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... Send *idapoo a private message | | | *idapoo's profile:Hi, Im 25 and have a 6 year old and a 4 year old from my first marriage. He was killed on my aniversary, and 2 days before my daughters first birthday. Umm, I am currently married (but that is subject to change) to a man who is a great supporter, but I am finding out that I need a man who is in love with me, and wants to make me feel good about myself. So for now I will say that I am currently in the process of moving on. I want to make a great life for me and my family, and so who knows from day to day.
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I want an orgasm- please help!
Q. I haven't had many sexual partners (4) but I am not a sexually inexperienced or unadventurous person. But I have always faked orgasms with all my boyfriends and I am ashamed to say I have never, not even once, had an orgasm through sex. I can ...
A. 19 February 2008: I agree with rcn, there is no science to it, you just gotta decide what feels best. What ever makes you orgasm via masturbation, use that to guide you in sex. Also, your boyfriend should never "stop trying". If you cant come, he should try something ... (read in full...)
Any position except for missionary is painful for me. Any physical defects on my side? How can we amend this?
Q. I'm having a problem with sex. No matter how hard we try, my boyfriend and I can't do any position other than missionary. It's painful for me to do anything else, it always feels like he hits a certain spot and it's the most painful thing ever. My ...
A. 17 February 2008: Well, first, if it just hurts a little, you might just need to get used to it? If it REALLY hurts, go to the doctor. Have you ever had a yearly? I dont know, but it did kind of hurt at first for me, too, but not agony, just a little bit. Hope t... (read in full...)
Should I call this woman that has been intimate with my bf and whose presence I see as a "dare" or would this be overboard?
Q. My BF and I have been together for about 4 years. We have been living together for 2 years. Before we moved in together, we were long distance for about 7 months. We had the understanding that we could sleep with other people, but once we settled in ...
A. 17 February 2008: First, your guy needs to do it, girl. You need to tell him to make her quit. If he wont end this, then maybe you need to do some inspecting of your own? Then give her a call, and see if maybe you are being played a little. And why wont he? If he ... (read in full...)
It's been a month since we've been going out, do you think it's a problem we have not kissed yet?
Q. Well how should I start... I first met this girl my junior year of high school (last year) through a friend, but I was having other problems dealing with someone I fell for but she rejected me badly and moved to Florida. We didn't know each other's ...
A. 17 February 2008: Just ask her out right if she wants you to kiss her. By the way --- I am really happy that two kids like your selves are waiting for kissing and not sex --- BRAVO!! IF she is shy, she might just want you to do it, anyway, but cummunication is key. ... (read in full...)
I didn't ejaculate through manual stimulation with my first gf. Any method to facilitate this? Is anterior masturbation to blame?
Q. Hey Im a 26 year old male virgin, and only got my 1st girl friend a month ago.. My girl has tried giving me a handjob 4 times now, each time with her tryin until her arms go numb (30 mins to an hour), and i just don't cum I dont know if its ...
A. 17 February 2008: Well, first, she needs to do it in a manner that feels good to you. When she does something that feels good, tell her that. If it doesn't don't act like does by any means. Grab her hand when shes doing it and show her what you like. If that doesn't ... (read in full...)
Site News: We hit another milestone :-)
Q. For the first time we broke the 400,000 visitors mark over the past month! We had 412,222 people visit the site from Jan 13th 08 - Feb 14th 08 according to google analytics! Thanks to all the mods, the aunts and everyone who shares their pro...
A. 17 February 2008: Ok thanks Mandy, LOL. Boy do I feel like a donkey, huh? Dont think I need one. As far as the mallet goes, make sure its BIG, or you might have to swing twice, thus causing headache, oh and the attempted murder charge! HAHA you are a trip, Mandy! L... (read in full...)
A husband who loves his wife doesn't say things like that to her right...?
Q. My husband and I got into an arguement last evening. He was having a beer during dinner and kept on commenting how good the beer tastes throughout dinner and after dinner. While then, I said to him that flowers are nice to give, especially if one ...
A. 17 February 2008: No he shouldnt, but he might not think about what he says before he says it. Has he always been like this, or is this new? As far as flowers go, if one year he forgets, that might be because of stress. But if its a sudden change, and he stays ... (read in full...)
Do I continue to live with my mum or move in with my boyfriend?
Q. Hi I have been around for my mother in a lot of ways for many years, almost looking after her so to speak, her marriage has recently broken down and she has become more and more dependent on me, I still live at home but have a long term and steady b...
A. 15 February 2008: While I do understand that your mother may be having a rough time, she also needs to understand that you have a life too. She is the one who raised you, im sure that she can take care of herself. Make sure you do check in from time to time (I still ... (read in full...)
