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... Send *elsey18 a private message | | | *elsey18's profile:First things first i'm 18..Sounds young,perhaps too young to be giving others advice? Others with probably far more life experience than myself. So i'm a young girl with not much life experience and the truth is i have'nt been in any particually long serious relationships simply because i'm afraid of getting hurt,sounds like this girl has some trust issues i hear you say... well you could'nt be more right. I may not have had many serious relationships but i no a lot of people who have and the problems and issues they've experienced...i've been that shoulder to cry on when they've been hurt.
I've also grown up in a household with difficult relationships so i do know a little bit. I try to give advice to the best of my ability. however you could say that i slightly contradict myself wen giving advice,seeing as i don't take my own. I make the same mistakes as the people i lecture and moan at for sticking around in these pointless attatchments with people who don't deserve to be with anyone.
However this does not make any of my advice wrong or pointless, everyone has different opinions on how people should deal with problems, i'm simply giving mine. And i just hope that it is decent enough to at least shed some light on a difficult situation for somebody. x |
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I really would like to emigrate while I'm still young but I don't know how?
Q. Not a relationship question..I'm 18 i've lost contact with everyone from school and college, so my best friend is the only person ive really stayed in contact with,my job is boring, i can't find a decent guy where i live, there's not a lot to do ...
A. 17 February 2010: do you hve any idea how i could get a work permit and a social security number? i know i have to go to the american embassy to get a work permit. I really do need to do more research on this. thanks again x... (read in full...)
I really would like to emigrate while I'm still young but I don't know how?
Q. Not a relationship question..I'm 18 i've lost contact with everyone from school and college, so my best friend is the only person ive really stayed in contact with,my job is boring, i can't find a decent guy where i live, there's not a lot to do ...
A. 17 February 2010: I was thinking of saving up going over there then try and get a job once i'm there. Is that not possible? And should i be goin got american embassy is there anyone like any companies that can help me in arranging this? Many thanks x... (read in full...)
I've got to wait 2 months to make out with her, how do I clear my mind as this is torture for me!
Q. A girl i like i teased and promised i would kiss/make out with her on near her bday. Well im liking the idea and its as much torture for me as for her, what do i do to clear my mind for 2 months?...
A. 17 February 2010: Drop the idea. Its never gona last two months if you erally wana kiss eachother that badly. x... (read in full...)
Is there any way to make giving head easier?
Q. I need some input from the more experienced. Well I've been with my boyfriend for about four months now and I love him very much. We waited two months to have sex, I am 17, and he's 18. {Trust me two months is a long time for people our age n...
A. 17 February 2010: I've never given head i know how too but i've never done it properly. Its been a personal choice ive only ever been 'seeing' people and i'd only be up for giving a blow job if i was in love with somebody and in a relationship with that person. I ... (read in full...)
Will he please me or keep teasing me?
Q. I'm having an affair with a man who's been married for 16yrs. I'm not proud of it but, I can't stop myself.. I get near him and I'm instantly heating up and wanting him more and more. We have had 8 encounters set with his boundaries,he won't put ...
A. 17 February 2010: I think you should have some consideration for his wife, how would you feel if that was your husand? i could understand if you were in love with him, but your not you just want sex. go get that from someone else without any attatchments. and as far ... (read in full...)
Do any other girls out there withold sex from their partners when they have done something wrong?
Q. Please Help .... I have a problem . When my boyfriend does something wrong , like out late with his mates , or comes home intoxicated , I without Sex for a period of time . I tell him the set penalty time and he signs a form ..eg : 1 week , 1 ...
A. 17 February 2010: Your not being a complete bitch,just maybe taking it a bit too far, you set penalty times where he is also not aloud to masturbate? Oh dear to be honest your lucky hes still around! i don't know many men that would EVER put up with this. I like to ... (read in full...)
I really would like to emigrate while I'm still young but I don't know how?
Q. Not a relationship question..I'm 18 i've lost contact with everyone from school and college, so my best friend is the only person ive really stayed in contact with,my job is boring, i can't find a decent guy where i live, there's not a lot to do ...
A. 17 February 2010: Thanks everyone for the input so far.
Basically i went to college to retake a few GCSE'S i now have 9. I don't know what you call GCSE'S in america but over here there like the final exams you take before you finish school i have them in engl... (read in full...)
My boyfriend attended a "filthy" lap dancing club..and had a dance!
