Is it OK to get back in contact with my ex - and offer to just be friends?
Q. I'm happy in my relationship now but miss my ex, as a person, not who I want to get back with. Is it OK to get back in contact to be friends or not? He's the only other person I've been in love with and after 3 years I still can't get him out of m...
A. 8 November 2015: It is because I saw him on a night out and he saw me and we didn't speak. We still live in the same town and now and again walk past eachother, I just wanted to say hi. I don't want to leave my current boyfriend as I love him so much and want to be ... (read in full...)
I am happy with my boyfriend but my ex haunts my dreams.
Q. I'm happy in my relationship of a year and 3 months but I'm dreaming of my ex. We went through a lot of shit with his drug problem which eventually split us up although he told me he cheated on me in the past too. I was madly in love with him. He ...
A. 10 August 2013: I had a dream about him again last night. But I was with a man and a little girl I don't know but was supposed to be my partner and his daughter. He just showed up in a big car and his friend came and spoke to me but he kept in the background and we ... (read in full...)
How can we our first time spectacular?
Q. Okay, so early last year I was sexually assaulted by my boyfriend at the time. So that was my "first time" whether I liked it or not. Yeah, I know, how lovely. Anyway, I now have a new, wonderful boyfriend whome is a virgin and we're discuss...
A. 11 January 2012: WEll.. as long as you know you are both ready, go for it! As long as you are using protection. Dim-lighted room, candles, music etc. Talk about what you like and dislike, so when it comes down to it, it will be perfect.... (read in full...)
Is my mind playing a trick on me or am I becoming bisexual?!
Q. I'm a 17 year old male and I'm very interested in women. I don't want to kiss, have sex, a romantic and sexual relationship with someone the same sex. Sometimes when I look at another male, something in my head is telling me that I'm attracted to ...
A. 24 November 2011: It's only human to be attracted to someone of the same sex. It does not mean you are becoming bi-sexual. Most women will say for e.g. Angelina Jolie is hot, but it does not mean they want to kiss her. Just wait out and see if these feelings become ... (read in full...)
What criteria do I use to choose which guy? I like them both. They know each other.
Q. A few weeks ago i met a guy and we've been getting on well and he's been taking me out over the past few weeks and it's been nice and it's obvious he likes me but he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend (I know it's only been a few weeks so i guess ...
A. 12 September 2011: I don't want to hurt the first guys feelings coz we have had quite a few really great days out together but i don't know how he feels about me or if he was just taking me out to get to know me better then decide but we have kissed but no further.. I ... (read in full...)
We are all friends, but the girl I like, likes another girl, what should I do now?
Q. Hi. I'm a male who's turning 16 next month. To to the point now. First,I will need to tell you the story :). Alright. Sometime during the beginning of April I started hanging out with this girl and her friend. We've "known" each other since 8th ...
A. 7 July 2011: Aww you sound so sweet. I'm afraid if they like each other there is nothing you can do, i'm sure you wouldnt want to come between what they have. What you should do is tell the girl you like that you like her and see what happens. If it doesn't go t... (read in full...)
Is he actually into me or am I reading too much into this?
Q. I'm 18 and this guy is 20. Let's call him John. So, I've known him for about 7 months now and we talk every single day.. There's a few days where we don't talk but overall, were always conversing. I think that's cause we both have BlackBerries and...
A. 7 July 2011: It seems like he really likes you but im not sure in what way. If people are saying you both are flirting then it sounds like you both like eachother in the same kind of way. Just do what comes naturally and see what happens... You could go the next ... (read in full...)
Dating awkwardness
Q. hey, im going out with my boyf tomorow, just to the park. but Everytime we meet up its really awkward because i feel like im the only one making the effort to make conversation. I want to have normal convos and have a good time without the awkwardn...
A. 6 November 2010: try and keep convo going and ask open ended questions and when he answers back answer back with an answer and a question. Talk to him about things hes interested in. Try going somewhere that has alot more scenery so you can talk about that when ... (read in full...)
Am I eating off a used dish?
Q. well ive liked this sgirl for a long time,but she had a boyfreind. She just got dumped and i helped her feel better but then everyone just said i was "eating of a used dish" what should i do should i ask her out or not...
A. 6 November 2010: Just be there for her and maybe something will blossom in time. Don't let that comment deter you not everyone has only been with one person. ... (read in full...)
We had a great time but he doesn't keep in touch!
Q. hey i met this guy in leeds and im from london me and my mates went there for fun and we met these guys and i really hit of with one of them. i spent a week there and it was good and bad i really liked him and i assume he liked me back however so ...
A. 11 October 2010: Why are you asking us how we think he feels?? Go ahead and ask him yourself honey, tell him how you feel and say the distance doesn't bother you. He sounds like an amazing guy, don't let things fall to pieces. Hope things work out for the best :)... (read in full...)
We've been out twice, we talk everyday non-stop, but does he like me the way I like him?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am 18, and the guy i'm "seeing" is 20. We met through one of my friends at a birthday party and as we both have blackberries, we exchanged pins so that we could talk on blackberry messenger, as it is easier than texting and it's...
