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writes:I am 17 and have literally no breasts!!!! Most of the boys and girls who I'm friends with mock me about it and I'm the only one in my friend group who doesn't have a boyfriend. All my friend are like D cups or C cups and I'm barely an A cup. What should I do, please give me some advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2020): I’m like you, except I would say I have super small micro breasts. Practically speaking, you have two choices: 1) accept who you are now to avoid a lifetime of unnecessary self loathing; or 2) save up and plan on having breast augmentation. Personally I think the best option is to accept who you are and embrace it.
Women come in all shapes and sizes. Find the clothes that fit your body type, love your body, and be confident. Focus on the things that you DO find atttactive about yourself and focus on that. I found clothes that fit my body type, I didn’t focus on my small breasts, I enjoyed life and had plenty boyfriends. Not every guy was attracted to me but it didn’t bother me since I wasn’t attracted to every guy. I’m now married and my husband doesn’t love me based on my breast size. I want you to believe that your ability to ultimately be happy is not based on the size of your breasts.M
This may seem random, but do you think Kiera Knightly is beautiful and attractive? I personally think yes. I recently saw the film Pride and Prejudice starring her (lots of tv during these times) and she did not look exactly well endowed in that film. Check it out. My point is you don’t need big breasts to succeed in life, be happy, have a wonderful loving partner.
As for your friends, friends shouldn’t be making you feel bad.. Rethink who your true friends are.
Please believe me, you must not judge YOURSELF based on your breast size and don’t allow others to either.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (15 May 2020):
 Let me be blunt...
Let's say you had double D breast, and a boyfrind. When it comes time to have sex...Would he being having sex with your breast? When it comes time to have babies...Are they born from your breast? So it does matter what size your breast are, because the real important body part you need, you already have.
Ask yourself this...would you make fun of the people in your group for having a very small penis? Or if one of them were missing an arm or leg? My point is...If you would not make fun of any of them for their issues, then why do you hang around them? If you won't do it to someone else, then you should not let others do it to you.
Real friends lift you up when you are feeling down. Your enemies act like friends, but bring you down even when you already on the floor.
Better to be wise and have a good heart, than big breast.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 May 2020):
 If you think it's your breast size that determine whether you have a BF or not, I think YOU need to rethink your life and reality.
If small breasted women never got BF or husband's... there wouldn't BE any small-breasted women.
Focus more on personality that your tits. Because your personality, sense of humor, kindness, smarts, focus and drive are a million times MORE important than your cup size.
So what do you do besides that? Find clothes that flatter your smaller frame. Just like women with no hips or bum have to forego certain fashion choices because they just don't HAVE that extra curviness, same goes for smaller breast-owners.
I was a A/small B before I had kids. But overall my frame was little, I was into sports so it was definitely an advantage for a long-distance runner to not have to worry about a larger chest.
Was I overlooked because I had smaller breasts? Maybe? I don't know. Never met a guy who said " I would never date a woman with small tits". And IF I had met such a guy... I would have said good for you, I would never date a guy who prefers bigger tits, because I don't have those!
I had a friend who was also on the smaller side and she had implants, that she had to have redone every 5 years (I think it is) and now at age 50 she had a double mastectomy's due to breast cancer. I had another friend in college who was a DDD and had hers made smaller to a B and she couldn't have been happier.
If you think the only thing a woman has going for her is the size of her breasts.... I feel kind of sorry for you and if you BUY into that stuff, even more so.
Love who you are.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (15 May 2020):
 Speaking from experience because I was really petite and had small breasts in my teens as well I'm going to tell you what the truth is. Just like you, it was something that people constantly brought up to me which is ridiculously rude so I feel your pain and it's very embarrassing because every random person feels the need to comment on it, often in front of other people. It isn't so much as you not being inherently confident, it's more about your confidence having been chipped away bit by bit by other people with every rude, insensitive and uncalled for comment.
Now here's what I've experienced particularly after my teens. It use to make me feel bad before but honestly, the older I got, I realised the perks (pun intended) and man was I glad I don't have big boobs. Here are some of the benefits (apart from the medical benefits):
1. Getting to wear cute tube tops and crop tops without needing to ever wear a bra and ruin the aesthetic.
2. Not having to wear a bra in general.
3. No back pain.
4. No sagging = perky for life.
5. Little to NO discomfort when being active example: running.
Trust me when you're a bit older you will learn to appreciate your breasts and so will other people. They will envy you if they don't already do... Trust me on that. They will even take the time to tell it to you, too. All of those people bashing you now are probably insecure themselves so they try to project that onto you. Everyone wants to be about that no bra life.
