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... Send *ena Bullock a private message | | | *ena Bullock's profile:I hope most people see that because age stands for experience; it helps to have 'been there, done that' in order to relate to others and hopefully give meaningful advice.
I feel that in this site some of you may find me crast, old-fashioned and unfeeling, but I do feel for those who really try to help themselves. Some of your writings don't give enough details, so questions have to be asked in order for me to connect with what you are dealing with. I hope you understand.
I think the younger generation doesn't appreciate what the older ones share with them; however, it IS the best advice. I know God is there for me and will be for you IF you ask HIS help.
I'm attached and very happy-the second half of my life will be more meaningful and cautious. After 26 years of marriage/divorced, it's time for me to live and enjoy what is left of my life. ME time!
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My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 16 July 2008: He certainly will reap what he's sown--no doubt. My ex is already feeling the sting of wrath through so many things since our divorce--car got flooded, house plans fell through, our 12 year old dog died while in his care since he wouldn't let me ... (read in full...)
My marriage has just been on self destruct and my wife won't change, I don't want to cheat again...
Q. Ok need advice. I have been married for 10 years have two kids aged 7 and 4. When i met my wife she was a size 16, over the years she has put more weight on and she is now a size 30. She does not work I have more to do with the kids than her, I h...
A. 1 July 2008: NO! SHE CANNOT DO THIS!!!! You are to talk to your attorney and tell him/her what she has told you--do you not have a settlement agreement signed giving you legal visitation on set weekends/holidays yet? This is something you must do in order to ... (read in full...)
My marriage has just been on self destruct and my wife won't change, I don't want to cheat again...
Q. Ok need advice. I have been married for 10 years have two kids aged 7 and 4. When i met my wife she was a size 16, over the years she has put more weight on and she is now a size 30. She does not work I have more to do with the kids than her, I h...
A. 24 June 2008: Dear,
You need to not do the drug thing...you'll only feel sluggish and not your real self. I never took one pill during my leave of my ex...didn't have lil' ones to leave behind; however, I have a 21 year old that still comes around~I kept her... (read in full...)
My marriage has just been on self destruct and my wife won't change, I don't want to cheat again...
Q. Ok need advice. I have been married for 10 years have two kids aged 7 and 4. When i met my wife she was a size 16, over the years she has put more weight on and she is now a size 30. She does not work I have more to do with the kids than her, I h...
A. 20 June 2008: Going back for the sake of the children isn't the right answer...you stayed for the sake of the children to begin with, remember? Keep on the same trek you're making now and start a new life. It's been too long and you need to clear your conscience ... (read in full...)
My marriage has just been on self destruct and my wife won't change, I don't want to cheat again...
Q. Ok need advice. I have been married for 10 years have two kids aged 7 and 4. When i met my wife she was a size 16, over the years she has put more weight on and she is now a size 30. She does not work I have more to do with the kids than her, I h...
A. 29 May 2008: When I was married, it was harder to be with someone who I knew had cheated on me time and time again...when he was over me in bed and staring into my eyes, all I could see was him looking and me and thinking about the other women he'd been ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 28 May 2008: You can withdraw from your attorney/solicitor; however, you shouldn't write HIS attorney asking how things would go if you ask for a settlement. That puts you in HIS court and at their mercy. YOU DON'T WANT THAT
Do your homework and find out wher... (read in full...)
I've been swinging for the past 2 years...should I take it further even though I'm married??
Q. hi i am nat i have been swinging for the last 2 years really in joy it looking to go a bit further in to orgys looking to have sex with 20 guys or more do u think this is a wise move as i am married??????...
A. 21 May 2008: Unless your mate does this with you---NOT WISE AT ALL! As a matter of fact, quite ignorant. Have you no morals? What did you marry for in the first place? Gena... (read in full...)
Help me understand him! How do I know if this teacher has feelings for me, or is just being shy? I'm over 18, by the way....
Q. Help me! Help me! how can undersand if a man is just shy and that's why he don't make the huge step to be his gf..or he just don't want me! I'm sure that he has feelings for me..but as i read many girls has the same problem with me..he is my teach...
A. 2 May 2008: He's playing you, dear. If he's friendly, it's because he wants something...and it's probably NOT a relationship. Hang tight and be aware. You're better than that.
Gena... (read in full...)
First time sex, how will I perform? Please help!!
