How can I get my mother to accept that I'm making myself miserable by staying with my husband?
Q. Hi - about 3 years ago I moved out from living with my husband as I was very unhappy (verbal abuse and undermining, some physical violence). It came as a shock to my parents in particular as I had hid my unhappiness from them but I told them of ...
A. 19 November 2008: I was in exactly the same position as you are about 3 yrs ago, appart from I actually said to my parents I wanted to leave my (then) husband. I had to think long and hard about it because we have 3 children together and while he was a rubbish ... (read in full...)
He took her before her time... it's not fair!
Q. Hello.....please explain to me. My mother had open heart surgery as well as I. She passed away.... I was a failed operation, and yet I still stand to this day. I blame myself for losing my mom, because I was the failer and she wasn't. Why did ...
A. 19 November 2008: Hey. I can't give you any answers that your looking for, but I just wanted to say that I think your very brave and that your mum lives on in you.... (read in full...)
Is it simply bad luck - or something else?
Q. My life is full of tragedies. Illness, divorce, financial crises, betrayal, losing home, losing job, and losing loved ones. Not any of my plans ever goes ,where I want it. I'm trying ,but no success. Yet I see , everybody around me,having a pretty n...
A. 19 November 2008: It sounds to me like you want so many things to happen for you all at once. Try and look at it this way and prioritise, one thing at a time from the most important to the least. Give yourself time and make goals that are going to be achievable and ... (read in full...)
Is this normal for my pregnancy test?
Q. is this normal? i bought 1 pregnancy test the walmart brand and took it it came out inclusive then 2 days later i took the early test and it didnt do anything at all, can i be pregnant? thats why the test comes out like that? ...
A. 11 November 2007: sometimes what and how much you drink can affect the reading of the test. try doing the test as soon as you wake up. the reading should be more detectable. ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me...What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me the day before we had been together for 7 months. [a couple weeks ago] He brought this girl home and kissed her then within 5 minutes was at my house kissing me again. He did not tell me. His 13 year old sister just told...
A. 17 October 2007: For starters what is he doing kissing a 15 yr old girl??? you need to tell him to f**k off. if he can kiss another girl behind your back what else is he capable of. walk away now dont risk getting hurt anymore now than you already are.... (read in full...)
I'm very stuck here---how do I explain this one??
Q. dear cupid i have a huuuuge situation...im still inlove with my ex and its the same for him, although i love my current boyfriend, they both know about eachother. I copied and pasted why im pissed off to my boyfriend from a conversation i was havi...
A. 17 October 2007: sort yourself out woman!!! if you like him he likes you you know what to do. just stop messing with your current bfs head. decide once and for all who you want or leave them both alone.
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He says I'm difficult
Q. I'm still trying to get over the man who left me for his baby momma and i have another problem. i promised myself after this relationship i would give myself time to see what i want and not give into mens demands unless i'm ok with it. I have met ...
A. 17 October 2007: first things first. you need to let him know that your not ready for anything like spending the night with him yet. if he had any kind of respect for you he would accept what your saying. as for the trip i really wouldnt bother. find someone that ... (read in full...)
We started to treat each other just as friends for 4 yrs. I think my wife's staying for the sake of our daughter. Can it better? Should I leave?
Q. Hi, I've been with my partner for 15 years and married for 5 of those,she says she made a mistake marrying me and only loves me as a friend,we haven't slept together since our daugther was concieved 4 half years ago,s...
A. 17 October 2007: i think deep down you know the answer. if you continue to stay in a loveless marriage and just for the sake of your child it may cause resentment towards her. your wife has openly come out and said it was a mistake to marry you, why hold on to ... (read in full...)
Our friendship has been rocked because we all got involved. Is there anyway we can remain friends?
Q. I have been really good friends with a girl "X" for a few years now. She has a boyfriend "Y" who I am also friends with. Things between X and Y havent exactly been peachy for the last couple of years but she doesn't know what to do about it. Last ...
A. 13 October 2007: you need to tell X she needs to end it with Y, because when it comes down to it she is cheating on him, she may also feel an overwhelming serge of guilt and tell him all and tell him about you (Z)lets be honest, even tho things arent rosey between ... (read in full...)
Shall I take her back? She's lied to me in the past.
Q. My ex left me 3.5 months ago because she lost her love for me. She's sort of seeing someone else at the moment but nothing serious for about 3 months although she had lied about not seeing anyone, I accidently found out. Her reason for lying...
A. 13 October 2007: if i were you i'd tell her to mind the door doesnt hit her ass on the way out!!! she actually told you she lost love for you, but now here she is saying she wants you back!!! if my partner told me that i would honestly be crushed and angry. it seems ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend just broke up with me
Q. My Boyfriend Of 9 Months Has Just Finished With Me. He Said He Doesnt Like Anyone Else, But Is Flirting WIth A Girl Right Under My Nose. It Is Really Depressing Me. And I Dont Know What To Do. I Am Trying To Get On With My Life And Forget About...
