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*ittleMissy
writes:My boyfriend says he loves me but I'm sure he hates me :(. He loses his temper over the smallest things, and tells me I'm shit, worthless and don't care about anything. Sometimes he gets violent as well. For example he's always pressuring me to loose weight, the other night we'd been out, he knew I had to get up early for work but didn't really care, I hadn't eaten anything all day, I wanted to eat before bed so I didn't feel as bad in the morning and he started shouting at me I never listen to him and how can he be with someone like me. He's always right, I'm always wrong and lying. His moods just flip. Also iv always been painfully shy, and he's really aggressive about it. Telling me I'm shit etc. Idk I'm so confused I love him so much, wouldn't change a thing about him, but I'm totally lost, I can't even walk without fear I'm doing it wrong and I'm gonna upset him... Iv lost myself :(
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reader, Xernyhs  +, writes (16 February 2010):
Normally I'd probably say, ditch him right away. But you said you wouldn't change a thing about him, so you like everything he does to you. If you love it and he doesn't think to leave you, maybe you have a strange and pretty negative relationship that somehow works for you. If you honestly wouldn't change anything about him, stay. Maybe he likes to have an ownership role and you like to be a pet.
However if you actually don't like it, leave! Even if just to make him feel like he misses you and will treat you better when you come back. But probably you should leave indefinitely.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 February 2010):
You're right. He doesn't love you at all. A man can be measured by his actions, and his actions say that he is a violent domestic abuser who takes pleasure in hurting you. Get away from him. You can find a much better guy elsewhere. If you love a man like this, then you need to spend time finding out who you are. Because no woman should be treated this way.
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reader, kelsey18 +, writes (16 February 2010):
 You need to build up your confidence and stand up to him! this doesnt sound like a healthy relationship it almost sounds as if hes bullying you. Seriously stand to him and give that bully the shock of his life! Then find a new boyfriend one that doesnt scare you half to death x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2010): You have to get out of this relationship. You've already lost yourself and he has taken over. He does not get to tell you when to eat or what to do. He's controlling and doesn't love you. He is confusing love with ownership.
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