Does this person like me for anything more than sex?
Q. This boy who ive known since seventh grade wants to have sex with me. We are both virgins, he's really mature and practical but I'm idealistic and emotional. When I first met him in seventh grade, I had a crush on him. So I actually liked him. Ever ...
A. 19 August 2011: i'm sorry but he's a teenager, every teenage boy i know have their brains in their balls, meaning they only think of sex. i agree with chi girl, if you want something more serious you will have to wait for him to grow up. either that or focus your ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's best friend is another man. Should I let her go, knowing that she will always be confiding and trusting in another man more than me?
Q. My girlfriend has told me that her VERY BEST FRIEND is another man. They have been best friends for over 30 years. They frequently interact via text, phone calls, email, and Facebook. (He is currently divorced and living halfway across the country) ...
A. 23 June 2011: i don't think you should end a perfectly fine relationship because of a friend. she says she has been friends with him for over 30 years. if they were going to date they would of by now so i don't think you have to worry about that :)
how long hav... (read in full...)
Not sure how to act in my bosses house
Q. hey, I'm doing this boot camp thing this week because my boss/instructor wants me to do it. and he has pulled out all the stops to enable me to do it as well, so much so that i am now staying with him and his girlfriend this week at their house. ...
A. 23 April 2011: thankyou for both your advice, it was much appreciated.
i stayed at his anyway, (i was given the spare room, it was very nice actually) 5am starts all the way!
it wasn't as bad as i thought, i relaxed a bit, played some Xbox with him. i was ... (read in full...)
Would it be wise of me to accept his offer?
Q. should i be worried about my boss/instructor? He wants me to do a week of early morning training in the spring (he knows i need to get my fitness up to join the navy). Because of where i live i would need accomodation and my boss said he'd sort it. ...
A. 14 January 2011: i know he's got a girlfriend because i've met her, and i'm relatively good friends with her. I also know the girlfriends brother, and i'm very good friends with him. I can't see him lieing to me about his sister. There's probably no cause for ... (read in full...)
Is there any way I could combine my militant attitude to a part time job?
Q. hey i would post this problem on dearcupid's sister site careerglove.com, but it looks like the last activity it had was in 2007. anyway heres my dilemma. even though i'm only 16, i've made up my mind in joining the military, i've started fil...
A. 1 November 2010: awesome thankyou for the great advice.
i wasn't aware that militant attitude was used in such a violent context. i hope you understand that this wasn't my intention. i merely meant that i love the discipline, the routine of the military. not the ... (read in full...)
Do I get this massage from my teacher or not?
Q. Hey need some advice, my teacher has recently passed his masseuse course. And he gave out these 50% off vouchers to work mates. I was helping out in his class as I often do and I don’t know if it was in absent mindedness or not, but he gave me one. ...
A. 9 September 2010: ok thanks, i don't need a masseuse but as i work out a lot, my shoulders feel like they're made of iron, my trainer occasionally notices and has repeatedly told me to go to a qualified masseuse, as he can only do so much good. and me working out ... (read in full...)
What could have caused this fear?
Q. hey, i'm here today to ask about something. it might not be about relationships, but it is about emotions. today at work my boss was teaching the kids for a summer school thing. and he was teaching them 'stranger danger'. well as he was teaching ...
A. 29 August 2010: thanks for the advice. at the time my boss was going on about strangers offering to take you 'home' or just simply picking you up and taking you.
i was stalked a year or so ago. and when i was little i was apparently almost taken by some man, but... (read in full...)
Why don't the guys I fall for like me back?
Q. hi, i don't know if this is me venting or not but any advice you could offer would be much appreciated. it seems to be my luck that every guy i fall for doesn't return the feeling, or even worse they express no wish to have anything to do with...
A. 23 July 2010: thankyou for the compliments. i don't tend to go for people my own age, because i see them as extremely immature beings, they're good for a laugh but i wouldn't want to go out with them. alot of the guys i seem to go for tend to be the left alone ... (read in full...)
Night Violence... Should I see a psychiatrist?
Q. Hi I'm writing in about a mental problem so it might not be posted as it's really the wrong place to enter such a problem but I'll give it a shot. The night before last, 2 good friends of mine and myself were all saying in a tent together. W...
A. 2 June 2010: yeah i know it was a caffine overdose that pushed me over the edge, but its the fact that i've got cronic nighmares and the fact that i've clearly hurt myself before with these dreams. it's just that which has gotten me to shift my arse and actually ... (read in full...)
Night Violence... Should I see a psychiatrist?
Q. Hi I'm writing in about a mental problem so it might not be posted as it's really the wrong place to enter such a problem but I'll give it a shot. The night before last, 2 good friends of mine and myself were all saying in a tent together. W...
A. 2 June 2010: ok thankyou, and i am 15, i'm 16 in october. and for some reason it feels so much easier to tell someone else about this than actually tell my parents, also the only thing they've ever noticed about this is the fact that i look tired, if i've said ... (read in full...)
Games, dares and 7 minutes of heaven!