I can't even grasp that I'm the same person that I was because the very things that made me feel insecure are the source of my confidence now. You will experience that level of happiness too. It gets better. I promise.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (15 May 2020):
 I had the opposite problem at your age, and still do almost 8 years later. I’ve had a J-L cup size for a very long time and it has been extremely distressing. I truly would rather have your size because with my size (and usually any size over a D):
• no bras fit
• exercise is almost impossible and causes pain
• can cause breathing problems when sleeping
• very botany and embarrassing when swimming
• sexually harassed, but nobody genuine shows an interest
• back pain like mad
I promise you that, whilst all bodies can be attractive, your chest is perfectly normal just like theirs and a lot easier to deal with :) I know it doesn’t feel like that, but someday you may be explaining to a teenage daughter or niece why she shouldn’t let other’s tell her what she should look like.
Also, boys your age are almost always immature and not boyfriend-material. I didn’t have my first (and currently only) until I was 19. We broke up at 22. I’m still single at almost 25 and it does get to me sometimes because I start feeling “old” to not be dating, but it’s very common for people not to date much and to only have had a handful or less of actual relationships before Efteling down in their late 20s - 40s. There’s honestly no rush. “Dating” young isn’t really dating at all. It’s very rarely more than labels to make people feel grown up and in “puppy love”, something that is nothing like actual boyfriend and girlfriend love when you’re older. Teenage “dating” just leads to more heartache than when you’re older and more mature.
Very few of these people will still be together in the coming years. It honestly isn’t worth worrying about, I promise. It’s not your chest size or you in general that means you haven’t got a boyfriend. Like anything, it’s about the right time, right place, right person. When I was in school, the boys always chose the girls who were bullies, should I have become a bully? Nope. It changed regularly who was with who and even when it didn’t, it still wasn’t adult dating. Those who tried adult dating as teenagers ended up with a baby (two girls from my catholic “don’t have sex” education) and the others risked pregnancy regularly. One poor girl had two miscarriages, but she kept risking it and she wasn’t ready to be a mum.
Adult relationships are real experience. Teenage relationships are labels that very occasionally have merit, but most don’t because they’re not real relationships, even though it can be nice sometimes to be able to feel like someone likes you romantically and to feel grown up enough to be in a relationship. Please don’t worry about it; you’re not missing out on anything important. A lot of teenagers who “date” find they struggle being single when they’re adults and that’s not really healthy. Focus on making yourself feel good and confident :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2020): Short and sweet. Love what you are and have. At 17 believe it or not your "friends" are shallow friends as most teenagers. Next month, year, five years they may/will not.
For me I love small breasted woman.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (14 May 2020):
 Firstly, everyone develops at different rates. Just because your breasts are currently small does not mean they will not "catch up" later.
Secondly, you need to love the body you have. Not everyone likes big breasts. Dress to make the most of what you have. I assume you have a nice slim figure to go with the small pert breasts? Dress to show this off.
Your problem is not that you have smaller breasts than your friends but that you are all at an age where you lack any self confidence or security in your looks. Your "friends" mock you for having small breasts because they lack confidence in their own bodies. You take their cruel comments to heart because you in turn lack confidence.
This is a good time to learn a very valuable lesson: you cannot control what others do or say. Your strength lies in how you CHOOSE to react. If you choose to take their comments to heart, they will hurt you. If you choose to laugh them off and come back with something like "good things come in small packages" or "more than a handful is a waste", their comments will stop hurting you and they will eventually stop making them.
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reader, Justmy5cents  +, writes (14 May 2020):
 Like Aunty Bim Bim I just googled A size breasts pictures. Hun, I know we're two different people and Im not you but I have to say, I can't see what the problem is, visually that is, I think that size looks just as sexy and feminine as other cup sizes. Mentally, I would hazard as guess it is the smart arse opinion, not a warranted one either, and harassment of your so called friends rather than you being unhappy with your size? So perhaps it's time to arm yourself with some confident comebacks to put them back in place.
You can accentuate what do do have by the choice of clothing you wear. Just love what you have and love being YOU.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (14 May 2020):
 I approached Mr Google before attempting to answer your question, some of the benefits of having small breasts I already knew, such as less likely to suffer back pains or experience saggy boobs after childbirth or as you age. Its easier to buy a bra that fits and shirts that wont gape.
However there were a few benefits I was unaware of such as its easier to detect and treat breast cancer.
But there are some fascinating benefits as well, and perhaps you could toss these into the general conversation whenever your big boobed friends start mocking, such as small breasts are 24% more sexually sensitive and this one, and women with small breasts appear to be five years younger. Perhaps not so important at 17 but certainly pertinent at 35 or 45 or 55. And my favourite: according to an article published in Psychology Today, wealthy men tend to enjoy small breasts while men who have problems with money enjoyed larger breasts.
The psychological reason behind this choice is quiet interesting! Men who have financial difficulties associate women with large breasts as being protective and nurturing. This is why they subconsciously pick women with large breasts.
So while we cant advise anything that will increase the size of your boobs apart from a padded bra next time a big boobed friend starts to mock your perceived lack, just give them some of the above facts.
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