S there anything I can do to get my family and my sister-in-law's family to leave me alone about celebrating my birthday?
Q. My birthday is in about two months and this year, it is on a Friday. My family (parents, brother, sister-in-law and my sister-in-law's family) keeps on trying to talk me into having a get together at my parents place (they own a camp). The ...
A. 9 October 2020: Kindly tell them the BEST present they can give you is no celebration and if they are hell bent on giving a gift may I suggest making a donation in your name to a charity of your choice.... (read in full...)
What would you do if a video game or game on their phone came ahead of you in their lives?!?!?
Q. Well tomorrow is me and my guys 8 year dating anniversary. And I won’t lie, most of the relationship has been a very bumpy road. After he proposed to me is when he chose to go behind my back and start talking to other women and even sneaking out ...
A. 6 October 2020: 8 years, 8 long years you can't ever get back. This is more to do about you than it is him. Each and every time you accept his shitty behaviour you are endorsing it and that is NOT OK. We all deserve better from our partners and its perfectly ok to ... (read in full...)
How did you finally make the jump to get married? I'm terrified at the thought of it!
Q. Should I get married now or wait? My fiancé and I have been together for 5 years we’ve been granted since 6 months after we met. I waited all this time to get married because I felt though I said yes to marrying him I wanted more time to see how ...
A. 16 September 2020: When you're ready, you'll know. You will be ready ,willing and excited to do so. I don't think it is any easier than that really. ... (read in full...)
Why is my married boyfriend emotionally torturing me? He keeps leaving me and then coming back!
Q. Why would the married man I've been involved with keep leaving me and coming back? He left me in July and came back. He just left me again. He said he loves me and that's why he has to let me go. Cause he can't stand seeing me suffer cause I want ...
A. 16 September 2020: You are torturing yourself. People only get away with what YOU let them get away with. You can try sugarcoat it in as many different flavours to suit but you know this scenario and he are bitter right down the core. Do you not think you are worthy ... (read in full...)
I haven't had sex for 7 years so now I'm afraid to
Q. I am 58yrs and never had sex for 7 years Now I have boyfriend and I am scared because I don’t remember any thing ...
A. 16 August 2020: Try make light of it. Tell him it's been a while so steady on. ... (read in full...)
I am a deeply jealous and insecure women should I get professional help
Q. I have a beaufuial loving fiancee, but lately I have more insecurities in my mind . I just cant help but not feel good enough for my boyfriend . He does all the right things a boyfriend should we are allways together , laughing , being ourselves, ...
A. 3 August 2020: Yes you do need to sort your head out, this is way of thinking is just crippling to a relationship as well as your mental health. Zoosk issues aside this simply doesn't sound like a healthy relationship for either of you. Be kind to yourself, get ... (read in full...)
My husband said he would slap me if I did that again
Q. Please advise My husband and I went for a hike yesterday with hope we would be able to socially distance. We wore our masks of course. As he was studying the trail map another man (masked) came and stood next to him also wanting to look at the m...
A. 3 August 2020: Crazy times we are living in of late and understandably tensions are running high. From what you post, this IMO was nothing more that a knee jerk response to your knee jerk reaction. Your initial response to the situation could have ended with both ... (read in full...)
Is it ok for my girlfriends male colleague to stay over at her house?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship where my girlfriend lives in England and I'm in Wales. I haven't seen her since the end of March due to lockdown and even though things are now easing slightly regarding lockdown, the rules/guidance a...
A. 20 June 2020: Sorry but she is well old enough to know this just isn't a cool move and personally I don't think it is much to do about trust either, more about respect. I think you'd be hard pressed to have many disagree that loneliness, wine , a single younger ... (read in full...)
My wife says my vest is embarrassing.
Q. There's a TV show about a motorcycle club called Sons of anarchy. I bought a vest like the ones worn on the show by the actors. I have a motorcycle and I'm such a fan of that TV show. My wife says it would be embarrassing to wear it as people w...
A. 3 June 2020: Yar I kinda think it comes across as 'Biker wannabe' or 'Try hard'. Sorry but I think your wife has this one right
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I'm not happy with my girlfriend's appearance and lack of self care.
Q. If I’m not happy with my gfs appearance do I have another choice rather than leaving her? We were both in good shape when we got together few years ago but she is now borderline obese. Also our eating habits are opposite. She has this obsession w...
A. 3 June 2020: Don't blame you. If my partner were to do the same Id find them less attractive and because I loved them concerned for their health. It is what it is. I wouldn't want some fat slob humping and grinding on me. If that works for some people then cool ... (read in full...)
