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writes:My partner had a one night stand recently. I ma not very happy as you can imagine. one comfort though is she claims she did not enjoy it at all and did not have an orgasm with the man she slept with. I find this difficult to believe - is it possible for a woman to have a one night stand and not enjoy it - or is she just protecting my feelings?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): i guess as other posters have noted - she set out to enjoy it - the fact is she didn't set out to have bad sex with the guy - but set out to have good sex - the fact that it wasn't much cop - so she says - could be due to lots of things - but the deed was still done
i don't know whether i am a cynic - but i have a terrible picture in my head of a woman admitting she has had a one night stand to her heartbroken boyfriend -with her fingers firmly crossed behind her back
i know one woman who cheated on her boyfriend and told him was crap and i know what the guy she cheated with made of the experience - the best sex she'd ever had - orgasm after orgasm
me - i think if the woman cheated on you you have the right to do the same
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (30 April 2008):
 By the way, I've had one-night stands too, and I can tell you there are times when I did nothing for the girl.
Remembering back, one time I was quite drunk and actually put in a good performance with my pickup date. The girl even came back for a second night. Unfortunately I was stone cold sober the second time and she was totally disappointed that it didn't measure up to the first night. A one-night stand with a person you don't care about isn't everything it's cracked up to be.
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reader, oldfool +, writes (30 April 2008):
I will only answer your actual question, "is it possible for a woman to have a one night stand and not enjoy it".
I believe it is possible. I've had a girl or two cheat on me (for different reasons), and maybe I'm gullible, but I believed them when they told me that the sex was nothing special, and nothing to compare with our lovemaking. Of course I could only trust my gut feeling, but from the way they said it it really wasn't anything special.
You have to believe in your sexual and emotional relationship. This girl is special to you and it should be apparent when you're in the sack. To a guy on a one-night stand, she may not be anything special at all, just something that he's managed to pick up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): I had a 1 night stand once and I did not enjoy it much. Sex, even on the first night, was much better with my other partners that I actually dated. My wife had 2 or 3 one night stands before she and I started dating and she didn't enjoy them much either. She enjoyed sex much better with her other partners. She doesn't think that she had an orgasm with any of her 1 night stands.
However, whether she had an orgasm or enjoyed it is not the point. She cheated on you in doing it at all. If you both had agreed that seeing others was fine then what she did is not cheating, but I don't think that is the case in your situation. If it was understood that you would be faithful to each other then what she did was cheating and it doesn't matter if she enjoyed it or not. She did it with the intention of enjoying it.
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reader, rproctor +, writes (28 April 2008):
I would lose her mate... She is definitely mind-gaming you.
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reader, daisydaresyou  +, writes (27 April 2008):
Yes, people can definitely not enjoy a one night stand. I know guys AND girls who have regretted getting themselves into that situation. Usually drink is involved..
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (26 April 2008):
 Doesn't that make it even worse, why bother cheating if it don't even feel good?
At least make sure it is worth it when you cheat, if not for good sex why did she do it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008): It's possible that she didn't enjoy it (and certainly possible that she didn't have any orgasms with it) but I don't think it matters one tiny bit either way.Her argument is sort of like stealing your money and then saying she didn't really enjoy what she spent it on anyway.
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