Q. My girlfriend and I are ready for sex. This weekend is best as we'll be alone, but I'm nervous, will I get it up? What position? Will I get my penis in and orgasm? (with a condom on) I also want my girl to be happy. I know it's our 1st time, but tr...
A. 25 April 2008: Just relax and start kissing, the rest comes naturally.....slow, slow, slow........is best, best, best...Gena... (read in full...)
I really like my friend's boyfriend and he feels the same, what should I do?
Q. I don't know what to do, my friend's boyfriend really likes me and i like him. My friend and i don't speak that much now. I now speak to him everyday and really like spending time with him, but he still really likes his girlfriend. What should i...
A. 25 April 2008: Stay out of the relationship for now. Be friends and that is it. You don't want to be pointed out as a relationship crusher, do you?
Gena... (read in full...)
I need to know if this particular discharge and itching is normal
Q. Hi, This is a bit embarrassing, but lately i have had quite thick white vaginal discharge, it doesn't itch, but sometimes there is quite a lot of it - which makes it a bit uncomfortable which i dont think is normal. I've tried a thrush treat...
A. 25 April 2008: Check with a doctor, but sounds like you have a yeast infection. There are different kinds of those and they can be treated, but with the 'right' meds. check with the doc is your best advice.
Gena... (read in full...)
I don't feel anything during sex, help me out please.
Q. I always give my boyfriend handjobs and blowjobs. And he really wants to please me by fingering me and 'eating out' but everytime he tries I don't really feel anything. Anyone have any tips I could send his way?...
A. 25 April 2008: Sounds like you're not ready for sex.........or this person isn't the one for you. Maybe you have done so much for him that you have no real feelings intimately for this person.
I would step back and reiterate on the relationship before going fu... (read in full...)
Why is my sister so obsessed with wanting to look like me??
Q. Hi everyone this isn't really a love problem but you are always so helpful that maybe you can help me with this this: Ok my older sister (she's 26 i'm 21). She tries to look like me, i just got a fringe cut in and now she's asking where i got it d...
A. 25 April 2008: I never had a sis, so I can't understand the anguish this brings you. Sounds like she's jealous, maybe? I dunno, but I do know that you should be impressed that she wants and loves you enough to want to look like you. What's your mum think?
Gena... (read in full...)
Help me understand him! How do I know if this teacher has feelings for me, or is just being shy? I'm over 18, by the way....
Q. Help me! Help me! how can undersand if a man is just shy and that's why he don't make the huge step to be his gf..or he just don't want me! I'm sure that he has feelings for me..but as i read many girls has the same problem with me..he is my teach...
A. 25 April 2008: Honey,
There are other fish besides 'your teacher' as I don't care how 'old or young' you are. Just because you are infatuated with him doesn't mean visa versa. The best thing for you to do is leave it alone and hang with your friends.
You hea... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 9 April 2008: Thanks, honey... I was worried things were worse than what you feel. Hang in there. Time will heal things and you'll be better before too long. Like some of the other gals said, your baby (like my 3-2 misscarriages and one abortion) are in heaven ... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 8 April 2008: what is wrong,??????????????????
Gena... (read in full...)
Do people really ever get over there ex's or even worse first exe'?
Q. My ex cheated on me and we have now been seperated for 8 months. I was in alot of pain as he continued to see her after we split. I always felt more pain as he had stayed with her and I used to think 'if only he was with someone else it would not be ...
A. 4 April 2008: Honey, after six years of growing 'cold' I finally could look him in the eye and tell him its over. He was the one who had a hard time seeing me with my bf after we separated and I know it was hard on him. He's gotten better though; in fact, just ... (read in full...)
Should I trust him if I commit to a mortgage agreement
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating seriously for 3 years. We are both in our mid 20s. He is now living in different city because of work. He would like to buy a property so I can move up to his city about 1/2 year later (when my work gets orga...
A. 3 April 2008: Yuna,
How are things turning out in the mortgage world???
Gena... (read in full...)
Do people really ever get over there ex's or even worse first exe'?
Q. My ex cheated on me and we have now been seperated for 8 months. I was in alot of pain as he continued to see her after we split. I always felt more pain as he had stayed with her and I used to think 'if only he was with someone else it would not be ...
A. 3 April 2008: You are on the road to healing...You never forget, although, some day, you may forgive. It's a lesson in life that 'teaches us' not to do it again, or have someone else do it to us again. You are very fresh in your separation; I, for one, have been ... (read in full...)
Help with eating disorder friend/ ex girlfriend.
