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writes:I have liked a guy for quite a long time now, and I was thinking about making a move, and then my friend told me she likes the same guy! I explained to her that I did to, and she said thats fine, she will try to stop liking him (which was her choice).However now she constantly plagues me with guilt, for example today she said to me "Look, you have him, my lifes rubbish anyway" and she has also said before "i like him 7 out of 10"-which sounds childish-but yeah. so I dont really know what to do now-for a start I dont no if the guy likes me or her, because she has a tendancy to never let us be alone together...and also I feel like I have done something terribly wrong. This is making me feel like she is copying me really, the only people she has ever been out with are my exes and its sort of becoming a little bit too repetitive. Any advice on this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008):
Hey, I'm cruising around on these sites because I'm "that guy"
I like a girl and she likes me. I asked her out and she said yes and a couple days later she said she couldn't go out with me because her friend likes me too. Shitty situation..
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much for your advice, I have found it helpful. In the end myself and my friend just decided to leave the guy to his own accord.
However now she is going out with another guy, therefore I can go for the guy I like-so its all good really.
Luckily I havent lost her as a friend either which was a slight relief.
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reader, lil miss blond3 her answerin ur questions +, writes (18 February 2008):
 i can totally relate to this question im 12 and my best friend fancied the same person as me so the best advise is talk to your friend about things like if were to chose one of you the other wouldnt feel jelous and wouldnt try to break you up and if she agrees ask him who he likes and if you want to go out with him ask him who he would rather go out with then its none of your fault and he decides you neva no he mint go out with you the lad we fancied went out with me good luck bb3 and remember if he picks her theres plenty more fish in the sea and dont be jealous its a real turnoff hope my answer helped
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reader, didapoo  +, writes (14 February 2008):
 While it is her choice, she is your friend. For her to say she'll back off for you and him, even if she wont leave you alone with him, says alot. Tell her that since you both like him, leave it up to him. If he doesnt like one of you, just be understanding either of you. Who knows, he might not like either one of you. Dont ever lose a friendship over a boy. Thats the only advice I can give you, if she is really a good friend like you say she is
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