Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
A. 15 May 2008: I would hate a guy to say those things to me...he wants to paint the living room, go shopping and have my mum over to stay?! What?! Why?! How about 1. God I love to give women head 2. There's no better way to wake you up than to make you come... (read in full...)
Is it just me or is anyone else feeling concerned about the amount of unfaithfulness goin on here?
Q. Is it just me or is anyone else getting scared as hell of the amount of unfaithful married couples goin on here? This makes me super frightened to be married! Dosnt anyone believe in a commitment these days? No wonder the divorce rate is sky high, ...
A. 14 May 2008: Are you saying we've evolved since...when? The 70s? The 50s? The 20s? Not enough time has passed to say we've evolved and then devolved, surely? If that was the way, then this 'evolution' was a blip and we're back to normal now I guess.... (read in full...)
Is it just me or is anyone else feeling concerned about the amount of unfaithfulness goin on here?
Q. Is it just me or is anyone else getting scared as hell of the amount of unfaithful married couples goin on here? This makes me super frightened to be married! Dosnt anyone believe in a commitment these days? No wonder the divorce rate is sky high, ...
A. 13 May 2008: Umm what makes you think anything's really changed? The fact that people talk about it now? It used to be the norm for married men to visit brothels for sex so their wives could avoid sex which was considered 'dirty' and not for good women to do... (read in full...)
Do you consider race a factor when choosing a partner?
Q. I'm a African-American male that likes all types of women. The women I used to be with are Latinos. I do not really care about ethnicity because if you look for someone that understands your needs and your strives, that someone may not be your color ...
A. 13 May 2008: I have dated men from all races and all different countries, so I say it doesn't matter to me. White, black, asian, British, Caribbean, Indian, Somalian, Ghanaian, Italian...I have had good relationships and found things in common with all of them. ... (read in full...)
Why does the fact that I have big boobs make guys assume they can treat me like a slut?
Q. Hi Im 16 and am a 5"3 size 8-10, very curvy, G chested female. I have always hated my figure so thats nothing new, but recently I've felt particularly shite because everytime I go out to enjoy myself around people my own age, for instance at part...
A. 29 April 2008: This must suck, I feel for you. But as you may have noticed, it is guys your age doing this, teenagers. Unfortunately I saw guys act like this to a couple of my friends who had big breast when we were teenagers.
I am not excusing them in the slig... (read in full...)
Why does the fact that I have big boobs make guys assume they can treat me like a slut?
Q. Hi Im 16 and am a 5"3 size 8-10, very curvy, G chested female. I have always hated my figure so thats nothing new, but recently I've felt particularly shite because everytime I go out to enjoy myself around people my own age, for instance at part...
A. 29 April 2008: This must suck, I feel for you. But as you may have noticed, it is guys your age doing this, teenagers. Unfortunately I saw guys act like this to a couple of my friends who had big breast when we were teenagers. I am not excusing them in the slig... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my virginity yet-His persistance scared me so much I thought he was going to rape me!
Q. I had been dating my boyfriend for 7 months im a virgin and he is not. I have done stuff with him eg oral and jerked him off but not sex. He is getting bored. He says he wants to be inside me and cum inside me and stuff but i dont really want to. ...
A. 27 April 2008: I'm sorry but he doesn't love you. Can you imagine doing that to someone you love, making them feel like you did?
He sounds like he is threatening to rape you. You should never have to beg someone to stop. It's awful, and you did nothing wrong an... (read in full...)
My boyfriend fingered some other girl and I feel like I'm losing him...
Q. how can i stop this horrible feelings of guilt? my boyfriend fingered some other girl whilst going out with me. i forgave him and and to be honest i couldnt care i just shook it off. but deep down i really care about this boy even though i d...
A. 27 April 2008: He's treating you really badly and it's him, not you, that is at fault. He sounds stupid and immature. If you want to hold on to your sanity and self esteem, you need to dump him. You can find someone much better.... (read in full...)
I feel like having a threesome would be my boyfriend's excuse to cheat! Is it?
Q. hi all i have a question that is bugging the crap out of me! ok my boyfriend really wants a three way but i dont because i dont want all of his attention to be directed to someone else is that to selfish because ive had a three way but the last one ...
A. 27 April 2008: If you have low self esteem this threesome isn't gonna help. You clearly don't wanna do it, and you've had a bad experience with it in the past, so don't do it! I don't get where the idea that this is 'selfish' comes from?! Since when are people ... (read in full...)