Site News: We hit another milestone :-)
Q. For the first time we broke the 400,000 visitors mark over the past month! We had 412,222 people visit the site from Jan 13th 08 - Feb 14th 08 according to google analytics! Thanks to all the mods, the aunts and everyone who shares their pro...
A. 15 February 2008: Just a question, but whats a BP? You are probably laughing, huh? Just curious. By the way, congrats!!!! ... (read in full...)
Could I be going through a mid life crisis already?
Q. I don't know what's wrong with me lately. I'm starting to feel worthless, like I should be doing something more with my life. I'm in my early 30's, I am married and I have 2 kids (6 and 4) I have a full time job. My marriage is rocky right n...
A. 15 February 2008: I dont know if its a mid life crisis or not, but it sounds to me that you are tired of floating through life waiting for something to happen. Thats the same point that I am at. I dont work (it actually causes me to lose money because of social s... (read in full...)
I have been wanting to be part of that group for ages, but I can't gather the courage to talk to them as the girl I like is there.
Q. Hi, Okay, im in a bit of a mood with myself:P At High School (i'm 15), i've always been friends with "geeks" and i've never had any reall female attention and i'm seen as a "geek" also. There is a group of people i've been wanting to make friends ...
A. 15 February 2008: Just go for it. Wait till she isnt around if it is her, and just start talking to them. Small talk. Wait till the subject is on something you know about, and insert your opinion. See what happens, but relax before you go over there. Hope this hel... (read in full...)
How do I get myself back to normal after all the heartaches I've endured?
Q. ok here it goes... i fell out with my boyfriend of 4 and a half yrs about 2 and a half years ago and ever since i fell out with him ive realised what it is like to be lonely. one minute i am single enjoying the single life then next minute i a...
A. 14 February 2008: I know the feeling. First, if you love the single life, stay that way. Its hard at first, but then it does get easier. Just take it a day at a time, and stay busy. Remember that your only young once. Trust me, the single life is way better than a ... (read in full...)
Does she want me or not??
Q. My girl friend is very hard to understand there are times when i feel like she wants me then other times she acts like she doesn't want me around; during these times i'll try to call her and she doesn't answer me so then i stop trying. After ...
A. 14 February 2008: So call her. It might be that she doesnt always hear the phone. Is it a cell phone? Could be that she is out of service in some parts of her house? I used to have that problem, now we have a new tower, but that happened alot, missing calls because ... (read in full...)
My girl had a lot of contact with her ex when we first started, I don't know if it has continued
Q. Do you think it is possible for a person to love 2 people at the same time? My girlfriend of a few months seems to have had alot of contact with her ex when we were first seeing each other. She is the one who pursued me, not the other way around. ...
A. 14 February 2008: Well, tell her that it bothers you. If she really loves you then she will stop. She may have lied to you, but if she would have told you, would you have been ok with that? And also, maybe he was calling her tryin to get her back. She might not have ... (read in full...)
My girl had a lot of contact with her ex when we first started, I don't know if it has continued
Q. Do you think it is possible for a person to love 2 people at the same time? My girlfriend of a few months seems to have had alot of contact with her ex when we were first seeing each other. She is the one who pursued me, not the other way around. ...
A. 14 February 2008: Well, what kind of contact is it? Is she just talking about things that need sorted out, or is she trying to be with him? If its just because of break-up things, she might just be sorting it out.... (read in full...)
Should I go out with my ugly friend or hold out for someone better looking?
Q. my good friend bought me a valentines card and asked me out. i think hes ugly and am a bit embarresed by him but hes also sweet, funny and likes me for who i am on the inside. should i go out with him or wait for my ideal boy who would have my level ...
A. 14 February 2008: If you don't like him like that, then dont. just be his friend... (read in full...)
My friend likes the same guy I do and is making me feel so guilty about it! I havent even dated him yet!
Q. I have liked a guy for quite a long time now, and I was thinking about making a move, and then my friend told me she likes the same guy! I explained to her that I did to, and she said thats fine, she will try to stop liking him (which was her ...
A. 14 February 2008: While it is her choice, she is your friend. For her to say she'll back off for you and him, even if she wont leave you alone with him, says alot. Tell her that since you both like him, leave it up to him. If he doesnt like one of you, just be ... (read in full...)
Do you think my boyfriend might be gay?
Q. OK, Heres question #2: I realize that I should have stated these facts- From day 1 in our relationship I have had to beg for sex. Like I said before, he has performed oral on me 3 times, and I know that this is not because of me, I went to the ...
