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writes: I am 58yrs and never had sex for 7 years Now I have boyfriend and I am scared because I don’t remember any thing Reply to this Question
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reader, ChackoRajiv  +, writes (18 August 2020):
Don't worry. There is nothing to remember. It's all set biologically. You may well be aware.
Just remember your first time, you never knew of anything to remember then.
Just go as the mind guides. All the best.
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reader, Justmy5cents  +, writes (16 August 2020):
 Try make light of it. Tell him it's been a while so steady on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2020): You don't forget anything, sex is still sex; and I'm sure once things get started you'll have full-recall. You don't have to start-off with intercourse. Work your way to it gradually.
Beets is absolutely correct. Your body has changed considerably over the past seven years; and before becoming sexually-active again, you may want to consult your gynecologist. Mainly to be sure you'll have minimal discomfort, if any at all.
Take your time. Women feel they have to rush into the sexual-aspect of the relationship; or their partner will become impatient or disinterested. Then I would suppose that could also be understood that sex is the main or only goal, and not much else. A mature-gentleman is experienced, patient, and more understanding than a 20-something year-old; assuming he's closer to your own age. Explain you haven't been active for some-time, and to be gentle.
The more you get to know each-other, the more familiar; the more trust you'll have. You'll relax and enjoy the intimacy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2020): Try not to think about it and let him take the lead.
My clueless self never gave it a thought that a new guy would want sex with me. Then ~OMG we're naked and he's f***ing me. Guess I'll just roll with it.~ Usually a couple drinks helped -- one took me on the first date. What a coincidence, we now have the same last name.
It's really like riding a bicycle. A little rusty at first, then it all cums back. LOL
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (14 August 2020):
 Just tell your new BF and go slow.
Don't try and have sex until you FEEL ready, and when you do, relax and enjoy it.
Learn what HE likes, show him what YOU like and just TAKE your time.
It might not be mind-blowing the first time but it will most likely improve if you two can TALK to each other about what YOU like, and dislike.
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reader, Beets +, writes (14 August 2020):
 I'm pretty sure you're going to remember. What would worry me more is atrophy and pain. Please talk to your doctor about this. Things change as you age, and since you've taken an extended break, it might not feel the same.
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