Is this statement meant to protect my feelings (about not having enjoyed the one night stand)?
Q. My partner had a one night stand recently. I ma not very happy as you can imagine. one comfort though is she claims she did not enjoy it at all and did not have an orgasm with the man she slept with. I find this difficult to believe - is it ...
A. 27 April 2008: Yes, people can definitely not enjoy a one night stand. I know guys AND girls who have regretted getting themselves into that situation. Usually drink is involved..... (read in full...)
He is my first date with an uncircumcised penis and that... turns me off. I want to break up, should I tell him why?
Q. I've been dating this guy for a little over 3 months now. I think he's great and want to have a long-term relationship with him. The problem is, I don't sleep with my boyfriends until we've dated a little while aad I'm sure I really like them for ...
A. 3 March 2008: I find this so weird, because in Europe getting unnecessarily circumcised is completely rare and only done by Jews and Muslims as a routine.
I have had boyfriends who were both circumcised and not so I really can't see what the big deal it - it'... (read in full...)
How can I make him understand that this is a pointless argument?
Q. I had a fight with my BF. He gets so upset each time the issue is brought up, but he's the one who brings it up so there's no way for me to stop it. Anyway... I had a friend with benefits when I was 15, and years later, he introduced me to...
A. 3 March 2008: He sounds really jealous and insecure. He is upset because you had some semblance of a sex life before him (though I do not think you lost your virginity by giving a BJ! How ridiculous is that lol) and it is hurting his ego.
He sounds like he ... (read in full...)
Should I get together with my long distance boy although plans for a trip with him and friends fell through??
Q. Met a boy a couple of weeks ago when our two mutual friends set us up (at his request, after seeing my profile online). At first I wasn't really interested in the whole set-up thing, but after meeting him and spending the weekend together (the 4 of ...
A. 29 February 2008: Life is for living and right now you wanna see this guy so I think you did the right thing. You don't know where this is going, its at such an early stage, but you like him and will have a fun weekend spending time with him so really I don't think ... (read in full...)
Will he tell?
Q. hi every one, I'm only 14 and i have fallen in love with this guy, but he only likes me for what I did in the past... I have shown him my breasts and I wish I didn't.. I really do. Now he wants me to show it to him again, but I keep on saying no. I ...
A. 29 February 2008: While I agree with the message of the above poster, I can't hack the way she keeps calling you a slut! You're not a 'slut', that's a really nasty, oppressive word to be throwing around especially at a 14 year old girl who already regrets what she's ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with him, we've fooled around, but I don't want to be thought of as a slut...
Q. Hi, So i´ve a good guy friend, known him but for only 2 months or so. So anyway, the last time i was at his house (only my second time), we put a movie on, and, well one thing went to another and we were making out, he was feeling me and i was feel...
A. 29 February 2008: Try not to pay attention to stupid labels like slut etc They are only there to promote the idea that women shouldn't enjoy sex and that sex itself is something to feel guilty about.
To be honest, if you weren't a virgin, I would say go for it, ... (read in full...)
Did he really mean it or said it under duress?
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and my boyfriend are living apart due to our jobs right now, for approximately 5 months - we have 3 left to go. We have made plans to travel together when our jobs are finished. Anyway, we were having a bit of a crisis - I was...
A. 28 February 2008: Thanks for your reply. I would like to ask him, but I'm too scared to! I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable, or pressurized into saying something he doesn't mean (or more likely, not saying anything, and it causing all kinds of problems). Any ... (read in full...)
Does this mean he wants to get married?
Q. My boyfriend knows I don't believe in marriage as an institution, and don't need a piece of paper etc etc. However I read in one of his emails to his old friend (ahem! it was an accident, sorta!) that he said since his last brother got marr...
A. 28 February 2008: Lol I know, it's only since I saw him say this stuff that it's got into my head. Like I said, I don't really believe in marriage, and I always thought I wouldn't need to get married, but since he wrote that to his friend, and said some stuff about ... (read in full...)
Should I turn my teacher in after the suggestions he made?????
Q. Hello all School ended for me for the end of the year in December (we have our summer holidays in Dec-Jan) and I gave a letter to a teacher I had a little bit of a crush on, because he was leaving. The thing was, I wasn't actually in his class and...
A. 28 February 2008: Umm hello what is a 37 year old teacher doing talking sexually to his 13-15 year old pupil at 2 o clock in the morning while his kids and wife are asleep?!
