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writes: Do you think it is possible for a person to love 2 people at the same time? My girlfriend of a few months seems to have had alot of contact with her ex when we were first seeing each other. She is the one who pursued me, not the other way around. I am not sure if the contact has ended or not
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (14 February 2008):
 Ask her. Hopefully she'll be honest. And you should be prepared to hear the truth without freaking out. You didn't say how long they were together, or how long they had been apart when she started seeing you. These are also factors. I went through this recently myself. I started seeing a guy who had gone through a rocky relationship 2 years prior to me. After learning all the wicked, mean things she did to him when they were together, how she stole money from him, tried to bring false arrest charges against him, almost got him fired from work, it never occurred to me he might still love her! But he was! Even after I moved in with him a year later, they still had contact with each other. Usually it was her, calling him wanting money from him. And I never really knew if he gave her any or not. Nor did I want to know because it would've pissed me off for sure. She was such a user! But she had some kind of mysterious hold on him. She eventually disappeared from our lives and thank God because I always had the fear that if she suddenly decided she wanted him back, I'd be up shit creek. Some people love blindly and they don't let go of that love easily, no matter what happens.
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reader, didapoo  +, writes (14 February 2008):
 Well, tell her that it bothers you. If she really loves you then she will stop. She may have lied to you, but if she would have told you, would you have been ok with that? And also, maybe he was calling her tryin to get her back. She might not have told you for fear of you breaking up with her or something like that. Just dont make accusations until you talk to her about it, and she knows that it bothers you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): Phone calls, but I am unsure what they have talked about since this was done behind my back. (This was last summer) As far as them seeing each other, I don't really know for sure. I think there was maybe still some unresolved feelings for each other after their breakup. We are together and she says she loves me but I just have alot of nagging doubts since I feel I was lied to in the past. I just have a hard time trusting her. I think she still loved him at the beginning.
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reader, didapoo +, writes (14 February 2008):
Well, what kind of contact is it? Is she just talking about things that need sorted out, or is she trying to be with him? If its just because of break-up things, she might just be sorting it out.
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