I just wanted to know how I keep it at the level of 'potential' girlfriend, without getting too close.
Q. Hi, I've met a lovely guy, and have been on a few dates as well as talking on the phone/online etc. He has been very open with me from the start that he isn't sure what he wants yet, We have both just come out of bad long term relationships. ...
A. 18 February 2009: Just tell him that you are interested but you are willing to give him a bit of space. Don't be always the first to make contact with him and see if he looks for you, but make sure you don't distance yourself too much or he'll thing you have gone off... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my friend's husband
Q. i am 30 in age and have a son of 7 years im a divorcee few months back came to my parents a friend of mine helped me in my establishment .she and her hubby made my standing .but somehow i started loving him she doesnt know but he is honest to her ...
A. 18 February 2009: You are wrong to love him! Have you thought about his wife and your friend who has been helping you? Does she deserve this? He is doing the decent thing, just leave him alone and find a man who's not attached.... (read in full...)
Do I tell her I love her or would this scare her off again?
Q. There is a very special girl in my life, yes we call each other a friend. We are practically a couple but the truth is we don't go out and she has said she's not looking for a boyfriend right now. We talk all the time, we have trust and are honest ...
A. 3 February 2009: I would tell her, you need to know if this is only ever going to be a friendship or if she feels more for you.
If she is not ready, ask her what should happen for her to be.
It is obvious that you love her to bits and are the one who is getti... (read in full...)
Help I'm in love with my cousin!!!!!!!!!!
Q. A few months ago I went out with my cousin but after 2 months we broke up. Later a friend and i talked about him and expressed how i still loved him. She went on to tell him and he was so angry we had an agument and we really hated each other...
A. 3 February 2009: Only you know the answer to this one: love can express itself in so many different ways...
Look in your heart and listen to it.
Good luck... (read in full...)
Pregnant and not feeling ANY effort on his part, help!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together about 2 years (in May). I am 4 1/2 months pregnant with his child. For the first part of our relationship he was an abusive alcoholic (up until he became sober 4 months ago). 3 times he destroyed my home, he ...
A. 3 February 2009: Leave him. Leave him before he's too late. Before he was an abusive alcoholic, now he's abusive and cruel as sober, which is worse.
He is living off you and your father and what kind of environment will your baby grow up in, if you stay with him... (read in full...)
Do I have any chance of reuiniting with him?
Q. I appreciate all the advice I can get and thank you all ahead of time fort reading and your thoughts. So me and the guy ill call him D had been together for just over three hours and it was amazing, we were so happy and had begun to seriously sta...
A. 3 February 2009: The only person who can answer your question is your ex.
Ask him directly and tell him all you said here, highlight the fact that you are seeing a counsellor and working on your issues and becoming a better person.
If he still isn't interested, ... (read in full...)
Do you think I should wait for her to come back from her year out and ask her out again?
Q. Hello, A year or so back I started university and made friends with one of the kindest and nicest looking girls I have met. We meet up every week to chat and frequently chat online too. In November I took her to the botanical gardens to tell ...
A. 3 February 2009: You sound like a really lovely guy and who knows it might work, she might come back and agree to date you.
But she said all she wants from you is friendship, so you might be in for a huge disappointment.
She might still see that guy or even... (read in full...)
Emotionally needy
Q. I’ve started to see this boy, its been about a month. He’s a kind-hearted, sweet and generous person. One of the best I’ve met on the gay scene, undoubtedly. He’s very close with his friends and they mean a lot to him and he spends a lot of time ...
A. 3 February 2009: You sound like you are not into him at all. All you say is how you are not ready, you want to see other ppl and you feel uncomfortable.
Do yourself and him a favour and break it off, you will end up cheating and breaking his heart and this woul... (read in full...)
I get guys but lately I've just been going after the ones that I know I can't have.. What is wrong with me cuz I'm a wreck right now?
Q. I'm just a mess.. me and my boyfriend broke up last week and I've been trying soo hard to get over him. I was in love with him and I got very weak but at times I was strong and I guess I'm over it. I hung out for the first time with this guy that ...
A. 2 February 2009: You only broke up with your ex a week ago, you are obviously very hurt, this is what is wrong with you.
I would give it a couple of weeks time at least before getting involved with anybody else but even then, you will be on the rebound.
If you ... (read in full...)
How can I get his bunny boiling ex to leave us alone?
Q. Ive been with my bf for over 3 months now and were still having problems with his ex. weve both spoke to her to tell her to back off, we were nice about it at first , because i could understand her being upset, but its getting ridiculous now , shes ...
A. 2 February 2009: It is not just your b/f problem cause she is actually saying she will hit you! You are the one receiving a physical threat by this girl. Be careful, some ppl only do stuff like that as a verbal threat, others proceed nwith the threats and usually ... (read in full...)
