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reader, AskEve  +, writes (18 January 2009):
 To love a person, first and foremost you must KNOW them personally. Lots of teenagers say they "love" a celebrity or are "in love" with them but of course this can't be, they love the idea of who they are but if they've never met them then it's just a crush or infatuation.
Real love on the other hand is very different. If you truly love someone then you respect them for who they are, warts and all. You want to look after them and protect them, you look out for them and put them first. You feel happy and content in their company and enjoy being together. Above all you can be yourself when you're with them. You never try to be anything more or someone different because you don't need to. You don't have to impress them to win them over and you never have to play games to make them like you. There is trust and understanding on both sides and you feel safe and secure within yourself. You would never undermine them, they are not someone in whose company you feel threatened or small.
They are someone with whom you can share your innermost thoughts and worries, a person with whom you should be able to share anything, they are your friend and your confidante and you can be honest with them at all times, you can tell them anything because they love you as you are.
He/she may be someone who is the direct opposite of you. On the surface you may seem like chalk and cheese. Whilst you may be loud and forceful they may be quiet and thoughtful. You may come from different backgrounds, different countries or be twenty years apart but this doesn't matter. There is an unspoken language between you, the spiritual connection between you both is so deep that you seem to be able to communicate without even speaking to each other. You are happy to lie in silence together. You feel sometimes that there is no need to talk because you feel that you know what they are thinking anyway. You feel so close to them that sometimes you think you could almost read their mind. You know when they are worried, in pain, or sad just by looking at them. It is as though there exists some kind of telepathy between you.
Real love stands the test of time, you laugh together, cry together and even have your differences but this doesn't matter, you love that person AND their failings. You come together in a crisis and work through things together and this just brings you closer. You take their feelings into consideration in all that you do. They are the most important person in your life!
~Eve~
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reader, kitty-katy +, writes (18 January 2009):
Love is when what you want most of all is for that person to be happy, whether you're with them or not.
It's being happy when they're happy, sad when they're sad and not being able to hurt them.
Hope I've helped you.
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reader, cherie38 +, writes (18 January 2009):
hun love is when your so at ease with someone you feel comfortable with them comfortable is love do not let anyone tell you that being comfortable with someone is boring and your heading for the rocks! you feel like your right arm is gone when theyre not with you you miss them constantly have them on your min wondering if theyre ok where they are what theyre doing you cant wait to see them you can be in eachothers company and not have to talk your eyes will light up at the mere mention of there name hope that helps x
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (18 January 2009):
 Love is when you are feeling happy about the person you are with it represents the everything in your life. You will feel completed as though there is no other thing to worry about in the world anymore.
Though love is different for every person and when you feel it you will want to say "I love you" it is everything that makes you alive.
Here is a couple of famous quotes that describe it well:
"Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it...It really is worth fighting for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk everything, you risk even more." - Erica Jong
"Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness." - Oliver Wendell Holmes
Also see this article its very good:
http://teenadvice.about.com/od/whatislove/What_is_Love_Am_I_In_Love.htm
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reader, NITRAM BLUE  +, writes (18 January 2009):
 A person's heart feels a mixture of passion, lust, fear, sin, love, worry, desire, unpredictable behavior, strong overwhelming emotion... Love is this the mere insanity. It seems like the true feeling of love tends to give us all a sense of insanity which takes over the mind, body, and spirit. When one truly loves someone they tend to feel completely obligated. They become blind to the world around them only seeing the image of their hearts desire. They ignore truths and push away anything bad.
A person in love then overcomes many things and many conflicts. He no longer sees the superficial imperfections, the mislead beliefs and he is facinated by who you really are. Love can drive you mad.
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