Did my husband have a secret conversation on Facebook Messenger?
Q. Greetings all. I am a first timer. I have found you due to sheer time online during coronavirus isolation. I'm glad I did! I hope you can help me in this situation I have found myself involved in. My husband's Messenger was left open. He must ha...
A. 3 June 2020: It's probably innocent, just poking around with gadgets. Not that Id be making a big deal of it -still I'd ask, tongue in cheek, if you had anything to be concerned about. It's not making accusations just making him aware that you're aware.
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Girlfriend refuses to discuss our relationship.
Q. My girlfriend got drunk one day after an argument. She met up with a friend and they took a guy back to her place. Her friend left but the guy stayed. The next day she said nothing happened and told me they were both naked in the bed. She also told ...
A. 21 May 2020: of course she's not open to discussing the relationship if that means her being truthful if asked about her actions. Knowing the ins and outs doesn't change the fact that she's done it and still does. Carrying on like an out of control school girl ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and have no breasts!
Q. I am 17 and have literally no breasts!!!! Most of the boys and girls who I'm friends with mock me about it and I'm the only one in my friend group who doesn't have a boyfriend. All my friend are like D cups or C cups and I'm barely an A cup. What ...
A. 14 May 2020: Like Aunty Bim Bim I just googled A size breasts pictures. Hun, I know we're two different people and Im not you but I have to say, I can't see what the problem is, visually that is, I think that size looks just as sexy and feminine as other cup ... (read in full...)
How do I move on from the fixation on my crush
Q. So I have a crush on a guy. We were meant to meet for a walk a two weeks ago but a misunderstanding/miscommunication happened and we didn't end up meeting. He asked if I could meet the following day but I said i was busy with clients. He has...
A. 14 May 2020: Sounds like he has retreated, perhaps he views what's happened as you not being interested or, like yourself, been unavailable for his own reasons. The way I see it, your in your 30's so grab life by the horns- take the plunge and ask him out again. ... (read in full...)
What are examples of someone being a co-pilot in a relationship?
Q. I have been torturing myself wondering why I was not good enough for my ex-boyfriend. He made a comment to me that will forever haunt me. He said I was never his "co-pilot" and that "I will never be what he wants me to be". I don't understand what ...
A. 10 May 2020: A co pilot meaning, you two never worked well together travelling on the same relationship goal path. You are far too harsh on yourself thinking you were not good enough for him. Its more of a case of just not being right for each other. Now you ... (read in full...)
I recognise the man on the dating site, and he is MARRIED!
Q. Dear Cupid. I'm on a dating site and have had a man message me saying "Hey how are you going :)" and "Your super cute, love to know more about yourself!? Feel free to ask me anything" Anyway, I Looked this guy up on facebook because I recogni...
A. 30 April 2020: Hang on, stop the bus. You can't just assume you know of his marital status from a FB picture. My partner and I separated coming up 18 months and he still has pictures and under relationship' its complicated'. Weird but thats for him to sort out. He ... (read in full...)
Lockdown is keeping me away from my mistress. Wife is boring but don't want to lose her while going after mistress
Q. My wife is wonderful. Good at saving money and gets me everything I need. But my mistress is kinky and she will do anything for me. She will wear kinky clothes and let's me do anything to her. She cries when I have to go home. Now it's lockdown an...
A. 27 April 2020: Sorry but I have to ask, does your wife allow you to have a mistress? Some wives/husbands love each other greatly but have an understanding due to different sexual appetit, they just don't want to hear about it. If your wife is not one of these type ... (read in full...)
I should be so happy that we are getting married but I'm not because he cheated on me 2 years ago and 'm worried he's still in contact with the woman
Q. Hi All- I'm in desperate need of relationship advice. I'm currently engaged to someone who I've been with for almost 10 years. We've been engaged for about 5 months. As with any relationship, things between my fiance and I haven't always been suns...
A. 22 April 2020: "I am so so terrified, embarrassed, ashamed to think of calling it off"
Don't be, this is HIS shame and embarrassment- not yours. Your gut is probably right, why would it not be? First he cheats and then lies to you again by breaking a promise to e... (read in full...)
S it possible for friend zoned relationships to turn romantic?
Q. Okay, weird question. I can't ask my friends so I am turning to dearcupid as usual. I have a female housemate who is a nudist, although she refers to herself as a naturist. What this means is she doesn't like to wear clothes. Yes I know it's weird! ...
A. 22 April 2020: Given the right environment and circumstance who says platonic relationships can't change into romantic. If she is genuine, her parading around naked is probably not from a sexual POV however, given you are not of the same mindset, she knows she's a ... (read in full...)
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