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writes:Maybe this is a stupid question: but I really want to know. Does true love REALLY exist? Can people really love each other FOREVER? Can two people really accept each other and love each other in EQUAL balance- meaning 1 not love the other more or less than their spouse. I'm not asking about perfect harmony- no disagreement ever- I just mean when there is a disagreement a solution is reached without 1 partner having to give in and the other "winning" instead a compromise where both give a little and equally take a little. The only reason I ask is because I'm starting to be convinced that the only way to have a lasting relationship is that 1 person loves more than the other and gives in, thus giving the partner who loves less the power to control where the relationship goes and since they "love less" it usually goes nowhere. I am losing hope in anything everlasting and its making me quite depressed. I need someone to tell me a fairytale- only a true life one. Is it even really possible?
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reader, halu  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 my great grandad and great grandmar met when they were 13 and stayed together till the day they died. when my great gran died my great grandad died not long after. they said he died of a broken heart. so i believe that true love exists and sometimes it just takes longer than others.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Denny, you and your wife seem to make a good team- which is awesome. That's the kind of fairytale I wanted to hear lol, I'm not so naive to be looking for something impossible, I was losing faith in the possibility of REAL true love, not the kind you only read about. Thanks again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all the replies- I suppose if it's possible and has happened before that it could happen to me. :) I'll keep the faith a while longer I suppose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): Im yet to see true love however I believe it exists.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): Yes, there is such a thing as true love.
me and my boyfriend have been together for about 3 years, and we've faced allsortsa problems, and we've faced a hell of a lot more than other couples have and we're still together. we do argue, after all everybody argues. But the point is after all, and after everything. I still love him more and more everyday.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (5 July 2009):
 its a funny one this. whenever i come across happy old couples i always ask them whats the secret of a happy relationship?9 times out of 10 the old guy responds "always say yes to the woman" in other words treat her as an equal.ive met some happy married old people in my time and they seemed loved up as when they were teenagers.true love can exist, but these days alot of women look for the wrong things in a guy and the guys normally lack that gentlemanly respect for a woman, which means relationships normally end up 1 sided.im a firm believer that if u believe in your soul mate u do eventaully bump into him or her, and if u believe in the power of love amazing things such as fairytales do happen.good luck with your search!!
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reader, Beingblack +, writes (5 July 2009):
 Yes true love does exist. It isn't rare, it is very common. The destructive side of human nature means that at times, when we find it, we don't believe it, and simply look for ways to prove that to ourselves. I have been with my partner for 17 years. We get on really well, we argue, we have great sex, we discuss everything, and it isn't any kind of power struggle. There is no need. We live our lives well, we have a great son. We holiday a lot. We like different things, but make time for, and get involved in, each others hobbies. It isn't perfect, but it works great for us.I watch other people start off their relationships well, but eventually try to destroy, or wear down their partner. Why, I don't know. Maybe to have their partner become dependent on them. Maybe dominating another human being makes them feel good. They might be attempting to mask their own insecurity about themselves. I see people madly in love who get jealous, afraid, or bored of their partner. Because it seems we are always looking for something else, something that might be better, instead of seeing the great person we fell in love with. It takes 2 to have a bad sex life, a bad marriage, and an unhappy life. It takes 2 to make the opposite happen. Staying in love isn't luck. It's mostly common sense.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): it does.very few and lucky people get to experience it,but it really does.and i really hope you find it someday xx
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (5 July 2009):
NO! Actually, I feel the same way you do pretty much 95% of the time. However, I look at my parents. To me, that is true love. So I know it exists. They have their disagreements, but the way my dad treats my mother and vice versa, I know it exists.
It takes time to find the right person. I think maturity has a lot to do with it. I think that's why a lot of people are marrying at a later age than in the past because we are seeing the turmoil of divorces and people being hurt, even with our own relationships. Sometimes I think I give a lot better advice than what I actually do.
Relationships are hard and it's different when you're in the position. Life isn't a fairy tale. Think of it this way: all the crap that happens only makes us stronger and allows us to make better decisions and be with better people in the future. Don't think of it as a miserable life with a bunch of people playing games that only want to hurt us. It's always a new learning experience that only helps us to live a more positive and fulfilling life with someone that deserves our love in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): it is possible and it does exist. I see it in some of the generations that are infront of me...the question is will I or you ever find true love...I found it once but lost it. I know what it feels like and I intend to find it again.
But yes the relationships that you speak of, down to every detail, is something I look for as well, because like I said, I have seen it.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (5 July 2009):
 i feel the same sometimes, like my faith in what i believe is wavering and im trying to get to grips with why im wavering in the first place!
my grandad was married to my wonderful grandma they loved each other so much they were perfect until she died, just before that she knew i was on the way. grandad took along time to get over it he still never has. but about 18 years later he met another woman. which made me think was grandma the one or was it this woman. they way i see it is grandma was his other half part of his soul, and until he leaves this life his new partner is one who hes sharing happyness with until he meets her again. there are plenty of fairytales as such in this world. but they just dont happen on their own. their is only so much fate and chance can do but its up to you to make the descion. you have to go out their and make your self applyable to life and not hide in the shadows wondering if its possible. today has advanced so much that i think its harder to find the one or that fairytale back then it was easier you could only meet a person within reasonable distance. i know so many people who met young and have been together till this day so its more than possible. just its like how ? lol all i can say is dont close your door to the possiblities and put yourself out their do the things you love and be happy life is only as good as you make it! good luck hope that helped at all aphex xx
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