A. 11 October 2010: i feel he does have interest in you. When you say he hasn't mentioned meeting back up with you.. have you mentioned it to him...?? when a guy puts his arm round you at the cinema he is not thinking of you as a friend. Dont read too much into things, ... (read in full...)
Does she have the same feelings?
Q. does she feel the same way i feel ? this girl and me are staring at each other quite for a while,at first i was,not interested in her even after being attracted to her,i ignored her as she is much younger than me,but after few days she didn't ...
A. 24 August 2010: It does sound like she is interested but seeing as though you think she is too young for you she may think you are too old for her possibly?? If you are not sure if she will talk to you.. you could just say 'hello' and see if she responds to that. ... (read in full...)
Why can't he see how much I miss him?
Q. Okay so I went out with this boy and then I broke up with him and I spent my whole time regretting it.. and then a year later we started texting again,he was like my best friend and then after a few months we started scoring and stuff..and we even ...
A. 18 August 2010: You cannot make him see how much you miss him. You need to tell him again and again. Tell him what you want and he may realise he feels the same. If he doesn't want to be with you then you need to try your hardest to forget him and move on. He is ... (read in full...)
She has a Boyfriend, but I can't stop thinking about her!!
Q. I have liked this girl for a while and she has a boyfriend and the other day she came to a party at my place on a Sat. At the end of the night we got together and on the Monday she said that it was a mistake and she just wanted to forget it. i felt ...
A. 17 August 2010: You have to leave her alone i'm afraid. She has realised it was a mistake and doesn't want to know anymore so try to forget about her. It is normal after being with someone one night and then can't stop thinking about them all the time but you soon ... (read in full...)
How can I be the person he wants me to be?
Q. i've been going out with my boyfriend for 2years and 6 months and i've always been the one who needs all the attention or basically always is the one that needs it. in the past me and my boyfriend have had problems with me being to needy and we ...
A. 17 August 2010: You cannot change yourself and shouldn't. It looks like he loves you too and is just getting sick of your calls. Why do you need to ring him so often? Can you not call a friend instead to help you sometimes? (but don't start bombarding them with ... (read in full...)
If he didnt care about me surely he would stop looking at me?
Q. right well, me, my bestfriend, and two boys who we liked snuck out at 2o'clock in the mornin together. me and the boy i liked went on are own and left my bestfriend and the other boy. we just sat there and we kissed a couple of times and we lay ...
A. 17 August 2010: He knows that you still like him and he is trying to make you feel bad because he knows that you will feel jealous when you see him with another girl. You are too young to deal with this sort of stuff so best be on your way. but please dont go into ... (read in full...)
My ex acts like she still wants to be friends but others say she doesn't
Q. Just a quick one. My ex and i were on good terms for about 3 months after we broke up, then my ex called me one day to tell me she was in a new relationship. Well, then her best friend (who didnt like me since i broke up with her) started kinda ge...
A. 15 August 2010: You seem like a very mature guy. Sounds like alot of things have been said behind your back in a very immature way but sounds like she still wants to know you maybe just as a friend. You know you can't do that if there are a countless number of ... (read in full...)
Is she trying to set me up with this guy?
Q. Hi. I'm not sure if my friend is trying to set me up with this guy or not, lol, although she said she isnt, and i'm not sure how to respond to this email she sent to me today. She said " I will let you know about going to the cinema, i am seeing ...
A. 15 August 2010: I think she is trying to set you two up but in a good way. This guy is probably thinking the same as you. Shes probably told him lots about you and he has liked what she has said so is wanting to meet up. Tell her that you will meet up with him only ... (read in full...)
I need advice guys, I don't know what to do. Am I wasting my time on him?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are both 23. We met each other about 5 years ago. After a year of friendship (maybe not really friendship, we had a lot of common friends so we met often at parties) we started a relationship. He was my first boyfriend and I was ...
A. 15 August 2010: You love him and he loves you it seems. Shouldn't that be all that matters? You are old enough to make your own decisions and so is he, i am 21 and i know that and so do my parents. Both of your parents can give advice but they can't make you do the ... (read in full...)
I need to avoid him and get over him... but how?
Q. Help! I like this guy up my street and felt like he didn't have any intrest in me, and my friend got tired of seeing me upset because I was sad about it and went and told him I liked him. She told me he said he had a girlfriend and that it was ...
A. 15 August 2010: When you like someone and don't know if they like you back the best thing to do is to tell them exactly how you feel yourself. That way it will make it easier to move on. If he knocks you back at least you will know that he doesn't like you. Living ... (read in full...)
I like him and we're meeting up! How can I suss out if he is interested in me too?
Q. Hey all, could anyone give me any advice on the signs to look out for that suggest a guy is interested in you as more than friends? I'm out of practice when it comes to dating. A guy at work who I'm friendly with has dropped me a few compliments ...