He shouldn't be doing this. He IS abusing his power and getting off on it. He may entertai... (read in full...)
She's always flirted and continues to flirt on the web, she says it's harmless, is it?
Q. My g/f's 360 page(sorta like myspace)page.Almost all her friends are men.I'm a light skinned man and all these guys are dark skinned.The darker the guy the bigger he is.I'm not small but with all the meds I take I get erectile dysfunction.I can take ...
A. 28 February 2008: It sounds like she likes the attention and uses it to validate herself. And the dirty mouth comment is definitely a bj thing! Who is she trying to kid?! It's called an innuendo and if she doesn't understand it herself then she shouldn't be putting ... (read in full...)
I have tried for 6 years, but I don't really love him. Should I leave?
Q. I am a 27 year old female married for a year now. I ve known my husband for 6 years now, since the last yearof college. Prior to that I was in a relationship with a very wonderful guy in college for 3 years and due to faults and mistakes which I am ...
A. 28 February 2008: You say you have been with this man for 6 years now but you suspect don't really love him. Do you think this can change and that the love will grow? If not, do you think you can live the rest of your life in this situation? If you can compromise, ... (read in full...)
Do guys really want platonic (best) friendships with women or have secret expectations?
Q. Do guys really want platonic (best) friendships with women? I always thought it was great, that two people could be best friends no matter what gender/orientation, but recently on these relationship sites it seems straight guys who are best bud...
A. 28 February 2008: My 'assumption' has always been that men and women can be friends without anything else (romantic or sexual) involved. I have always promoted that idea especially to people like my parents as for their generation it seems like a pretty new idea.
... (read in full...)
Do guys really want platonic (best) friendships with women or have secret expectations?
Q. Do guys really want platonic (best) friendships with women? I always thought it was great, that two people could be best friends no matter what gender/orientation, but recently on these relationship sites it seems straight guys who are best bud...
A. 25 February 2008: Thanks for your input.
I'm not talking about sex here, I'm talking about wanting your friend as a girlfriend (being secretly in love with them). And you admitted that if you found a close female friend you could confide in, the chances are you ... (read in full...)
Am I gay for breaking up with my girlfriend?
Q. my friends have been saying i'm gay because i broke up with this girl because she told me she loved me the second day we went out i am very sensitive and compassionate am i gay for breaking up with her? my friends said i should've told her i love ...
A. 24 February 2008: Good grief no, you are a decent person that's all! Your friends are dumb and need to grow up. From what you've said, you are much more likely to end up in a good, happy, satisfying relationship then they are so keep trusting yourself and ignore ... (read in full...)
My bf wants sex now. I am unsure.
Q. Ive been with my bf for like one month now. We are both 18 years old. Ive had one serious relationship before him, which was with my ex bf who I slept with, it lasted 7 months. However i broke up with him because he became abusive. Anyway, last ...
A. 24 February 2008: IF you're not ready, you really shouldn't do it. It sounds like he's more used to casual sex, so is not being totally sensitive to your needs right now, but you've put him straight and he'll just have to deal with that. If he's worth it, he'll wait. ... (read in full...)
Do guys really want platonic (best) friendships with women or have secret expectations?
Q. Do guys really want platonic (best) friendships with women? I always thought it was great, that two people could be best friends no matter what gender/orientation, but recently on these relationship sites it seems straight guys who are best bud...
A. 24 February 2008: Thank you for your responses so far, very interesting. I would also like to hear from any guys out there who aren't afraid to be honest with us!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend replaced me whilst I was away on business!...
Q. How do I win the heart and trust of my boyfriend back? We have been together 5 years, and get along great but our communication seems to lack, being the downfall. Recently I was away for business for 2 weeks. I left my boyfriend and thought our ...
A. 24 February 2008: He clearly feels like you should have told him about that big, life changing thing, and is hurt you didn't. Because after 5 years, your are sharing your lives, aren't you? I can't help guessing that you were married before and your divorce came ... (read in full...)
White stuff in sexual activities... help, is it normal?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend over a year and he's only the 2nd person I've slept with. We have a great sex life but my self confidence drops as sometimes when he fingers me there is white stuff on his fingers. It doesn't smell and it's not cum, ...
A. 24 February 2008: Yes, as the other woman said, this is normal! It's all about being aroused. Don't fret, and maybe read up on some female biology? It's much better to know about your own body otherwise you can end up worrying about things that are completely normal ... (read in full...)
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