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*ubblegum
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for a month now and we've done stuff together. The problem is, it's always him doing things to me and not the other way around. It's not his fault, it's mine, I just don't know how to do it. I'm sure he'd love it if he got a blowjob or a handjob from me, and I really want to do it to him, I'm just too shy and too unexperienced. Any tips on how to do it or how to deal with my confidence??ThanksBubblegum xx
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reader, Bubblegum +, writes (1 December 2008):
Bubblegum is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for all of your advice guys...I overcame my fears lol. And he was supportive.Thanks againBubblegum xx
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reader, wickyricky +, writes (10 November 2008):
me again dont be scared to ask him what he wants you to do its all about takin ur time and exploring each other just ask him what he wants done and if u fell u can do it for him go on ahead u should fell confident enough just to ask him wat he wants and no matter what happens dont be embarrassed to ask. ur still learning.
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reader, Twilight#1  +, writes (7 November 2008):
 honey you are 13-15 years old!!!! You shouldn't even be thinking about giving no guy a blow job... I agree with birdynumnums... Wait until your ready... and good communication between you and your boyfriend is always a good thing...
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reader, halu +, writes (7 November 2008):
 yeah i'm in exactly the same position (or was :'( single again lol) but yeah just tell him that you're not sure on what to do, i did and he was fine with it, i still don't know what to do n now i would like to try (he dumped me coz he thought i was cheating on him coz i hugged another guy who i now admit was so much hotter :P) but dw bout it, if you really want to know how to do stuff like that then watch porn (thats a last resort ONLY) it's duisgusting in every right but it will show you what to do hope i've helped a little
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reader, wickyricky +, writes (7 November 2008):
hey . when ur goin with sum 1 sex is only like a added bounus..if ur shy just let him know ur nt sure what ur doing that its ur first time if he is careing he will understand just explain whats rong to him he will understand ive been with my girl 3 mnths and im still shy with her so its nothing to worrie about just take ur time and tell him whats rng and just ask him what way he want his blowjob but most of all make sure ur ready dnt rush anything u have ur hole life a head of u ..
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reader, Bubblegum +, writes (6 November 2008):
Bubblegum is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, I see what you mean. But i DO want to do it, I know were not ready to go the whole way yet, I just want to be able to pleasure him the way he does to me.
Bubblegum xx
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reader, Reebe +, writes (6 November 2008):
 There's nothing wrong with waiting until your ready.
Is he pressuring you? I hope not.
There's no rush and to be honest if you don't naturally want to do it then your not ready to.
There's no rush, you have all the time in the world to go on to the next step your still young and when you do feel ready it will feel like the right thing to do.
It will happen don't put so much pressure on yourself.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (6 November 2008):
 It isn't necessary to take it to the next level if you aren't ready!!! Sex eventually becomes a part of a relationship, but it isn't a requirement at your age. Wait until you ARE emotionally ready! It isn't a lack of confidence on your part, or a lack of inexperience, it's good healthy fear of the unknown and of getting pregnant! That's pretty normal! So I for one applaud you on paying attention to and using your common sense. XXX
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