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*idapoo
writes:i am 24, married twice, and widowed the first time with two kids. my new husband, i fear was a rebound for me and i was for him. Our sex life is a mess, hes only performed oral three times, and i know its not because of me. i started cheating on him right before christmas when i was out of town. since then i have seen the man twice, most recently this last saturday night. we met at a motel in another town, and when i walked in there were six very perfect, very expensive red roses in a vase. he makes me feel so nervous, but a good nervous. he holds me like he wants me,and he treats me like a lady. i can honestly say he makes me feel like a kid again, and i want that. should i go for it and try to make a new relationship, a long distance one, move on and see if this guy is the one?
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reader, didapoo +, writes (11 February 2008):
didapoo is verified as being by the original poster of the question Can I say one more thing? I just have to explain my reasoning in this. I caught him masturbating (my husband) in bed while he thought i was asleep. When i confronted him he said he was "doing crunches", and i saw him do it. He wont have sex with me half the time, and when we do, its for his "benefit". I've explained this many times to him in the past, and all he can tell me is that it was never a problem for his first wife. So really, i dont have much of a relationship with him anyway.
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reader, didapoo +, writes (11 February 2008):
didapoo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the input, and i do agree, i have that level headedness for other people. Just a little different on your self, you know? Anyways, i was just hoping for that feeling of want and love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): You cant just move from guy to guy all your life. Sort out your marriage first and if it is going nowhere then end it and have some time with just you and the kids. Why are you careering from one mess to another? I can see that you are unhappy, but please, stop this cycle now. You have two kids to think about, what if you had met this bloke and he turned out to me a murderer? You met in a motel, sorry, but how seedy it that? Sneaky and out of the way. Please sort out your life at home first, put the kids top of your list. If you are going to get a divorce then do it and spend some time on your own and get to know yourself and your kids and learn to love yourself too, instead of throwing yourself at the next possible bloke that passes by in the hope that this one might be the one! He may, the next idiot! Please stop now, and listen to me, i speak from experience, three kids later and a crap life. Mail me if you want, but honestly you are on a path to destruction and the only way is down.
take care
xx
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