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writes:Why do most guys always distant themselves as soon as they girl gives in and starts liking him? At first they will ring you text you all these sweet things no stop and then when you give in bang..they stop all they sweet things.. the phone calls, texts and are at the door next to the next chick... WHATS UP WITH THAT? How do you notice this kind of guy in the beginning to avoid any heart breaks?Do they even like thee girl in the first place or....? please answer.. thanks...x
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reader, NITRAM BLUE  +, writes (17 January 2009):
 What makes guys change? I could suggest some, but you have to choose which one:
• Because they had the option. The old saying “men are only as faithful as their options” can sometimes ring true. Men don’t get offered sex as often as women so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down.
• It boosts their ego. Sometimes men don’t feel like they are attractive to the opposite sex any more and when a woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may allow her to stroke his ego and more. There’s nothing like the thrill of the chase to men on the hunt. When they are finally rewarded for their efforts, their egos swell even larger.
• You grow apart. Maybe the two of you didn’t have as much in common as you thought. He’s met a woman who has more in common with him who loves football or plays golf. He may check out if he is compatible with her under the sheets also.
• You argue a lot. Men will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly on them about something.
• He’s fallen out of love. Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship, they don’t know how to get out. They may be staying in the relationship because of children or financial reasons. However, they feel like they are missing out on love and may seek it out elsewhere. In their mind, this is as close to win-win as they can get.
• Your sex life sucks. If a man has a disinterested partner or isn’t getting enough sex to fulfill him, there is a good chance he will have an affair. Just because you have a husband or boyfriend, does not mean you can stop trying. It takes a little bit of effort to keep your sex life from getting boring and non-existent. Some men cheat because they want to try new sexual things that their current partner will not try.
• To get revenge. A man will sometimes cheat if he finds out his partner was cheating on him. How else is he supposed to heal those hurt feelings of his but through good old fashioned sex?
• It’s new, different and exciting. Some men get tired of having steak for dinner every night and want to try a hamburger. The same goes for sex with a woman. That’s why men don’t necessarily always cheat with women who are more attractive than their partners.
• To see if they can get away with it. If a man has the attitude of “what she doesn’t know, won’t hurt her,” he may cheat to see if he is sneaky and smart enough to get away with it. However, with all the advancement in surveillance spy ware, getting caught has now become easier than ever.
• Because you have allowed it in the past. If you have forgiven a cheating man a couple of times, they are more than likely going to cheat again because they already know if they plead enough, you will forgive them.
Since you have written your case too briefly, I would rather have you choose among the above reasons why your boyfriend changed. Men change and women too. Men, like women, change for a variety of reasons. But what ever reasons there maybe, all is fair in love and war.
There are no rules or restrictions in these two endeavors. They are both things that bring the best and the worst out of people. They are both battles of the heart, and battles of the soul. "All is Fair in Love and War", they cannot be controlled, they cannot be contained.
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reader, theeSWEETESTthing  +, writes (16 January 2009):
 most guys like that are either afraid of commitment or juss enjoy the chase they arent jerks but they are the most annoying type of guy and arent worth any time at all if your interested in being in a relationship. . .as for how to spot them i couldnt tell you they're just as different as the stripes on a zebra
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