A. 14 February 2008: Why thank you. I think you have hit it there. I would NOT stay if he were gay, and as such I am making plans to leave right now. As far as the blow job thing, thats exactly what I always thought. I give great blow jobs, this from most men I've ever ... (read in full...)
Has anyone else ever experienced losing consciousness after orgasms?
Q. When I have an orgasm and predominantly when it is via masturbation, my experience may sound somewhat bizarre...but it gets really euphoric. When I climax I experience an almost dream-like state and I feel semi-conscious, I am not sure if I pass out ...
A. 14 February 2008: No, but I wish I did!! Unless it becomes an issue, lol. Then I might worry. I kind of get the feeling of out of body, though not as intense. Kind of cool if you ask me. I have a bigger orgasm via masturbation, makes me yell a little, without trying, ... (read in full...)
Obsessed with a girl from college and letting other opportunities pass by...
Q. I'm a male in his early 20's, and for a while I think I've been obsessed with a girl from college. She has a long term boyfriend, and the're both good for each other. I know it's best for me to just stay away and I have been, but It's not getting ...
A. 14 February 2008: Well, two years is a long time to wait for someone, and if she doesnt see it that way, then, you are missing out on a life full of opportunities. Maybe you should focus on other things that you like for awhile, and let things unfold. Maybe someone ... (read in full...)
I can't walk away from my partner and yet I love this other man so much!
Q. I have been in a 5 year relationship which has dwindled to companionship and financial ties to my partner. I do love him, but I am afraid to leave and the upheaval it would bring. I met someone last year through work and fell madly in love with him ...
A. 14 February 2008: Well, maybe you should just take a break from your partner, and see where that leads you. Start by being true to yourself. Find out what your true passions are. Live life as YOU want, dont follow a "map" that someone else wants you to follow. Maybe ... (read in full...)
Going through depression, considering myself ugly!
Q. help i am going through depression i am onyl 14 (15 in 2 months)i think i am the most ugliest girl in my year this is because i recently got told i was ugly by my best freind i think she is right too!!! and also i looked in the mirror i thought ...
A. 13 February 2008: first of all, shes obviously not your best friend. sorry, but take it from me, real friends dont say your ugly. As for depresion, talk to your parents or someone you trust, and go see a councelor. Trust me, it will make a difference. Talk to your ... (read in full...)
My feelings died for him, will they come back?
Q. Hi all, Please, I need some advice. I have been in a relationship for 12 years, and am now 28. It has been a mistake from the start, but I did love him. He has spent alot of time critisizing me, bad mouthing my family friends, my ways, and tryi...
A. 13 February 2008: I agree about the "living dead". I used to say that i was just an existence, waiting for time to pass. Im done with that now and I am looking for my way out.... (read in full...)
How do I forget him?
Q. Although I split up with my ex three years ago he doesn't leave me alone because it's not that he is nice to me or says he wants to be with me, he is evil, fat and I hate him and he gets in the way of me and my boyfriend by hangigng around us when ...
A. 13 February 2008: Dont acknowledge him. Ignore everything he does. Look through him. Hes doing it because you respond to it, whether you know you do or not. Tell your new boyfriend to rub it in his face when hes around. When hes in ear shot, talk about how lame it ... (read in full...)
My feelings died for him, will they come back?
Q. Hi all, Please, I need some advice. I have been in a relationship for 12 years, and am now 28. It has been a mistake from the start, but I did love him. He has spent alot of time critisizing me, bad mouthing my family friends, my ways, and tryi...
A. 13 February 2008: WOW! You have just hit it on the head! That is kind of the same situation I have recently found myself in. Like yours, my husband has suddenly tried to make it work, and like you, I have no compassion, I dont look at him the same, I dont have the ... (read in full...)
Do you think my boyfriend might be gay?
Q. OK, Heres question #2: I realize that I should have stated these facts- From day 1 in our relationship I have had to beg for sex. Like I said before, he has performed oral on me 3 times, and I know that this is not because of me, I went to the ...
A. 13 February 2008: No, they are both from my first husband, who passed away right before my daughters first birthday. My problem is that he used to play with my son, too. Now, he usually just wants my girl, and he acts like my son is nothing more than a friends kid or ... (read in full...)
Do you think my boyfriend might be gay?
Q. OK, Heres question #2: I realize that I should have stated these facts- From day 1 in our relationship I have had to beg for sex. Like I said before, he has performed oral on me 3 times, and I know that this is not because of me, I went to the ...
A. 12 February 2008: Really, nothing. I met him at a bar about three months after my first husband died (moment of drunken weekness), and we were friends at friends-w-benefits kinda, and then for some reason I still dont know I moved in with him. Then everyone began ... (read in full...)