A. 15 August 2010: It does sound like he is interested in you!
Things to look out for:
-He smiles alot
-Eye contact
-Hand gestures
-His body is mirrored to yours
-He leans towards you when you are sitting next to eachother
-His head is tilted when he is listeni... (read in full...)
2 years later still thinking of ex girlfriend
Q. Im 19 years old !! I broke up with my girlfrnd 2years ago! We used to have sex regularly! Now, im single and i think about sex all da time! I cant stop thinking about sex! Most of da time i musterbate thinking her in my fantacy... I still love her!! ...
A. 15 August 2010: You need to tell her how much you still love her! If she doesn't feel the same, try to move on and find another nice girl... (read in full...)
Am I just blinded by love?
Q. A few months ago, an old boyfriend came back into my life. I have known this man for 22 years. We've dated off and on, but not seriously. Before I had other relationships while dating him. I never had sex with him until recently. Now, I'm ...
A. 15 August 2010: I feel that with you dating him on and off he feels he can do that whenever he likes now. He sounds like a user and is definitely not over his ex because he's blurting all this stuff out about them. He hasn't bought you anything nice! If he truly ... (read in full...)
He's 17, I'm 13, he wants sex but I think I'm too young!
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm gay and in my first relationship he's kind and he's everything I want in a man but since he's 17 and I'm 13 it's quite strange but it's both of our first relationship he wants to have sexual relations but I think I might be too you...
A. 15 August 2010: Yes you are definately too young! Don't let him pressure you into anything. He is also too old for you. You are way too young for anything this serious you are just a child. No matter your feelings towards him he shouldn't force you into anything, ... (read in full...)
What are the chances that my ex will realize he made a mistake of giving up on us so soon?
Q. My ex boyfriend broke up with me three days ago. This was my first break up and my first relationship. And while it lasted only two months, he was my first kiss and I did lose my virginity to him. Everything happened to fast and it was too rushed. ...
A. 6 August 2010: I'm kind of in the same predicament as you and the advice i was given was to let go. You may keep looking back on what you had with him and be upset but you can still move on eventually.. I am now great friends with the guy i lost my virginity to so ... (read in full...)
He wants to know how to get my trust back
Q. i'm 16 and my boyfriend is 17 and he lives like 1 and a half hours from me. i have met him a couple of times since we started going out but we cant now because neither of us has any money so we have wait till one of us gets some. when we first ...
A. 6 August 2010: i have had a relationship like this and they have never worked out. You are quite young. What exactly do you want out of a relationship and can he provide this? Ask him house he feels about the distance and if he thinks it can carry on. I would just ... (read in full...)
20 And never had a boyfriend
Q. Okay so i'm 20 and i've never had a boyfriend. By this i mean i've never gone on a date,no guys have ever asked me out, and i've never even held hands with a guy before. Personally i think i'm not too bad looking. I'm tall and skinny and i have a ...
A. 5 August 2010: I had my first boyfriend at 18 so nothing to worry. I thought no boy would be interested in me then suddenly he came along. If there is that certain person that takes your fancy just keep walking past and saying 'hello' then after so long 'hello how ... (read in full...)
Can this relationship work? We are about to meet for the first time and I need advice!
Q. hi, i just started to fall in love with a girl over the phone. it started when she buzzed my number..i ignored it..she then phoned me ...couldnt answer...*missed call* however..i contacted her..we talked for an hour...she sounds calm and loving on ...
A. 5 August 2010: I think you should meet up, whats the harm? Hang out as friends and get to know eachother first. There is 7 years between me and my boyfriend. With her only being 17 though you may have trouble with the parents if they find out. She may sound nice ... (read in full...)
Do I dream of him because he is on my mind so much?
Q. Hey. I've fancied someone for a while now and I've been having lots of dreams about him because of this. I know this is normal because I think about him so much during the day. He (apparently) seems likes me too and it's become obvious to others ...
A. 5 August 2010: I agree. You're getting so close to kissing him in your dream then not because you actually haven't in real life yet. If you both obviously like eachother then ask him out he won't say no so nothing to worry about :)... (read in full...)
Adding strangers on msn - what should I say to him?
Q. so i added this one guy that i think is really cute on msn , he doesn't know me , i don't know him him ... YET ! what can i say to him ? if he says "do i know you ?" what can i say back ? ...
A. 5 August 2010: I'm sure lots of people have done this, including me. One thing you shouldn't do is meet up with him on your own no matter what. Where does he say he is from? If he's about your age and from your area i don't see the harm in a meeting but still not ... (read in full...)
How can I prove to her that I can be friendly and extroverted?
Q. Ok, in a nut shell, my girlfriend broke up with me and went to study abroad. On her return i went to her and told her how much i loved her and how i really felt. She had it in her mind that she was going to say no but now she is unsure. She still ...
A. 5 August 2010: Ask her for a chance to prove yourself to her. Maybe you could get her to meet up with you and a couple of her friends and a couple of your friends and have a little social gathering then you can show her that you truly are an outgoing person. Take ... (read in full...)
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