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writes:Why are boys SOO obsessive about sex? It's like a must have for them! I have been asked for it a couple of times, but I'm only 13. Im definitely not having sex until I'm at least 17 and I when I've found someone I love and trust to loose my virginity with. What's the desperation when they have a whole life ahead of them to have sex! They are so confusing. Could I get both girls and boys point of view please. Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 February 2010):
 Guys think of sex every few minutes and whenever they are visually stimulated.
It is not that they want to think about sex every few minute,it is beyond their control.
They cannot stop those thoughts from entering their minds.
Another is their raging hormones which makes them horny...LOL!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): Boys want sex because they're made that way. Hormones. Biology. Reproduction.
Boys are so pushy because they shown repeatedly that it works. Most girls will complain about a pushy guy - but still do more sexual things with him than if he had been respectful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyouu everyone :Dx
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reader, kelsey18 +, writes (15 February 2010):
 I think your doing the right thing,and thinking with the right attitude! your quite mature for your age.
these days young girls throw away there virginity at the first chance they get. When i was at school you were seen as a 'loser' if you were still a virgin at the age of 16. But tbh your not really fully developed until your 18, your still growin your still a child! I lost it at the age of 16, i was waiting for the right guy to come along get into a lasting relationship and then have sex once we'd fallen in love. it was working up until one night... alcohol influenced me i'm not going to blame the whole incident on the alcohol because it was not that alone that was to blame. i was very silly i saw a boy i'd been talking to for a long time that night i went back to his and one thing lead to another. All that time i'd been saving it for someone special and i just blew it on one night. It took me a while to get over that because my virginity was sooo important to me.
Everyone has different opinions on when exactly is the best time to loose it. Some peole even wait until they get married and theres nothing rong with that. You should just wait until the time feels right and with somebody you care about who in turn cares about you. x
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (15 February 2010):
 It is brilliant that you are so clever at a young age and dont feel pressured into doing something you are not ready for! At 13 sex is not right your young and still developing, boys are affected by hormones and peer pressure people bragging about what they have done( moist of it untrue) and they feel they need to have sex to be involved, but any boy who asks you for sex at your age if not worth your time. again its great to know younger people have their heads screwed on. =] x
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reader, Faraday +, writes (15 February 2010):
 CG, you said it before me!
Yes, it's a rite of passage along with all of those things and it's happening at an ever earlier age.
I'm SO glad that you, the OP, have the sense to realise that sex isn't just a mechanical emotionless act but has a deeper meaning: good that you are waiting for emotional maturity, too.
The first time you do it should be special, especially for a woman: but it rarely is, as evidenced by many of the postings on here.
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reader, Vickidude  +, writes (15 February 2010):
 Wow , you are a really mature teenager , I didn't even know that teenagers like you even existed . I only knew about the specie of girls who got tricked easily by me lol . I am 17.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 February 2010):
It's plastered on TV, there's porn, older people are having it, hormones, peer pressure,, immaturity. The list is endless. Fortunately you've realized that it's best to wait until you've found a guy you#re happy with and who you love, so just take it slow and spend time finding the right guy. You are right, there is a lot of time.
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (15 February 2010):
 Hi there.
I like your attitude :)
The thing is with guys, is that when they're young they feel they have to have sex as soon as possible with as many girls as possible. They're not all like this but it can be a general trend for young guys to behave like this. Its to do with peer presure. If guys theyre age say they are having lots of sex, they feel that they should be too. That's why they try it on so much.
I think it is wrong though that guys are already asking you for sex when you are just 13 and way below the legal age. If they are a lot older than you stay well away. But this does happen, as some young people think it is a badge of honour to have sex as young as possible.
I'm glad to see that you have a mature attitude about this. You do have your whole life ahead of you to enjoy having sex. Never be pressured into having sex, you'll only regret it. Wait untill you meet someone you REALLY like and wait till you are comfortable together. It will be a much better experience than if you sleep with a randy 13-15 year old lad whos desperate to get laid. :)
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