Q. Hi everyone ... Please read my story , because I just dont know what to do and Im constantly privately in tears . I found out by pressuring one of the guys ( and thats a story in itself ) That my b/f of 3 1/2 years attended a " filthy " lap d...
A. 16 February 2010: i wouldnt be happy. if i were you i'd see what he had to say for himself. He knew you wouldnt be happy with him doing something like that but it didnt stop him-bare that in mind. But first things first make sure this friend of his is telling the ... (read in full...)
I really think that I could fall for this guy. Problem is that he's not sure what he wants!
Q. So I'm separated from my husband. We still get along, we just realize it isn't going to work. I have this male friend who I've gotten close to since. We live in separate states, I've visited him and he's visited me. We talk all the time, he calls me ...
A. 16 February 2010: Try not to think about if your going to fall for him or not and just go with the flow. its early days he doesnt want to rush into anything. Don't get him worried and scare him away by asking any big questions about relationships and stuff. Just get ... (read in full...)
Why does he hate me when I love him?
Q. My boyfriend says he loves me but I'm sure he hates me :(. He loses his temper over the smallest things, and tells me I'm shit, worthless and don't care about anything. Sometimes he gets violent as well. For example he's always pressuring me to ...
A. 16 February 2010: You need to build up your confidence and stand up to him! this doesnt sound like a healthy relationship it almost sounds as if hes bullying you. Seriously stand to him and give that bully the shock of his life! Then find a new boyfriend one that ... (read in full...)
Male input would be useful. What makes the perfect woman?
Q. Not really a question. More of an investigation,just wondering what makes the perfect woman-not just looks wise but taking that into consideration. Please and thankyou :).. xx...
A. 16 February 2010: Hmm interesting,thanks for the feedback x... (read in full...)
Why don't girls put effort into relationships?
Q. My girlfriend is just not putting forth effort into our relationship. She wants me doing all this shit and I get nothing back in return. I even tried telling her nice things all the time and loving on her but I got nothing back in return. I want to ...
A. 15 February 2010: Hmm, in what ways does she not make effort? She doesnt make time for you? doesnt return your calls? doesnt make effort in bed? x... (read in full...)
Best friend always tries to steal my boyfriends!
Q. Right, there is this boy I really like so I am trying to get with him. Bit every time I turn round my BEST friend is flirting with him, and she knows I like him. How can I tell her nicely to back pod? And why is she doing this, she does it with ...
A. 15 February 2010: Shes not a real friend in my opinion. kind of convenient how she does it to every boy YOU try to get with isnt it? does she do it to any of your other friends? if its just the guys that you like that she targets then theres a problem with your ... (read in full...)
MY boyfriend is telling his ex he loves her!!!!
Q. Hmm, me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while now and we've done everything. However, i went through his chat logs today and i saw that he's telling his ex that he loves her and she is saying the same back (even though she has a boyfriend ...
A. 15 February 2010: Your young and if your boyfriend is the same age as you then your a very young couple growing up going into adulthood experiencing different emotions day by day. Growing up is difficult the two of you are going through puberty at the moment, your ... (read in full...)
Would it be smart for both of us to get an HIV test done even though we both have no sexual history?
Q. Hello, my boyfriend and I are both virgins. We've been together for about four years now and we feel ready to lose it to one another. Would it be smart for both of us to get an HIV test done even though we both have no sexual history? Or am I just ...
A. 15 February 2010: If neither of you have no sexual history what so ever then wats the point? Just make sure hes telling you the truth! And there are other stds other than just aids so if you do ever decide to get tested make sure you check for those ... (read in full...)
Why would my boyfriend not respond to this letter?
Q. One day I was very angry at my boyfriend and told him to have a good life, after that I wrote him a letter explaining why I was upset, since then I have not heard anything from him :( Below is what I wrote, please help me explain why he would no...
A. 15 February 2010: Not worth the time. If the guys not making the effort then he doesnt care, no matter how many excuses he makes-he doesnt care. Find somebody who deserves you, your obviously the kind of person who puts her all into a relationship and really does ... (read in full...)
Does the hurt and pain EVER go away or at least ease?
Q. It's me again, Well we went out for valentines dinner on Saturday night and it had to happen. I mentioned I suppose I'd be getting a poxy bunch of flowers as usual rather than a heart necklace (like he bought 9 years ago for some woman he got clo...