Q. I was just wondering if you could give me a bit of advice as to whether or not i have done the rite thing?? I told my friend who has an eating disorder last night that we could not talk anymore and that i needed space, i didnt want to do this but i ...
A. 3 April 2008: It is hard to help someone who isn't sure how to help themselves; especially when dealing with anorexia nervousa or bulimia. I, for one, have dealt with anorexia back in high school. It was hard and challenging and I had to want to NOT throw up and ... (read in full...)
I'm hurt thinking my ex preferred my best mate...
Q. i'm a bit confused, i split with my ex 3 months ago now and found out recently she likes 1 of my best mates. Before we started dating she had been dating a different best mate for a week or two but changed her mind and asked me out. I found out whil...
A. 2 April 2008: that's right--MOVE ON. She obviously doesn't care and didn't or she'd be with you. Sad, but true. Give yourself more credit and find a gf who treats you the way you deserve. Best, Gena... (read in full...)
He never pleases me in bed when I ask to be pleased, should I surrender to his phantasy, a threesome, because I love him?....
Q. My boyfriend really wants a threesome with another girl, hes always said before me and him got together about how its his fantasy and i do want to give it to him because i love him and want to give him what he wants. But im too scared to, i worry ...
A. 2 April 2008: Oh, my gosh...You've run into my ex!
don't do what HE wants all the time; it's a two way street, honey. If he can't communicate his feelings to you better than that, then he needs to hit the pavement.
Don't cut yourself short; I did and lived ... (read in full...)
Does he love me or just not good with expressing his feeling...?
Q. Dear Cupid My name is Joy11 and I'm 26 years old and I've been with my boyfriend for 8 years. He seldom tells me he loves me and I'm currently expecting his child and we're both very happy. Does he love me or just not good with expressing his f...
A. 31 March 2008: You are getting ready to go through some major hormonal changes, honey. The new baby on the way, you two are in love and do love each other after all this time. You just might not feel as attractive since you're pregnant, but remember HE is having ... (read in full...)
Over the past few months I've been feeling as if there's nothing there anymore. As if we've just settled into a routine.
Q. I'm in a relationship that's just hit the 3 year mark, even though I'm only 17. We also live together with my dad and older brother. However over the past few months I've been feeling as if there's nothing there anymore. As if we've just settled ...
A. 31 March 2008: I don't know how old your bf is; however, are there kids involved too?
SOunds odd to live with your dad/bro and he's there too?
Anyway, its not unusual to have a lag time in a relationship; I too have been living with my bf/fiance' for 3... (read in full...)
Is telling someone the only way to go?
Q. I have very deep feelings of affection for a teacher of mine and it's slowly killing me inside - I've already posted a question on this and everyone said to tell someone, but I tried to today and got too scared and couldn't speak. Is there any other ...
A. 31 March 2008: You need to stay away from older men, much less your teachers! Find someone your own age to fall for, NOT him.
He's going to get into trouble, lose his job, get arrested, and whatever else could happen should you pursue him. NO, NO, NO!
Get... (read in full...)
I'd like to know if there's any other way of pleasuring myself without using toys.
Q. hi. I need help. I masterbate quite a lot, but I'm getting bored of using my fingers. I recently rubbed myself against a teddy and it felt really good but I'd like to know if there's any other way of pleasuring myself without using toys. tha...
A. 31 March 2008: Water hose is a great way to get excited and fast! Lay in the tub on your back and (cut the water on first and adjust the temp--please!!!!)slide your bottom/clit underneath the running water....It's really a great way to masterbate and in private ... (read in full...)
How can I flirt, I know about smiling but nothing else.
Q. How can I flirt, I know about smiling but nothing else. I am in a wheelchair so I can't stand up and lie on guys or sit on their knee. I am very shy so this can help a guy know I like them, cause I am too shy 2 say it. How else can I flirt?...
A. 31 March 2008: In the 'wink of an eye' I'd say is a great way (and with that pretty smile you must have) to get things started!
Good luck!
Gena... (read in full...)
Is he hiding something from me?
Q. Hello all... I will try to keep this short... :) I have been seeing this man from NZ for over a year now, and things have been great, we spent 9 days together and everything was amazing.. Anyways I recently got an invitation to a website calle...
A. 31 March 2008: It seems he's been found out!
He has a past and you were a part of it online. I'd be questioning him too, if I were you. Your findings were innocent enough, so if he's being honest and cares, he'll spill the beans or let him fly a kite!