Q. hey i'd like some ideas. theres an anual parade thing where i live which is tons of fun. it's a 4 day weekend thing where theres loads of music and pretty much everyone from the age of 14 who anually takes part is allowed to drink (as long as they ...
A. 14 May 2010: thats great thanks. it sounds like alot of fun. also when i said a few friends, all but two people (the guy i fancy and a good friend of mine) have said they can't go so it will just be the 3 of us, 2 girls n 1 guy. it sounds like the making of a ... (read in full...)
Planning my future in the Navy. My friends don't understand and I feel isolated.
Q. hi i'm applying for the navy soon (in july to be precise) so i've been training phisically, mentally and emotionally. i've also been getting as much experience as i can on ships n that. but i'm only 15. half the people who are 16 in my school ...
A. 11 May 2010: thanks for the help and i don't mind about the life story. it gives more meaning to the advice. since i posted this question i've found 2 new friends who are a similar age and have an idea what they want to do and are also taking meaningful steps ... (read in full...)
He's so great that I'm coming across as over-enthusiastic
Q. i was introduced to a this really nice guy who's a lot like me. he's like me as well in the way that he doesn't quite like overly peppy people or people who smile the whole time. unfortunately when we meet i can't help but smile because he seems far ...
A. 1 May 2010: thanks for all the help. i've never felt like this about anyone before so this is completely new territory for me. i'm aware of some of his flaws (he never thinks he's good enough and he self harms) and chances are he'll have many more, but i look ... (read in full...)
Does true love really exist?
Q. Maybe this is a stupid question: but I really want to know. Does true love REALLY exist? Can people really love each other FOREVER? Can two people really accept each other and love each other in EQUAL balance- meaning 1 not love the other more or ...
A. 4 April 2010: my great grandad and great grandmar met when they were 13 and stayed together till the day they died. when my great gran died my great grandad died not long after. they said he died of a broken heart. so i believe that true love exists and sometimes ... (read in full...)
Planning my future in the Navy. My friends don't understand and I feel isolated.
Q. hi i'm applying for the navy soon (in july to be precise) so i've been training phisically, mentally and emotionally. i've also been getting as much experience as i can on ships n that. but i'm only 15. half the people who are 16 in my school ...
A. 3 February 2010: first thanks for your advice it's been very helpfull i definately want to be in the navy, i've looked at every aspect of navy life, i've even technacally lived it and i think it's brilliant i wouldn't pass up the oppertunity for a second. everyone... (read in full...)
How do I write a formal letter of application?
Q. hi i know that this isn't a relationship question but the other site owned by the same people as this (careerglove.com) doesn't look like it's been used in a while and i feel i can get better help from here. so my question is, how do you write a ...
A. 6 December 2009: thankyou for all you're help i hope that this goes well :) and i will tell you the results when i get them
halu xx... (read in full...)
At what age can a girl get pregnant?
Q. Hi to all, help me I have a serious question, what age can a girl or woman get pregnant? I want to know please help!..,....
A. 4 December 2009: after she's started her periods it's possible to get pregnant... (read in full...)
Angry about the double standards of sex
Q. Ok, I don't want to be polemic here, but I'm really shocked and angry with the double standard. You see, my boyfriend suffers with retroactive jealousy, even though I wasn't a slut (I was a virgin when we met, granted, I was just 17 so it was normal ...
A. 4 December 2009: i've noticed this too. guys are always boasting about how they've slept with someone or they've done this ect. but if a girl even hints that she's had sex.. then she's a whore and a slut, nevermind the fact a guy has slept with 3-4 people. the ... (read in full...)
What can I do to help Harry?
Q. hi it's not really a love question but i hope you can help anyway. My friend *harry is being framed by this girl i used to be friends with *ellie. according to ellie, harry asked her for a topless photo of her over msn. she's told the police a...
A. 2 December 2009: thanks well as far as i'm aware she didn't send one anyway but then again according to her statement she turned her computer off and then harry asked if he could have a topless photo. i've tried explaining to her that this could cost harry his ... (read in full...)
What can I do to help Harry?
Q. hi it's not really a love question but i hope you can help anyway. My friend *harry is being framed by this girl i used to be friends with *ellie. according to ellie, harry asked her for a topless photo of her over msn. she's told the police a...
A. 2 December 2009: 1 the police had harry's phone, computer ect.
2 i don't know honestly but i had to talk to a DC from the internet paedophillia unit thingy.
3 harry's now 18 but he was 17 when this all started and ellies 14/15, she's in my year
4 i don't know w... (read in full...)
Is masturbating a bad thing?
Q. is masterbating a bad thing? im a 15 year old guy and i dont know if its a health issue if i masterbate a lot?...
A. 2 December 2009: masturbating isn't a bad thing absolutly everyone does it, just make sure it doesn't interfere with your social, personal and school life... (read in full...)
How can I sort this whole phone mess out with him?
Q. hi guys, sorry this is drawn out but I don't think it will make any sence otherwise A while ago (febuary) me and my closest friends had a massive falling out(i'd rather not go into that though) none of them would talk to me unless it was to threat...
