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writes:One day I was very angry at my boyfriend and told him to have a good life, after that I wrote him a letter explaining why I was upset, since then I have not heard anything from him :(Below is what I wrote, please help me explain why he would not respond to me after this?"I guess my frustration has reached its peak. I finally realized I cannot handle a relationship that lacks so much communication between two people. I think my patience got lost in the river and I cannot continue to play this quiet game with you anymore. I suppose I am looking for a relationship where two people are willing to meet half way, learn from each other, talk to each other without hesitation, and develop something meaningful together.Relationship is a two way street. I can only give so much as a caring person, but if I don't feel the same vibe from you, I'd rather be alone than tackling something that is beyond my control.I just want to let you know that I do appreciate you, admire you, and like you for who you are, but apparently, surprise surprise we do have problems as a couple.Well, in the end, if you are really interested in me and really do care for me then you will help me to help us work things out, but if not then let's not continue this anymore." Reply to this Question
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reader, kelsey18  +, writes (15 February 2010):
 Not worth the time. If the guys not making the effort then he doesnt care, no matter how many excuses he makes-he doesnt care. Find somebody who deserves you, your obviously the kind of person who puts her all into a relationship and really does love quite well. You should be doing a lot better than you are at the moment. x
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reader, goodguy11 +, writes (15 February 2010):
Maybe he's thinking maybe he's not. But surely you want to find out what's going on. So give it a couple weeks and if he doesn't respond call him and ask him what's up. There's nothing wrong with your letter and you made your feelings perfectly clear to him. You want more communication in the relationship and you're looking for someone to grow with you as a person because people are constantly changing. If he doesn't pick up your calls then it's a clear sign that it's over and cannot fulfill your needs. Good luck to you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 February 2010):
I think he's made it clear by no response that he isn't interested in making it work. Which means he's Mr Right and that there is another guy out there somewhere. Find him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): How long ago did you send this letter to him? It might be that he needs time to think about what you said, and is mulling it all over. But if he you don't hear from him for quite a while, then it may be that he is assuming it is over, and isn't going to respond.
I think your letter was fine, you expressed your feelings to him. But maybe he doesn't know what to do next. He might even be wondering if you was trying to end things with him. However, I do think he would contact you to clarify things.
You could try calling him, and ask him what his thoughts are on what you said. You may be able to tell from his reaction what is going on. But if time goes on and there is still no response, then try and carry on with your life. I do recommend talking to him about this first, to try and find out what is going on. But if there is nothing from him...there is little else you can do. The ball is in his court now, so to speak. Good luck. x
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