Gena... (read in full...)
Is age REALLY a problem???
Q. My girlfriend is 15 and I'm 23, is this perfectly okay (although we have said no 2 sex until she is old enough) we are both very much in love she means the world to me. ...
A. 31 March 2008: No sex, then its okay! You must really love her to wait and she must be pretty mature for her age to hold off. RESPECT for each other is the key and COMMUNICATION!
Best,Gena... (read in full...)
He no longer wants to please me sexually or orally after I had our baby, I feel insecure and need advice!
Q. My husband is 37 and im 27 and we just had a baby but about 6 months into my pregnancy he quit wanting to please me sexually or orally. I go down on him several times a week but he makes excuses on why he won't please me. The only time he does ...
A. 31 March 2008: Great hearing the persistancy that pays off in the end. Keep up the good work and keep TALKING!!!! Try to tone down the arguing though and keep a lower tone in your voice. It will bring his tone down if you remember to do so; plus, you don't want to ... (read in full...)
I'm not deformed or ugly so....how come I've never had a girlfriend? I'm 33yrs old.
Q. I am 33 years old and have never had a girlfriend before, never had a meaningful conversation with a girl, never flirted before, havent really 'liked' anyone for 11 years, and I don't have ANY friends. It's not like I am deformed or ugly, I just h...
A. 28 March 2008: You ever try spotting a girl and then try to work up a conversation??? Go to coffee shops and hang out for a while and take note of who comes in and out. do this regular enough and you'll realize who is single and who isn't. THen try to start a ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her to let me watch porn to get me aroused when we have sex?
Q. Been in a relationship with a girl for 5 years now... she's my second long-term girlfriend. Before I met her I was into porn, and lad mags, and generally just liked looking at women all the time. After I ended my relationship with my first long term ...
A. 28 March 2008: get viagra, and in the meantime, talk to her about it. Let her know it is bothering you and you WANT this relationship to last........but, you NEED her help in doing so. Something like this can take teamwork to make it work. DO it and be honest ... (read in full...)
How long will this take to heal?
Q. i have recentley had an operation for testicular torsion,and i was wondering how long it will take to heal and how long i must wait to be able to have sex? thankyou to anyone who knows the answer....
A. 28 March 2008: Twisted nuts, eh????????
I've heard of that happening.
Ask the doctor...don't you go back for a checkup or stitch removal???... (read in full...)
How long will this take to heal?
Q. i have recentley had an operation for testicular torsion,and i was wondering how long it will take to heal and how long i must wait to be able to have sex? thankyou to anyone who knows the answer....
A. 28 March 2008: your doc should have told you these things...did you not ask????... (read in full...)
What is the correct amount of hair around ones' pubic area?
Q. Hi this is a really, really embarrassing question, so i'd much prefer females to answer it, Thank you. Ok so I'm a virgin though i have a fabulous boyfriend, he's everything i've ever wanted. I'm old enough legally to have sex now, and i know that ...
A. 28 March 2008: Number one, you're too young to have sex.
Number two, you don't have hair on your 'vagina' per say...you have it around the vulva area on the outside, not ON or inside your vagina, honey. Let's be politically correct, first.
Now, you can shav... (read in full...)
My marriage has just been on self destruct and my wife won't change, I don't want to cheat again...
Q. Ok need advice. I have been married for 10 years have two kids aged 7 and 4. When i met my wife she was a size 16, over the years she has put more weight on and she is now a size 30. She does not work I have more to do with the kids than her, I h...
A. 28 March 2008: Okay, now. She's going through with this and its not only for her benefit, but yours and the marriage as well. YOU need to give it this last push or you'll be just giving her another reason to 'give up' and shut things down.
You got her this far... (read in full...)
Should I trust him if I commit to a mortgage agreement
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating seriously for 3 years. We are both in our mid 20s. He is now living in different city because of work. He would like to buy a property so I can move up to his city about 1/2 year later (when my work gets orga...
A. 28 March 2008: The two of you could do this together and just have a notary sign it.
Agree to helping him, show that you paid half and signed it and visa versa.
In the event of his death or visa versa, who's getting what.
That type of thing....I am having to do... (read in full...)
I'm not deformed or ugly so....how come I've never had a girlfriend? I'm 33yrs old.
Q. I am 33 years old and have never had a girlfriend before, never had a meaningful conversation with a girl, never flirted before, havent really 'liked' anyone for 11 years, and I don't have ANY friends. It's not like I am deformed or ugly, I just h...
