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writes:hi i'm applying for the navy soon (in july to be precise) so i've been training phisically, mentally and emotionally. i've also been getting as much experience as i can on ships n that. but i'm only 15. half the people who are 16 in my school haven't a clue what they're doing with their lives and pretty much everyone in my year is still living in a world of fantasy (the i'll become a singer and become rich and famous so i don't need to worry about school dream).i just feel really isolated from everyone as they seem really immature to me and i feel i'm almost like one of the adults. the only people i can talk to are the sixth formers but as i've had dealings with them before many of them don't wish to speak to me. i try to relax and act my own age but it doesn't feel right and i'm losing the few friends i have left as we can't relate to each other anymore.i'm also starting to get cold feet about the navy and even though everyone has offered me nothing but support and i've been to the training camp already, lived navy life, ect(i'm in cadets) i can't help but worry about being too up-tight to make friends thereif you can offer any advice then please do :)halu xx
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reader, halu +, writes (11 May 2010):
halu is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for the help and i don't mind about the life story. it gives more meaning to the advice. since i posted this question i've found 2 new friends who are a similar age and have an idea what they want to do and are also taking meaningful steps towards it. one of them wants to be a psychiatrist so he's been doing alot of work for it and we get along brilliantly. only downside is that he's not at my school, he goes to another one quite close by. so i've found a good friend of similar maturity and alot in common.
so although i don't really have friends at school i've got friends outside and we've promiced to keep intouch after we start our serious careers. it's almost ideal. infact it's probably better as this way we wont take eachothers company for granted.
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reader, 1290uk +, writes (11 May 2010):
 Hey, you sounds really keen, and I have a similar experience of the UK forces, as I'm a trainee officer. You've said you don't really relate to the people at school, do you have more in common with your Cadet friends? You might just find that the Navy means you're surrounded by people who are as focused and driven as you are. Until then, there will probably be more people like you at school, throughout school, and sixth form, I was friends with the year above mine, or the year above that, because the friends I had who were older were far more on a par with me intellectually, and socially, but when they all left, I was left with a year of school which I faced pretty much alone to start with. When I got back though, I found a (small, admittedly) group of people who were like me, just keep looking. Sorry, you've got a bit of a life-story in response here! Hope everything works out for you!
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reader, halu +, writes (3 February 2010):
halu is verified as being by the original poster of the questionfirst thanks for your advice it's been very helpfulli definately want to be in the navy, i've looked at every aspect of navy life, i've even technacally lived it and i think it's brilliant i wouldn't pass up the oppertunity for a second. everyone is saying that i'll make new friends once i join but it's the period i have until that point which i'm struggling with. i can just put up with it until i join but i want to make it memerable for good reasons
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reader, Gridrebel  +, writes (31 January 2010):
 Usually I don't usually respond to the teen questions on this forum but I believe yours is of significant issue. As a person matures, they may lose old friends and gain new ones. The fact that you have already spent so much energy and effort shows that you have exemplary character and maturity and focus. Sometimes our friends don't have the same character, drive and, well I guess, our own special makeup that each one of us has. Stick to your guns. You are greater than the friends you now have. You will get new friends, unbelievably tried and true, and such new experiences. You have resolve and such a degree of strength, you need to hold true to yourself. You will be happier and so much more well rounded and the bottom line, such a better person. Don’t forego this pursuit of being the best that you can be.
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reader, camrcam2 +, writes (31 January 2010):
 hey, i see where your coming from im also 16 and had gone through the same things, but not in the same feild as the navy. my advice to you is that you should really ask yourself if u wanna be in the navy.also if you still want to you should try to still be friends with the ones you have, but if you cant relate to them you should try to be friends with other people interested in becoming in the navy. i know my school has hundres of people in JROTC ( a class to prepare highschoolers to going into the navy, army, ect). I dont know much about the armed forces feilds but i know if your find people with a common ground as you for things your interested in or things you like to do you get along greatly. in your situation i bet other people who are looking in the same path are feeling the same. i dont know if this has helped you at all but if it hasnt im srry for that.
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