A. 1 December 2009: thanks and i know it was him that sent the texts because the police were involved and he's intelligent enough not to take the blame for people he hardly hangs out with(he only started hanging round them coz i asked him if he would) that and he had ... (read in full...)
Have I been raped?
Q. (sorry that it's so long) a couple of months ago i got drunk coz my 'friend' spiked my drinks and that night i was sleeping round her friends(John*) house he is about 22-23 he takes drugs n was waiting to go to court for grh(grevious bodily harm) ...
A. 29 November 2009: thanks for all your advise and help. i know i was an absolute idiot. i should have been more carefull. still trial and error. i managed to sort everything out i've got some new friends who aren't in that scene and who don't pressure me into ... (read in full...)
"Things would be different if you weren't my mate's girlfriend..."
Q. Hey real quick, I was at my friend's house last night and my other friends boyfriend turned up a bit later with his mate.. we were messing about and they were taking the piss coz I'm blonde and his mate said to me "I like you, what's your name?" ...
A. 9 November 2008: He so likes you but he won't do anything coz he's your boyfriends mate.... (read in full...)
Have I been raped?
Q. (sorry that it's so long) a couple of months ago i got drunk coz my 'friend' spiked my drinks and that night i was sleeping round her friends(John*) house he is about 22-23 he takes drugs n was waiting to go to court for grh(grevious bodily harm) ...
A. 8 November 2008: thanks she was one of my best friends coz she always helped me n i never thought she was like that and john wasn't her boyfriend he was just a friend and her supplier.i can't press charges coz i don't remember what he looks like or his full name and ... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to do it or how to deal with my confidence??
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a month now and we've done stuff together. The problem is, it's always him doing things to me and not the other way around. It's not his fault, it's mine, I just don't know how to do it. I'm sure he'd love ...
A. 7 November 2008: yeah i'm in exactly the same position (or was :'( single again lol) but yeah just tell him that you're not sure on what to do, i did and he was fine with it, i still don't know what to do n now i would like to try (he dumped me coz he thought i was ... (read in full...)
Date someone new or be with my ex who I know respected me and my limits?
Q. well a couple of weeks ago this boy i fancy who i met through see cadets asked me out we're quite good friends and we talk a fair bit alot of people think we make a cute pair. The next day my ex boyfriend told me he still loved me and wants to go ...
A. 7 November 2008: thanks for your advise but i still don't know what to do coz i haven't seen the new guy for months now and my ex says he can't bere all the comments which come with dating someone 14 months younger than him so he wants to date in secret but i think ... (read in full...)
Date someone new or be with my ex who I know respected me and my limits?
Q. well a couple of weeks ago this boy i fancy who i met through see cadets asked me out we're quite good friends and we talk a fair bit alot of people think we make a cute pair. The next day my ex boyfriend told me he still loved me and wants to go ...
A. 7 November 2008: ok thanks for both of your advise but i haven't seen the new guy in months and i'm starting to think that he doesn't want to be with me and my ex says that he can't deal with the comments that come with dating me so we'd have to date in secret. WHY ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure which girl I should pursue?
Q. Hey I have a friend who I have known for quite a while - and we talk to each other a lot - both in real life and on the internet, and I really like her as a friend. I fancy her as well though, and people say we should get together and stuff. I think ...
A. 22 August 2008: you sound very respecting and i think from what i've heard from this any girl would be lucky to have a guy like you, you just seem a little lost. n dw bout anythin i bet she'll say yes lol... (read in full...)
There's this really cute guy I met on the school bus, how do I take it further?
Q. hey i'm 13 and i broke up with my first bf ever a couple of months ago and theres this really cute boy that i met on my school bus, i really like him but he's 16 we both like vid games especially world of warcraft (geeky i know but still) n we're ...
A. 15 July 2008: thanks to all those who gave their opinion but it didn't work out, i told him how i felt about him and he got freaked out and told me that i freaked him out and that he wouldn't go out with me if i was 16 and he was drunk. he said that he doesn't ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure which girl I should pursue?
Q. Hey I have a friend who I have known for quite a while - and we talk to each other a lot - both in real life and on the internet, and I really like her as a friend. I fancy her as well though, and people say we should get together and stuff. I think ...
A. 13 July 2008: you need to ask your self if you like the new girl and if you do which girl do you like more? i would do that then see how it goes, i'm probs not the best person to ask but i try my best i hope i helps a little :p... (read in full...)
How to bring up the subject of meeting her casually to at least say hi without giving of the impression I am desperate to speak to her?...
Q. i met this girl online who i found very pretty. shes local. i got to know her a bit online but she didnt talk much. we saw each other for the first time when walking by each with our own group of friends. i saw her looking too but we didnt make any ...
A. 13 July 2008: just say 'hi' to her, and just talk about intrests you know music, films, that sorta stuff and don't freak out just talk to her like your talkin to your mates it works like a charm i should know lol :)... (read in full...)
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