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41-50,
*licia
writes:I'm still trying to get over the man who left me for his baby momma and i have another problem. i promised myself after this relationship i would give myself time to see what i want and not give into mens demands unless i'm ok with it. I have met this guy, he is great and all and he is saying that he wants to get to know me better. He says he is trying to sort out his last relationship with a woman who has a daughter with. We have been communicating and have gotten close and like eachother. He was visiting from out of town and wanted me to visit him. I was ok with that and i booked my hotel and all but he told me yesterday that we would have to spend the night in the same room so we can chat and get to know eachother. I said no and now he is mad at me and says he doesnt see the point of the trip. He says i'm a difficult person.Should i still go see him and be adamant about sleeping in my own room? Or should i let him spend the night with me in my room coz he says nothing will happen? What do i do?He isnt talking to me at moment. should i call him? Reply to this Question
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (17 October 2007):
 hi Alicia
i think you had it right the first time when you refused, going in to a hotel room by yourself with a man you do not know all that well is taking a very big risk, just because he say nothing will happen does not mean it wont, i think in your situation i would forget this guy, council your room at hotel and get your deposit back if any, and move on, also wonder why he is trying to sort out his relationship with the woman with who he has a daughter with,it seems he has a big problem already he cant be trying to hard or why would he want to spend a night in a bedroom with another woman,it seems that this guy is trying to use you for some reason only known to himself, i think that you have had a lucky escape here and i think in future you should take events a little slower, get to know some one a lot better, before you decide to make such a big decision with your life, after all if you do not look after yourself who else will.
hope this will help you
good look for the future
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reader, hotty +, writes (17 October 2007):
first things first. you need to let him know that your not ready for anything like spending the night with him yet. if he had any kind of respect for you he would accept what your saying. as for the trip i really wouldnt bother. find someone that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated and blow this loser off. goodluck
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