Do you think my boyfriend might be gay?
Q. OK, Heres question #2: I realize that I should have stated these facts- From day 1 in our relationship I have had to beg for sex. Like I said before, he has performed oral on me 3 times, and I know that this is not because of me, I went to the ...
A. 12 February 2008: ok so what do you do when he, all of a sudden, paints your daughters toes (shes 4) and fingers, and then my toes, and then two of his own toes? Is that normal, i mean, my first husband painted my toes and stuff, but there is no way that he would ... (read in full...)
Have one child and we don't want another but...could I be pregnant again??
Q. I am 20 years old and newly wed, We already have one son together he is 16months old and we are very happy. The thing is i am on the pill (Microgynon 30) as we both feel strongly that we dont want anymore children, I am extremely carefull. Its just ...
A. 12 February 2008: First, did you just start taking this? If you did, it can take months for it to work right. If not, take a pregnancy test, and go to the doctor. Not really something to mess around with. It could also be hormonal. I had that problem alot after my ... (read in full...)
I don't want to date her
Q. hello... so here i'm stuck in a tricky situation. i go to a catacism class every week on a wednesday, and theres this girl who goes there. i dont really like her too much, and she asked me out, but i said 'i dont know' (worst thing to say ever). a...
A. 12 February 2008: first of all, I really think that you need to tell either your parents, or one of the teachers because A: she may be serious, and if she said that it could actually be a cry for help; and B: you should never feel obligated to go out with someone. ... (read in full...)
I recently became involved with a long term friend. What does he want from me?
Q. I recently became involved with a long time friend and who I have known for about 11 years. When we first met eachother we dated very casually (we were both about 16-17) so it was nothing serious. Over the years we have both been in long term ...
A. 12 February 2008: I am currently at the end of that kind of a relationship, and let me tell you, it doesnt get better. I was in that same one, always one excuse or another, then one day, because I forced it, he took me to ANOTHER town to have dinner in a BAR. Nice, ... (read in full...)
Can only orgasm during masterbation
Q. I am 25 and can only orgasm from masturbation. I enjoy sex with my boyfriend but it's frusturating and we change positions and try new things?! help.......
A. 12 February 2008: If you have never had an orgasm, get on top and move around a little until it fells really good. Try it a few different ways, but im sure if you get on top you will eventually orgasm.... (read in full...)
I don't want her to end up heartbroken like me
Q. I have a big problem...my ex nows has a nice and very sweet new girlfriend...and it just breaks my heart to see him treat he wrong...i mean he has tried to sleep with my while he has been with her..and he says he's in love with her..but still texts ...
A. 12 February 2008: honey, just leave it becuase she wont believe you anyway. He'll tell her its just so you can have him back. If she asks you though, tell her the truth. Just understand that some things are better left unsaid
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I can't walk away from my partner and yet I love this other man so much!
Q. I have been in a 5 year relationship which has dwindled to companionship and financial ties to my partner. I do love him, but I am afraid to leave and the upheaval it would bring. I met someone last year through work and fell madly in love with him ...
A. 12 February 2008: Very well put, and I think that happiness is the tie that binds us to life, if that makes any sense. Anyway, you need to decide if you want love or things. Maybe you should tell your husband that you are thinking of leaving. See what he says.... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong here?
Q. Hello everyone, I need a bit of advice. Two Saturdays ago I went to my local pub/restraunt where I had met my boyfreind (now ex), everything was going well in a way, but he kept on believing his mate over me, anyway cut a long story short, as I ...
A. 12 February 2008: Hi. I think that his friend may have said something, or he is just upset because you wouldnt have sex with him. Dont think that it was something you did, because if he was really into you, he would have told you why he was ending it. It sounds to me ... (read in full...)
Help! Married to one, In love with the other!
Q. i am 24, married twice, and widowed the first time with two kids. my new husband, i fear was a rebound for me and i was for him. Our sex life is a mess, hes only performed oral three times, and i know its not because of me. i started cheating on him ...
A. 11 February 2008: Can I say one more thing? I just have to explain my reasoning in this. I caught him masturbating (my husband) in bed while he thought i was asleep. When i confronted him he said he was "doing crunches", and i saw him do it. He wont have sex with me ... (read in full...)
Help! Married to one, In love with the other!
Q. i am 24, married twice, and widowed the first time with two kids. my new husband, i fear was a rebound for me and i was for him. Our sex life is a mess, hes only performed oral three times, and i know its not because of me. i started cheating on him ...
A. 11 February 2008: Thanks for the input, and i do agree, i have that level headedness for other people. Just a little different on your self, you know? Anyways, i was just hoping for that feeling of want and love. ... (read in full...)
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