A. 28 March 2008: Okay, the eight year old boys penis thing really makes sense now.......but, does everything have to evolve around sex? NO!
find a website that involved men with small ones and do a social site visit and discuss it. You feel lost and down becuase ... (read in full...)
I'm not deformed or ugly so....how come I've never had a girlfriend? I'm 33yrs old.
Q. I am 33 years old and have never had a girlfriend before, never had a meaningful conversation with a girl, never flirted before, havent really 'liked' anyone for 11 years, and I don't have ANY friends. It's not like I am deformed or ugly, I just h...
A. 28 March 2008: Boy, your self esteem SUCKS--not to mention your ATTITUDE about life in general.
Were you home schooled or what? Jeesh. Why'd you bother writing us if you have such a bad attitude about yourself/life?
Unless you find someone who is like YOU?... (read in full...)
After two years of dating will he ever cut all ties with his ex
Q. Am I asking for too much? I have been dating a guy for a little over two years now. When we started dating he was still married but seperated, which I did not find out until I started asking questions about the divorce. By this time, though, I ...
A. 28 March 2008: My bf and me went through divorces and we don't talk to our ex's anymore...unless it involves the kids--they're grown now though...so that is seldom, if at all.
Unless they had kids together, then he's got issues that aren't resolved betwixt ... (read in full...)
Should I trust him if I commit to a mortgage agreement
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating seriously for 3 years. We are both in our mid 20s. He is now living in different city because of work. He would like to buy a property so I can move up to his city about 1/2 year later (when my work gets orga...
A. 28 March 2008: If you are going to commit to this relationship, I suggest legal paperwork to cover your butt, Missy.
My BF wanted me to sign with him on his mtg (he just divorced) and I wouldn't because my name isn't on the deed.
(another long story with a... (read in full...)
He no longer wants to please me sexually or orally after I had our baby, I feel insecure and need advice!
Q. My husband is 37 and im 27 and we just had a baby but about 6 months into my pregnancy he quit wanting to please me sexually or orally. I go down on him several times a week but he makes excuses on why he won't please me. The only time he does ...
A. 27 March 2008: I wouldn't 'say no' if he 'wants' to have you. I would play hard to get a bit though...sometimes teasing can bring on more lust in the love light than a total 'turn off'. Reconsider your moves before you make the wrong one.
At least he's paying a... (read in full...)
He no longer wants to please me sexually or orally after I had our baby, I feel insecure and need advice!
Q. My husband is 37 and im 27 and we just had a baby but about 6 months into my pregnancy he quit wanting to please me sexually or orally. I go down on him several times a week but he makes excuses on why he won't please me. The only time he does ...
A. 25 March 2008: Are you talking about me???? Lordy, Girlfriend. I was 27 when I had my first and only child and my ex (husband at that time) did me exactly the same way...and, unfortunately, it never changed. He lOVED blow jobs more than anything else. Of course, ... (read in full...)
My marriage has just been on self destruct and my wife won't change, I don't want to cheat again...
Q. Ok need advice. I have been married for 10 years have two kids aged 7 and 4. When i met my wife she was a size 16, over the years she has put more weight on and she is now a size 30. She does not work I have more to do with the kids than her, I h...
A. 14 March 2008: BFG~
You are apart and now you feel some relief. If she has the gastric bypass surgery, there is a chance she may not pull through due to her obesity and the risk of anesthesia. I had a friend die who was as large as she right afterwards. And I've... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 13 March 2008: "I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am" #1-If you are under-aged or live where it isn't legal-don't. #2-Make sure this is really what you want. #3-Talk to a preacher/priest/clergy or counselor "Could anyone explain what... (read in full...)
My marriage has just been on self destruct and my wife won't change, I don't want to cheat again...
Q. Ok need advice. I have been married for 10 years have two kids aged 7 and 4. When i met my wife she was a size 16, over the years she has put more weight on and she is now a size 30. She does not work I have more to do with the kids than her, I h...
A. 11 March 2008: First of all, why wouldn't your wife want to do something about her obesity? It is obvious you are reaching out for help. Has she considered counseling with you? Have you? Go that route and get back to me...that'll answer a big question I have. Th... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 11 March 2008: IT has everything to do with her. She destroyed your marriage and if he was any kind of a man, he would have been more of a doting husband with all you two have been through. The big issue is probably the 'sex.' How were things at home when he was ... (read in full...)
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