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*ordzz
writes:i'm a bit confused, i split with my ex 3 months ago now and found out recently she likes 1 of my best mates. Before we started dating she had been dating a different best mate for a week or two but changed her mind and asked me out. I found out whilst dating her that had another one of my mates been single she would've asked him out! She was my first serious relationship of 5 months and she claims to always be there for me etc but not in the way i want. It makes me feel sick thinking of her and my best mate, i dont know who to be more angry at or whether to just forget about her, stop massarging her ego and move on. Help!Thanks.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 April 2008):
Tell your mate she wasn't worth it anyway and go out on the pull together.
Cut contact with this girl as even though she might still feel like a mate, all she does is cause you trouble.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, jordzz +, writes (7 April 2008):
jordzz is verified as being by the original poster of the question yeah i know i should move on, ive been with a few other girls since her its just that i went to france to work recently and saw her the night i left, we were cuddled up watchin tv all nite and she kissed me. I got bk 2 weeks later and asked her bk out,(this was a week ago now) she said she likes me but not enough and that there isnt enough chemistry between us. Also she liked my best m8 and met upwith him that day, sheworks 70 hours a wk so i cant c her havin a relationship! My mate L seemed really happy that she likes him cos he liked her for a while, but she called me a couple of days ago to say that she thought L was too inexperienced in relationships and that she had met sum1 at work. Firstly i have to admit i felt partly relieved but then i felt bad for my m8 and confused as to why she told me, sure we hav stayed in contact and always encourage each other to talk if we need but in that ins tance i dont know why she told me and made me promise not to tell L?! I havent told him, she said she would in person but since then she hasnt been respondin to his calls or texts, i want to help him out but want to st ay m8s with all involved! Any advice people? Thankyou to emily and gene btw, sorry this update is so long but your answers will be greatly appreciated! Jordan x
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reader, Gena Bullock  +, writes (2 April 2008):
 that's right--MOVE ON. She obviously doesn't care and didn't or she'd be with you. Sad, but true. Give yourself more credit and find a gf who treats you the way you deserve. Best, Gena
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (2 April 2008):
You've answered your own question.
Forget about her and move on. She obviously gets off on playing games. Some girls love the feeling of having blokes fighting over them. They love the attention and the jealousy and drama. She sounds a bit messed up to me.. Low self esteem etc.
She is not worth your heartache. She probably doesn't like any of you that much. Warn your mate that he is after him next having working through the rest of the group. Do you think he'll want your rejects? I wouldn't. But then again, you took her on after she dumped your other friend.
Next time yo decide to commit to a girl, don't pick one who's flitting between you and other people. Pick one who's only interested in you.
Good Luck xx
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