A. 15 February 2010: Put the past behind you,and if you can't then move on and attempt to find somebody else. But if you do stick around.. you really need to stop being as hard on him x... (read in full...)
I really want a baby, but I am confused at the whole situation.
Q. Hi I'm 19, I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months now never been happier and I know he's the one he is a few more years older then me. I've always wanted a baby. Last week I had a scare, told my boyfriend and he said if you are it's good news ...
A. 15 February 2010: Sounds like you both like the idea. your both ready. maybe you too should start considering trying for a baby? However its best to bring a baby into the world knowing that you have the TIME to take care of the little one and also that your ... (read in full...)
Boys and sex. What is it these days?
Q. Why are boys SOO obsessive about sex? It's like a must have for them! I have been asked for it a couple of times, but I'm only 13. Im definitely not having sex until I'm at least 17 and I when I've found someone I love and trust to loose my ...
A. 15 February 2010: I think your doing the right thing,and thinking with the right attitude! your quite mature for your age.
these days young girls throw away there virginity at the first chance they get. When i was at school you were seen as a 'loser' if you were... (read in full...)
Should I replace my ex-boyfriend's jacket?
Q. Should I replace my ex-boyfriend's a jacket that I distroyed? I had it in my possession when he broke up with me. I was angry at the time and damaged it. ...
A. 15 February 2010: It depends why he broke up with you was it your fault? did you cheat on him or something? if he broke up with you after coming up with some pathetic excuse then don't bother. I put my ex bf's jogging bottoms in a recycling bin! and felt much better ... (read in full...)
He likes being sought after, but it frustrates me
Q. I had attention issues with my boyfriend from the time we started dating eight months ago. He was always too busy for me. I complained several times but he did nothing, and actually seemed to enjoy the chase. He would however treat me very well and ...
A. 15 February 2010: WALK AWAY! This happened to me for a year he was always too busy for me i used to beg aswell,it didnt matter how many times i spoke to him about it,nothing ever changed. Its not gona get any better. In the end i just figured if hes not spending time ... (read in full...)
Should I have said "I Love You"? I have not heard from him since and I'm worried I scared him away!
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a while now and we get along really well. I have very strong feelins for him and last night I told him that I loved him. I don't think that he could return the feelings. He told me that he loved me too, but I don't ...
A. 15 February 2010: I've been here before! very recently actually. i was seeing this guy for around a year and one night i was leaning on him resting my head on his chest, he was playing with my hair and i nearly blurted out 'i love you g****' then i stopped myself cos ... (read in full...)
I think I'm turning into a monster! Does my ex like my best friend?
Q. i feel really insecure, it doesnt help when my ex and best friend are together i get so jealous its with other girls as well, i no its bad and annoying i would invite her out feeling happy, then when i see them together i just would stay away. He ...
A. 15 February 2010: i understand. i've recently just split up with somebody, and i met him thru my best friend. They used to be very close but wen me and him got together they lost that closeneess, but now that we've split up that closeness between the two of them has ... (read in full...)
Who should I lose my virginity to...
Q. hi. im 13 14 on valentines day and im a virgin. i was going to lose my virginity to my ex. i loved him so much and i still do but i just wasn't working very well. i could only see him about 3 times a week so we finished last march. we were going ...
A. 14 February 2010: You really shouldnt be thinking about loosing your virginity,your 14! My little sister is 14 and if i found out she was sleeping with somebody i'd be very shocked and also a bit disgusted,shes still a child.
You should be at least 16 and loose it t... (read in full...)
I treat them so special yet they don't seem to see it. What am I doing wrong?
Q. it seems like every time I try to talk to a girl they are interested in me but then they always try to talk to other guys behind my back. I do everything for them but they don't seem to see it. after a certain stage in dating, I treat them like they ...
A. 14 February 2010: Either your attracting the wrong kind of women the kind that think its okay to date dozens of guys at once,that think thats fair (which it isnt) or your being to clingy. you say you do everything for them and you act like there the only girls in ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend flirts with all my friends, what should I take it as?
Q. Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been on and off for 9-10 months and he flirts with all of my friends. He knows I'm sorta pissed at him right now-but he doesn't know why. So he's trying to think of a way to make it up to me. I love him and care for ...
A. 14 February 2010: well first of all,9-10 months is very quick to be saying that you love somebody, and seeing as your so young could also be seen as not very convincing. I'm 18 and even i havent experienced REAL love yet. Love is a very misleading emotion it can be ... (read in full...)
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