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writes:i'm 16 and my boyfriend is 17 and he lives like 1 and a half hours from me. i have met him a couple of times since we started going out but we cant now because neither of us has any money so we have wait till one of us gets some. when we first started going out i trusted him 100% but he lied to me when he was texting and messaging other girls when he promised he wasnt so i broke up with him but we got back together 5 days later. i dont think he is still texting or messaging them anymore but i still dont trust him. he goes out with his mates like 4 times a week till like 11pm and i dont trust him and he knows. he keeps asking me if there is a way to get my trust back. is there anyway that he can get my trust back or that i can start to trust him again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you. i have just left him and ignored him even tho i have 167 messages in the last 24 hours form him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): It all depends on how much you like this guy.
There are a lot of things which make this relationship a hell of a lot of work. You have a long distance so you rarely meet, yet he manages to go out with his friends 4 times a week.
You've already broken up with him once too, over him going behind your back with other girls and lying about it.
There is no, one thing you can do to build up trust again, it takes time and effort, it can take a long time too.
You have to decide whether he's really worth all this work. If you want to stick with him then he has make sure he's open and honest with you about the things he's doing.
If I were in your situation though I'd move on. Lying is cheating in my book, especially when it concerns romancing others behind my back.
He made a promise to you and he broke it, I bet he 'promised' he'd never do it again too but you just can't be sure. Mistakes happen but a broken promise is not a mistake. To me a person is only as good as their word, if they break promises then they can't be trusted.
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reader, misspurple +, writes (6 August 2010):
i have had a relationship like this and they have never worked out. You are quite young. What exactly do you want out of a relationship and can he provide this? Ask him house he feels about the distance and if he thinks it can carry on. I would just be friends with him for now but thats my opinion. You may find someone else you like who lives closer and is really nice and you may miss out. :)
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