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writes:I'm just a mess.. me and my boyfriend broke up last week and I've been trying soo hard to get over him. I was in love with him and I got very weak but at times I was strong and I guess I'm over it. I hung out for the first time with this guy that I've always been attracted to. I know all he wants and I didn't do it but I know I want to and it's probably gonna happen but we're gonna be friends. I'm fine with that, well no I'm really not but if that's how it's gotta be then I guess it's fine and I've been talknig to other older guys too. like I don't know what is wrong with me. I just have no confidence any more and it's like I just don't care any more. I feel so depressed and weak and it's just like whatever.. I mean I get guys but lately I've just been going after the ones that I know I can't have.. What is wrong with me cuz I'm a wreck right now? thanks xx
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (2 February 2009):
 he's no good for you if he wants to use you for sex! if you need more out of a relationship then stand strong! dont be used for sex, you will regret it! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsee i want more with this guy but all he wants is sex and to be friends.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (2 February 2009):
right now you have to sort your frame of mind out before you start thinking about boys! i'm sure you felt what was similar to love with your ex but believe me,so does everyone at your age. i had my first serious boyfriend at your age and i thought i loved him too, i was heartbroken when we broke up but gradually time heals.you need to concentrate on making yourself feel great, write a list of things you have been complimented on, things you like about yourself, you'll feel better in no time. leave these good for nothing boys alone, when the time is right you'll find someone even better tan your ex, i went through he same situation and i've been with my current boyfriend for to years, i got with him when i started thinking of myself. good luck.xx
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reader, Mels  +, writes (2 February 2009):
You only broke up with your ex a week ago, you are obviously very hurt, this is what is wrong with you.
I would give it a couple of weeks time at least before getting involved with anybody else but even then, you will be on the rebound.
If you truely want just sex nothing wrong with it, but as you know you really would want more, be careful notto get more hurt or not to hur somebody, which is what is likely to happen having rebound sex.
You said you are a wreck, give yourself time and focus on yourself as a person, and get your friends to be near you and to help you through this tough phase.
Once you have found yourself again, you'll be in a better position to pick the right guys and get involved at the level you want and not fooling yourself that no string attached sex is what you want when it clearly isn't.
Best of luck
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