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writes:OK, Heres question #2: I realize that I should have stated these facts- From day 1 in our relationship I have had to beg for sex. Like I said before, he has performed oral on me 3 times, and I know that this is not because of me, I went to the doctor, and since I am being honest, my best girlfriend, yes I said it, says that its fine. She and I have been together 3 times in the last 4 months. I must say shes the best friend-with-benfits I could imagine!! Anyway, I tried to ignore it for a really long time, then I saw something one night when he thought I was asleep, that made me start thinking. He was masturbating in bed behind me! This was like 30 minutes after he had shot me down. I used to go down on him all the time in hopes that he would do the same, and that never happened. Then I started noticing that he was getting up at night, even after we made love, when he thought I was asleep. I never found out what he was doing, I just went to my moms for a week. Do you think hes gay?
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reader, didapoo +, writes (14 February 2008):
didapoo is verified as being by the original poster of the question Why thank you. I think you have hit it there. I would NOT stay if he were gay, and as such I am making plans to leave right now. As far as the blow job thing, thats exactly what I always thought. I give great blow jobs, this from most men I've ever given them to. I am a very good looking girl, I get hit on every where I go if hes not around, and I know that I'm not a slouch in the bedroom. I am very healthy sexually, and am pretty appalled by the whole thing. I've never had to beg for sex in my life, I always turn it down if anything. I now know how you men feel, and I dont think I will ever turn it down again without serious consideration, lol. With that being said, "I'm outta here!!" I am moving home in two weeks, just to evaluate the situation if nothing else. Who knows, maybe I'll have some sex? HAHAHA Thanks for taking the time to answer this, needed a mans input. I appreciate it.
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reader, didapoo +, writes (13 February 2008):
didapoo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, they are both from my first husband, who passed away right before my daughters first birthday. My problem is that he used to play with my son, too. Now, he usually just wants my girl, and he acts like my son is nothing more than a friends kid or something, he nice to him, but no emotional feelings unless I get upset, which in turn makes them a forced show of emotions. I am really concerned that it will eventually lead my son to resent me and my daughter, because the same thing happened to my brother and I from my dad. I was "it" and he was pushed aside. We still have problems with it today, as he is in prison, lost all 3 of his children, my mom has the older 2, and I have the youngest one, he'll be 2 in may. So, what to do? Should I avoid the inevitable outcome, my kids do always come first, and go back 3 and a half years, towhen my husband died. By the way - side note - sorry i am so curious, i am just really scared and i am getting more unhappy, and i really value your opinion. Thanks. Anyway, I think i jumped into a relationship way too fast after losing my husband. It seems everyday looking back that I was numb for the last 3 years (imagine that). I finally have feelings again! Thats where this so-called wake up call came from. Wow this is getting long, huh? I still think he is way too attached to a little girl that he loves, but isn't his, when he is so much colder to a little boy who adores him, and immediatly looked to him at 3 years old, to be the dad that he lost. Hes six now and all he wants is him to notice that hes there. Thats tears me up everyday. I grew up knowing my dad, and after he couldn't hurt my brother anymore (who is not his), i didnt exist. He has another family now, and couldnt even be bothered to show up to my wedding(s). So I dont want history to repeat itself, you know?
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reader, didapoo +, writes (12 February 2008):
didapoo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionReally, nothing. I met him at a bar about three months after my first husband died (moment of drunken weekness), and we were friends at friends-w-benefits kinda, and then for some reason I still dont know I moved in with him. Then everyone began pressuring us to get married, so we did. Bad Idea. I think I was still so numb from my 1st one that I just kind of floated through the years because he was easy, we dont fight (we dont talk) and he USED to be a good dad to BOTH of my kids. Now, he worships the ground that my daughter walks on and he completly ignores my son. My mom thinks thats not good, and so do others. Kind of scary to myself now that I think about it
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reader, didapoo +, writes (12 February 2008):
didapoo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok so what do you do when he, all of a sudden, paints your daughters toes (shes 4) and fingers, and then my toes, and then two of his own toes? Is that normal, i mean, my first husband painted my toes and stuff, but there is no way that he would have it on him self. And, he is way more into stupid tv dramas then me, then theres the issue of fashion. Lets just say that anyman that can do better hair than a woman is, well lets just say, a little off?? Dont you think? I dont know if i can handle a man that is more feminine than me...
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