I can't tell him about my past... SHOULD I tell him? I don't know what to do for the best...
Q. Hi, I am in a moral dilemma. I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now and both of us love each other more than anything else and planning to get married. In fact, I never thought that I can love someone so selflessly before I met him....
A. 2 February 2009: If you tell him, you lose him, or chances are you will lose him. You say you regret your past, I think you have everything to lose telling him.
Keep it for yourself, you have nothing to be ashamed of cause you have not cheated on him, you are the ... (read in full...)
Am I a fool for waiting for her for so long already? How can I make this marriage work?
Q. hi I've been on here afew times...but deleted my account for various reasons.... I am in a very hard situation that I don't know what to do.... Basically, my wife (married for 5.5 years) took an amazing job back in her own country (12hrs fl...
A. 2 February 2009: Is this even close to being a marriage? You are far apart, she has no time to email you and goes to work when you are there for a short amount of time... She doesn't want to give you kids (nothing guarantee you that when she is 38 or 39 she will ... (read in full...)
If I talk to another guy on MSN, is this cheating?
Q. okay, so i have been goin' out with my guy for ages now, and i'm in a secret and luving relationship. about 5 days ago, a lad added me on msn, and we started talking all he does is shower me with compliments, but everytime he talks to me, afterward...
A. 2 February 2009: Imagine for a moment reversed roles: if it was your b/f talking to a girl on msn the same way you talk to this guy, how would you feel? Would you think he is cheating or think it is a bit of harmless fun? The answer to this will tell you what to ... (read in full...)
Help me, I'm in love with my friend, but I messed it up?
Q. I've liked this guy for about a month or two now. At first I tried to surpress my feelings but his name kept cropping up everywhere I looked. So I admitted to myself that I liked him. We'd just started to become friends at that time and we walked ...
A. 2 February 2009: Well, Luv, just take a couple of days to observe his behaviour and then try to talk to him about the way you feel but when his mates are not around. Maybe his mates have been teasing him and he feels self conscious when they are around.
He migh... (read in full...)
Should I accept my male friend (I'm bi) or live a lie with my fiancee?
Q. I am a 26 year old bi male, who has been in love with one of my male friends for 5 years. I was going to tell him a few times but I always thought he was straight. He has now told me that he fancies me and wants us to be together. I would have ...
A. 2 February 2009: Well, first of all you need to know what your true feelings really are. If you are not in love with her though, no matter how much control you have on yourself, you will end up making it worse and hurting her more in the long run. Please if you ... (read in full...)
I split with my cheating boyfriend, need some advice as I'm not feeling well!
Q. I split with my boyfriend of two and a half years, last week. The split was due to his cheating which happened on two occasions with different women. When we split he said that he was sorry and that it is his loss, and that he wishes we hadnt sp...
A. 2 February 2009: Sweetie, I really feel for you, I have been there too with with my ex hubby. Let me tell you something: you deserve and will have better. I know it sounds the classic answer and I didn't believe it when ppl said it to me 18 months ago, but it is ... (read in full...)
Should I assume its never going to happen, or should I wait a little longer?
Q. I've had an emontional relationship with a guy at work for nearly a year. We've never been too physical with each other because I was married and he had a gf. We've been good friends for almost tow years. But within the last year things have been ...
A. 31 January 2009: You should wait a little longer, deal with your divorce first and then worry about the new relationship. Don't make your divorce more messy then it is getting somebody else involved.
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How on earth do I get back in contact???
Q. I'm kicking myself at the moment. I have been on a four day training course, where I meet a lovely guy, we exchanged the odd word here and there but I was too shy to start a conversation as I would have got tongue tied. I often caught him glancing ...
A. 30 January 2009: Can you go back to the company who organized the training and either get an email address for him or ask them to pass on a message to him on your behalf? The name and country should certainly be enough... Cannot think of any other way...Good luck... (read in full...)
He's Just not that into me . . . and we're married! What should I do?
Q. My husband has made it clear that he's just not that into me anymore. What should I do? Should I get a separation or more drastically, ask for a divorce? I still love him and want to work out our problems, but I'm at the end of my rope and don't k...
A. 30 January 2009: You said it many times: you need a break. I have been in a similar situation to yours, so I know how you feel. Only in my marriage ppl percive me as the pretty one and my ex hubby as the beast as you called yourself. First of all, do me a favour: ... (read in full...)
I don't want to fall for "him" all over again.
Q. I have this huge problem. 3 years ago I really fancied this guy in my year... it was my first crush and I was a bit obsessed, he was the best looking guy, really funny, like you know the type who aways shouts out jokes in class and all the guys are ...
A. 30 January 2009: We all have had a crush on a guy like your "bastards", we all are attracted to bad boys in a way or the other. Just see that for what it is: just a crush. Guys like him enjoy all the attention and love just one person: themselves. So, even if he ... (read in full...)
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