Is it true that this could have made me pregnant?
Q. question..my bf and i had sex for the first time a week ago.we did use a condom but only after he had been rubbing himself against my clit.then i made him put a condom on straight away and we then had full sex.only now i've been told that i could ...
A. 23 July 2006: Yes, theoretically you can get pregnant if there was sperm on his penis while he was rubbing it on your clit. In practise, you'd have to be pretty unlucky for that to be the case. The only way to be sure is to go and get a pregnancy test, bite the ... (read in full...)
Seeing this great woman for 2 months but there's one problem---she smells! Any advice?
Q. Hi, I have been seeing this woman for the last two months. Things are pretty intense at the moment, so there is a lot of intimacy. Problem is, she smells. Any suggestions?...
A. 23 July 2006: There's not really an easy way to go about it - why not suggest a shower or a bath together before 'getting down to it' next time? Good luck....... (read in full...)
The guy I am dating is pressuring me for sex
Q. I had a first date with a guy I just met - we like each other and we have great chemistry. However I'm a 26 yr old virgin and he's not; he's said that sex is an important part of a relationship for him and would expect it if we dated. He has also...
A. 23 July 2006: Even if it works like he says, its a bit of a rush after a first date. While his point about how things will turn out, and whether you are 'the one' are valid in so far as they go, it does seem unreasonable to expect you to ditch your beliefs after ... (read in full...)
Shaving fantasy
Q. Why are guys so fascinated in women shaving? My boyfriend wants me to and he's given me a few reasons i just wondered if anyone could enlighten me further. thanks...
A. 19 May 2006: I agree with martini, but would add that it also makes oral sex much better too..... do you know how unsexy it is trying to get hairs out of your mouth without being noticed and without stopping? :)... (read in full...)
My guy won't let me go out with out him, what can I do? I feel trapped!
Q. Hi,i am in this 11months relationship with this guy, and he asked me for engagement after 6 months that we have been together. Now i am living with him in the counrty side, away from the city and away from all my friends. He won't let me go out ...
A. 4 May 2006: I'm completely with the other answers here. Do you want to spend the rest of your life only doing what he permits you to do? How about the rest of your life paying for his ex-girlfriend's mistakes? No, it doesn't sound quite so enchanting phrased ... (read in full...)
Being without my Air Force guy is breaking my heart!!
Q. My boyfriend has been gone away at the Air Force for about two and a half weeks now, and I feel like I can't take the waiting anymore. It's making me crazy to be without him. Today I came home and I glanced at a picture of us I have hanging on my ...
A. 30 April 2006: Just a word of caution to all the advice. I was in the USAF stationed at Offutt AFB, and then in the British Merchant Navy, sailing all over the world. It is very easy when we are separated from loved ones to build in our minds an unrealistic ... (read in full...)
Engaged to marry in three weeks'... but I'm not in love with my fiancee and I AM in love with someone else
Q. I am due to get married in three weeks time to my partner of 4 years, but I have fallen in love with another woman who is my soulmate and who I feel for and care for so much. We have known each other for 6 months and since then have been talking ...
A. 12 April 2006: Call off the wedding now. If you can't trust your fiance, and I mean really can't trust her, rather than using it as an excuse, then how long do you think your marriage will last? Yes, it will cause your fiance heartache, but you have to balance ... (read in full...)
Is it worth trying to be nice to my toxic friend?
Q. Should I stay friends with a girl who: - competes with everything about me and what I do - flirted with the guy I loved for 3years, JUST to piss me off (because I think she thought the guy she fancied, fancied me), and then the guy I loved to...
A. 2 April 2006: And you call someone who does all this to you a friend? What does someone have to do to you to be called an enemy? If there's no trust, then why do you bother? Tell her to get lost and move on.
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My married boyfriend is furious because a male workmate slept at my house! But nothing happened!
Q. Hi I have been seeing a married man I met at my old work now for three months now and have grown very attached. His relationship with his wife is over although they are still together for the sake of their 11 year old son. Trouble is I went...