A. 13 October 2007: sweetie.
the sad truth is young guys who date girls love the attention they get. unfortunately it doesnt get any better as they get older either.(sorry lads) it sounds like a cliche but as time goes by it will get easier and when your twenty some... (read in full...)
I show unnecessary aggression having learned from my father it was the only way to express anger/frustrations. I want to control myself, how?
Q. I have learned from my father that shouting, beating your wife, kids is the only way to express your anger and frustration. Sometimes these fears come to surface when i make some mistakes or do something wrong and even if the authority figure would ...
A. 13 October 2007: you obviously know this kind of behaviour is wrong, so well done for recognising that. the next step is maybe anger management. you appear to have learned the behavior that if something doesnt go well or go to plan the simple answer is to get angry. ... (read in full...)
He came home at 6 AM with lipstick on his collar!
Q. I have been with partner for 2 years, we have just bought a house only 2 months ago. i love him very much but i dont trust him. he went out with work and didnt come home till 6.30 in the morning, while he was out i tried to phone him several times ...
A. 13 October 2007: you need to sit him down and tell him how he has made you feel. he has put doubt in your your mind by not giving you an explanation of where he was and especially by not answering his phone. if he is as innocent as he says he is he wont have a ... (read in full...)
Friends for 12 years, and now we're developing stronger feelings. Anybody else experienced this?
Q. We are friends since 12 years ago. We started developing strong feelings for each other last year. I am involved with a friend we both know and love. We live in separate countries so when he comes visit he stays with us. He came visit us last ...
A. 8 October 2007: hi there, i have experienced this. i was married but recently we both called it a day. a mutual friend of ours that we have known for about 10 yrs was out at the same time i was celebrating my new found freedom. a one night stand happened between ... (read in full...)
My friend wont leave my boyfriend alone!
Q. please help me i have this friend that likes my boyfriend and he said he doesn't like her he thinks she's to full of herself [which is true lol] and he says i am the only gurl for him......i always see her looking at him talking about him or ...
A. 5 October 2007: you need to tell her to get lost shes no friend and with friends like that who needs enemies. She doesn't seem to care about your feelings towards this guy or how much you seem to like him. If you can't tell her straight you need to cut her off!! ... (read in full...)
How do I get things with my wife back the way that they used to be?
Q. hi people . well here it goes ive been married for 13 years now i married at 16 to the girl i love with all my heart. i dont really wana go into it to much right now it will take me all day.but i left my wife a couple of times this is because i fel...
A. 24 September 2007: hey. im sorry but why do you act so suprised when your wife doesnt give you any attention or tell you she loves you after stating that you've walked out on her when times are hard. you got married very young but regardless to this, marriage is hard ... (read in full...)
I've just come out of the hospital and found out I've failed uni, my relationship is strained and my friends are moving on! How can I cope?
Q. hey ppl im so low at the moment.within the past week my whole life seems to have fallen apart. this time 2 weeks ago i had the world at my feet. i had the most perfect boyfriend in the world with an amazing relationship, great health, a place at a ...
A. 19 September 2007: ah. i feel for you girl. well for myself i never went to uni, wish i had, but thats a story for another time. it shatters your confidence when blows like this happen. have you ever thought of taking a year off. traveling or working and then ... (read in full...)
I quit my job for him and we deleted our internet profiles. I found out he has a new one that lists him as single and looking for sex!
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for two years, i worked in a pub which he wasn't happy about, as customers flirt. so i gave up the pub, and together we decided to delete our internet profiles. however i found out he had created a new profile ad...
A. 19 September 2007: hello how are you? you need to make it clear to him that he is being quite selfish. you gave up your job for this man, which ultimately shows him that you are committed to this relationship and whats he done, put doubt in your mind. well sweety! ... (read in full...)
I have no control in this relation, my partner is very dominating and won't listen to what I have to say.
Q. I feel as though I have no control in my relationship. My partner is very dominating towards people in his life, especially women, and uses this to get his own way. For instance, if he wants you to do something and you refuse, he will say “I’m ...
A. 19 September 2007: hi how are you today? ill apologise in advance, but im going to be blunt and straight to the point. why are you with him? and why do you subject your children to this, showing them a world of violence and verbal abuse. i work in a hospital for ... (read in full...)
My partner is very critical of me!
Q. I feel as though my partner is very critical of me. Little things like, for instance, not washing his clothes correctly or forgetting something from the store, cause him to blow up and make comments like “I ask you to do one thing and you can’t even ...
A. 19 September 2007: hi there. its good that you recognise that the way he treats you is disrespectful, but even tho he makes you feel this way the question you really have to ask yourself is do you still love him? i was in an 8 year marriage and have 3 children and ... (read in full...)
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