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writes:Hi,I've met a lovely guy, and have been on a few dates as well as talking on the phone/online etc. He has been very open with me from the start that he isn't sure what he wants yet, We have both just come out of bad long term relationships.He says he likes me but he cant be sure whether the relationship would be just because he's on the 'rebound' or not and he doesn't want to 'commit' only to find that a few weeks down the line he doesn't feel comfortable and then hurt me. He says he is very confused at the minute and spends 50% of the time tihnking i want to go out with her and 50% saying I should still be single for a bit longerSoo..I just wanted to know how I keep it at the level of 'potential' girlfriend, without getting too close so if he does turn round and say just friends I won't get hurt.. but also being close enough to let him know im interested still. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Mels :)
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reader, Mels  +, writes (18 February 2009):
Just tell him that you are interested but you are willing to give him a bit of space.Don't be always the first to make contact with him and see if he looks for you, but make sure you don't distance yourself too much or he'll thing you have gone off him.It may take him a couple of months to sort himself out, if after that long he still isn't sure, I would give up.There is no guarantee you won't get hurt, just be careful and the only thing you can do is to try and keep your options open, till he has made up his mind.Good luck
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