A. 2 April 2006: It's not very equal, your relationship, is it? He still lives and sleeps with his wife, but complains when you choose to have someone stay over, whether anything happened or not. There's nothing like having your cake and eating it, is there?
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Is his pattern of drinking a red flag?
Q. After the end of a long relationship I am dating again but I am beginning to notice a pattern with a man I have seen a few times. It seems that if we go on a date on a Friday night, he has to drink and he has to get drunk. I enjoy going to a bar as...
A. 2 April 2006: For many people, going out and getting drunk on a Friday night is a matter of routine as much as brushing your teeth in the morning or having a bath - I say this not in approval, but as a statement of realism!. I'd say the Friday night aspect isn't ... (read in full...)
I can't decide what I should really do with my bf, can you help?
Q. Hello - I really need some advice. Ok. I've been dating my current boyfriend for almost 7 years. I thought things were going okay - we were saving up to move out together and I really thought we were meant to be. Anyway, he then went and bought an ...
A. 18 March 2006: If he just went to the States with no discussion and no input from you, then I'd say there's something seriously wrong here, and the same applies to the purchase of the investment property. I'm not clear from your message whether you live together ... (read in full...)
Is this age-gap relationship normal? Or freaky?
Q. Is this a normal situation to be in for a 19 year old? I'm 19 years old and I am seeing an older guy who is 41... I know this can't go anywhere because of the age gap being so large(right?) but I dont know what to do I feel trapped. It depr...
A. 16 March 2006: I agree with hopeful. It sounds from your choice of words that you've already written off this relationship regardless of the age gap. If he was 19 too, and you resented him and felt trapped and depressed by how things were going, you'd leave, ... (read in full...)
I looked through his phone and through the garbage... and I know for a FACT he was ringing escorts! I just can't trust him...
Q. my bf and i been together for 1 year and 2 month but we knew each other long before. We live in different state; but I have managed to go see him at least twice a month, sometimes I’ve even stated for a whole week. I’ve gone through a lot, since ...
A. 13 March 2006: I agree with most of what's already written. Where's the question? Unless you want to spend the rest of your life with him making a fool of you, get rid of him now. There's no other way!... (read in full...)
Is a "break" sometimes a "break-up"?
Q. does a break mean a break up?...
A. 13 March 2006: It all depends on th circumstances, which are a touch difficult to tell from your question! Broadly, I'd say yes. ... (read in full...)
Am I reading more into his messages than is there... or is he interested?
Q. A guy that I had been good friends with had to move for a job. Well he finally got his internet hooked up and we have been MSN messengering each other. I think from what he has been writing that he is interested in me as more than a friend. These ...
A. 12 March 2006: There is always a temptation with on-line friends to say more than one intends when writing, and to see more than was intended when reading. It may be that he's missing home, and you are a familiar and comforting link to his 'old life'. You already ... (read in full...)
Don't want to tell my boyfriend about my depression and counselling sessions in case he thinks I'm a basket case!
Q. Hi, I am afraid of talking with my bf about my problems. I was treated for depression last year and saw a psychologist for a period of time and actually did take an anti-depressant for some time afterwards, which I ahven't told my bf about because I ...
A. 12 March 2006: I suppose the first question must be whether he knows about the abusive relationship and its effect on you? If he does, then the idea that you need help with its longer term effects may not be the shock you anticipate. If he doesn't, then I'd have ... (read in full...)
We broke up, but I can't deal with this ending after 3 years
Q. My g/f of 3 years broke it off about a month ago b/c she said she was uphappy...like everyone else here, she said she loves me, wants things to work, ect..but is not ready for the relationship we had..we went back and forth talking for a few ...
A. 9 March 2006: If you've been together for 3 years, then I guess she was 18/19 when your relationship began. I always hesitate to use 'when I....' as part of an answer, but I met my first wife when she was 17 and I was 25. By the time she was 25 and I was 33, one ... (read in full...)
