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writes: Hello.....please explain to me.My mother had open heart surgery as well as I. She passed away.... I was a failed operation, and yet I still stand to this day. I blame myself for losing my mom, because I was the failer and she wasn't. Why did she go? Why wasn't it me!? I want her back... god took her from me! She's not gunna be there for anything, she wasn't there for my 6th birthday.... not even my 13th birthday.... I just want her back... Y'know how every birthday some one has they're told to make a wish? Mine never comes true. It hurts, soo bad... just one thought and I cry. I try not to think about it.. whatever I do, I still think about her. Happy thoughts make me cry too. It wasn't her time! Took her from her 5 year old daughter!.... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question:).....Thanks.
I cant stand walking into a hospital anymore, it scares me now. Having to be 5 and mom passing away before my own eyes...-i just cant stop thinking about it....and mom....
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reader, hotty  +, writes (19 November 2008):
Hey. I can't give you any answers that your looking for, but I just wanted to say that I think your very brave and that your mum lives on in you.
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (18 November 2008):
 The thing is no one knows when their time is going to be. Your mum went early in life but that was her time to go, it wasn't yours. My best friend has just died, I spoke to him in the morning he was dead the next day. There was no reason and he had no idea his time was up. Your mum and you enjoyed 5 short wonderful years together but you can remember her and she lives on in your heasrt and will in your childrens. Death can be quick, scary , slow, drawn out they are all different but none of us ever know when it is going to happen. You were very little and you think about her every day which is natural. Take comfort in that you remember her and all the things you did together and I like to think they are watching us. Both my parents are dead and I can feel and smell my father sometimes which is comforting.
You have learnt one of lifes lessons very young, it took me 40 years to learn that life isn't fair and this realisation should hold you strong through your life. i am thinking of you xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): How we deal with death is at least as important as how we deal with life.
There is no such things as a right time. Death comes for us all when IT damn well chooses to.
Best we can do is accept that one day we all die. It is how it will always be. So make the best of your life, because no one knows what comes next... no one.
Not the Dalai Lama, not any religious organisation or any scietntist. No one.
Flynn 24
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reader, TheBigVenti  +, writes (18 November 2008):
Death is a funny thing. We fear it, we hate it, we embrace it and accept it as inevitability. I know it hurts, I've been where you are right now, honestly. I lost my father when I was 15. He was my best friend, my coach, my role model. A horrible car accident took him from his family and friends. I was isolated, and blamed God for who knows how long... but you have to understand, death is as much a part of life as anything else. We just need to recognize this and embrace the time we have. It hurts, more than anything you've ever experienced, I know, and I feel your pain, but no amount of laying blame, crying, and wishing will bring her back, and the faster you accept that, the faster the healing can start. It's a horrible time, but time heals all wounds. Think of it this way, to feel this pain, you must've loved her more than anything. Imagine if she wasn't there in the first place, or she hated you, she neglected you or abused you. At least you experienced her love through all of your childhood. As long as you know she loved you, she's ubiquitous. She'll always be there with you. My prayers are with you and your family. Feel better, and stop laying blame, especially on yourself.
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