand point: Family Code of the Republic of the Philippines No. "Section 1, Article 38 of the Family Code proh... (read in full...)
Why do people believe - or not believe - in God?
Q. Im just curious here, I wanna hear from people who are and are not in anyway, religious. To the folk who to believe there's a god, why do you believe so? A personal miracle happened to you, or some sort of experience that has made you believe? Or ...
A. 3 January 2009: I believe in God because the world is real. A house cannot exist if nobody put them there. Much more the galaxies of the universe and other universes would not be there if nobody put them there. The Big Bang Theory (its still a theory, not a ... (read in full...)
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