Me and my friend get on really well but then she dissappears for days at a time. Does she want more despite the age gap?
Q. As a 40 year old guy, I should be able to figure out the answer myself, but I can't, so I'm hoping someone will have a (polite) suggestion or two as to what to do. There's a girl I've known for some time, who recently I've seen rather a lot more...
A. 25 February 2006: Hi smeedle, Thanks for your advice - I wasn't registered when I posted the question. I don't think there's anything sinister or underhand about where she goes: she has her own life and friends. I guess your answer was what I knew all along... (read in full...)
We are both haunted by each others past. What can we do??
Q. We dicussed our past sexual relationships because my wife needed to know because she didnt want to be the one to find out something about me from another person. She hates to think I am keeping something from her even though she hates to hear it. I ...
A. 25 February 2006: And if you drag all the details of each other's past sex lives out into the open, what will you solve? You're neither of you kids, and nor are you virgins either. It's hardly a surprise that you've both got a sexual history, but that's what it i... (read in full...)
My ex has swept me off my feet and everything is wonderful but I am scared he will find something missing!
Q. I have been seeing my first love again after many years. He is sweeping me off my feet but I can not believe it is true. His first wife was beautiful and I am attractive. I know I am funny and he thinks interestingly wacky, so I can get away with ...
A. 25 February 2006: In all of your question, you don't say once that you love him. Do you, or are you just being 'swept off your feet' by the attention he is paying and the sacrifices he appears to be making? If you sit around all day with that feeling in the p... (read in full...)
Everytime we get close he pulls away. How do I keep him interested?
Q. I would like some advice on how to keep my boyfriend interested in me. Everytime i try to get close to him, he keeps pulling away, although you must know that he has a girlfriend....
A. 25 February 2006: Well, if he has a girlfriend, he won't get close, although you don't say what you mean by close: emotionally or sexually, or both? If you're just emotionally close, then it's clear he's made his choice if he pulls away when you try and move it on. ... (read in full...)
My online guy popped up after an absence, but all he wants to chat about is meeting up and sex!
Q. Hello, I am wondering what to do in this (long) situation I am currently in. I met this guy online a few months back. We talked maybe like five times a week for the first month, then after that it was like once a week (if that) and it was real ...
A. 25 February 2006: If you're not ready for sex with him, then don't meet him, its as simple as that. His intentions are pretty clear, and the result of any meeting is likely to be an at best awkward situation. You don't know him, and you shouldn't try to fool yourself ... (read in full...)
He talks about marriage, but after more than six years, it's gone nowhere!
Q. Help This is my first time posting. I need help, I just don't know what to do anymore. Here it goes. I have been with my boyfriend for years and he proposed to me when I was pregnant with our daughter who is 5 now (engaged 5 years and been togethe...
A. 25 February 2006: If he's a good partner and a good father, and your relationship is secure as it is, I have difficulty seeing what the point of an ultimatum is. I guess from what you write that you live together as man and wife, and so if you start laying down ... (read in full...)
I wasn't the one she saw herself in the future, so she broke up with me..
Q. Mt girlfriend recently left me, because ( Well what she thinks ) she didn't see me being the guy she saw herself with in 10 years. You're not the person what I see myself in 10 years. and I quote "I'm deepy sorry to have to tell you that. But it's ...
A. 25 February 2006: Completely agree with the answer above. We've all been there, and the question is now, how much of a fool will you make of yourself chasing her around before you get the message? It's easy to say, but far harder to do, but you need to walk away, ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to his phone call with his ex?
Q. Hi, a week or so ago my boyfriend's ex rang him to find out how his interview went... when she rang he left the room to talk to her and an argument ensued. When he came back into the room I asked if he was ok and he responded saying "Nothing, it's ...
A. 22 February 2006: I hate to say it, but doesn't your reaction explain why he didn't tell you about the call? As a (twice separated) man, it was always a nightmare when the ex called when I was with my second partner. If I went out the room, it looked like I was ... (read in full...)
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