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writes:hey, i'm here today to ask about something. it might not be about relationships, but it is about emotions.today at work my boss was teaching the kids for a summer school thing. and he was teaching them 'stranger danger'. well as he was teaching this to the kids i just became so frightened. i have no idea why i was frightened, and i don't strictly know what it was of. i just became terrified of being in the room and i almost started crying because of it.i'm not one to get scared easy. least not to let it show. so to be terrified of something unknown really shook me. at this summer school we were teaching self defence to the children and i really struggled to let anyone touch me. least not my boss, he was just walking past me and i moved away from him a good 3-4m.he's never given me any reason to be afraid of him before nor has his other assistants, the place i work in is a very welcoming, comfortable environment that i normally feel quite at home in.so could anyone please offer any advice as to what could of caused this irrational fear? because this can't keep happening. i can't afford it to. i feel like a coward because i'm being frightened of nothing. please helphalu xx
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reader, rcn  +, writes (30 August 2010):
 See, talking to the kids hit home. You may not be normally afraid, but this situation at work is what I call, "In relation too", therefore your subconscious related to what was being said, the environment you were in, and can also be simply the age of the children being talked to. I would recommend some therapy, even more so someone trained in neuro linguistics programming. They work with the language of our mind, and how information is stored at a subconscious level.
I recommend this because although this has happened in your life, should you have to live with a fear that the danger is no longer imminently present in your life?
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2010): Something triggered you, and it could be something from your past, but may not be.
Several years ago my wife's family played out (for about the 7th year in a row) a little game where at a birthday they all pretend to forget to have gotten the birthday cake... and each turn to another an say "(NAME) you forgot to get the cake"... it's all in good fun, and everyone knows the game... yet when they got to me, I was overcome with shame... it triggered something from my childhood where my father used to shame me for doing stuff any little boy would do...
It took me a while to figure it out, and it's not reoccurred, but occasionally our brains will find this stuff and there we go...
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reader, halu +, writes (29 August 2010):
halu is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for the advice. at the time my boss was going on about strangers offering to take you 'home' or just simply picking you up and taking you.
i was stalked a year or so ago. and when i was little i was apparently almost taken by some man, but my parents got me away from him before he took me. so they're both probably reasons for it. but my parents never told me about it until i asked them today. my mum thinks is my boss' fault, that he's doing something that i'm not telling her about. but he's not done anything.
i've never been afraid of just hearing about abduction and the like before. certainly not to that extent. it almost rivals when the stalker started sending me texts telling me about my day.
i'm not scared of strangers, i'm wary of them, but not scared.
but anyway, thankyou for the advice, maybe now that i have an idea of what might of caused it, i can control that fear
thanks :)
halu xx
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reader, rcn +, writes (29 August 2010):
Don't think fear is cowardly. We all have fears. He was talking about strangers at the time, think about what exactly he said the moment you felt the fear. There may have been something or a close call that may have happened to you when you were young, but you are consciously unaware of what this was. Talk to your parents, if they're available, and see if they recall anything from when you were young. It may also be from a friend who had this type of experience, or something that is triggered from the news or something else that triggered this fear. It could also just be the subject matter that is a scary thing.
I would look at your past, or other triggers that may be the underlying cause. Talk to people who may know, and if you need to seek therapy to work through the issues that will eventually uncover the cause of why this phobia exists. I hope this helps. Take care.
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