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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I recently became involved with a long time friend and who I have known for about 11 years. When we first met eachother we dated very casually (we were both about 16-17) so it was nothing serious. Over the years we have both been in long term relationships but always maintained our friendship. About 6 months ago we just all of a sudden started hanging out more (both of us now single) and became physical. It was the first time we had even slept with eachother. He is in med school and lives about 45 minutes away from me so we see eachother about once/week and then he just wants to come over and watch a movie and relax instead of going somewhere (no dating kind of thing which upsets me). He told me in the beginning that he wanted to take things very slow and didnt want a relationship at this time and at first I was ok with that but now of course I am irritated and want a little more of a commitment. So my question for you is: Should I be more understanding of his situation and be patient or should I end things if he isnt willing to make somewhat of a commitment? He never even talks about whether or not he has feelings for me (obviously he does, but never "says" it) and things just kind of go unsaid. I am very confused! Reply to this Question
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reader, didapoo +, writes (12 February 2008):
 I am currently at the end of that kind of a relationship, and let me tell you, it doesnt get better. I was in that same one, always one excuse or another, then one day, because I forced it, he took me to ANOTHER town to have dinner in a BAR. Nice, huh? He is now my husband, and I cant go to the BAR, drink, or have any friends that do that either, or he gets "disappointed". Did I mention that I met him in a bar in the town we live in? Well, now I am learning the error of my ways.
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