I'm not good at dealing with stress and feel aggressive towards my family
Q. I have come to conclusion that I need help other then doing stuff by myself. Since I was about six i've had high levels of stress due to my sister being quite abusive and my mother pushing education onto me to make sure I get a good job and lif...
A. 9 June 2011: first of all you are NOT whining nor are you being an idiot!
like you have said, you have repressed your feelings for quite a long time and it is clearly not doing you good.
Have you thought of seeking professional help? trust me i was in a sim... (read in full...)
I had sex with a gay person, now my friend is making me feel afraid
Q. Hi, I know there are so many questions asking about this kind of thing already, but I would like to ask for some advice or comments anyway. I'm a female, 22 years old and now living in the UK. Right now I'm having a bit of trouble identifying my s...
A. 11 May 2010: what your friend said was and is plain IGNORANT!!!
EVERYONE is liable of having hiv/aids if there are not well protected!!!
it doesn't matter what sexual orientation you have.
the important thing is that you should use a condom or a femidom(fema... (read in full...)
My girlfriend said I gave her HIV, but my test came out negative
Q. I'm in a relationship that is 2years now,recently my girl friend is behaving strange.In february,she came crying to telling me she has gone for Hiv test and is positive,and that she visited a habalist who told her i infected her and that he can cure ...
A. 12 April 2010: i totally agree with @CaringGuy!!!
if you are negative then there is no way that you could have given her the virus!
it is not possible what so ever, maybe she got it else where and doesn't want to tell tell you.
no herbalist or medicin... (read in full...)
Have I missed out on love and happiness?
Q. years had bulling and rejection.missing out on love because of rejection. people who rejected me always find love the likes of me does n,t .has left me with a lot of problems.i have being going counselling since i was 6 years old.i see other people ...
A. 12 April 2010: dear anonymous poster,
STOP being harsh on yourself!!!!
what you have experienced lies now in the past. i know it has caused you a lot of pain, resulting into low self-esteem and depression.
this is a head thing. you need to transform those negati... (read in full...)
Does he deserve for me to wait for him?
Q. Ok I've had advice from friends and family and just still feel confused..... Ok here's the dilema- I have been with my boyfriend for 4.5yrs, we always spoke about settling down marriage, kids etc but he seems to be a commitment phobe. Anyway 2 ...
A. 12 April 2010: i can understand that you feel hurt and are wishing for him to be with you, since it is your baby. but from the description you provided, it doesn't seem like he will 'mature up' in time.
you should start thinking of yourself. you need to focus on y... (read in full...)
What can be done about my hair?
Q. Ok, this isn't a relationship question but I'm so upset that I can't stand it. I'm upset about my hair, that I'm just crying my heart to pieces as I write this. I'm in tears because I'm so miserable and I need help. It looks shit ugly and I'...
A. 29 March 2010: i have been there with having bad hair.
if you don't have money to go to the salon then here are some useful tips. follow these instructions and you'll see within the next 2-3 weeks that your hair will look and feel healthier. believe me they work... (read in full...)
I was attacked, am now pregnant and don't know if my partner is the father or if I should have the baby.
Q. Hi hope someone can help i am in a relationship wiv someone i also have a son wiv.Not long ago i was attacked who i didnt know now im pregnant i took a test and it was positive im about 2 weeks late and i dont know what to do for the best.if i go ...
A. 15 March 2010: I'm sorry you were attacked and now you are uncertain whether your partner is the father or not.
If you abortion is not an option for you, you could consider carrying on the pregnancy with the aspect of giving up your baby for an adoption.
There... (read in full...)
Turkish men... serious relationships???
Q. hi there, I am Georgian girl and I am in a relationship with a turkish guy who lives in turkey, we are talking almost every day in msn. I have known him 2 years and think that he is a cool guy but there is one moment I feel that I like him ...
A. 9 March 2010: hey there, personally i don't think that he is taking you seriously.
the first time you were chatting he wanted to see you naked, right?
and you have never met this guy in reality, so you can't be sure if his feelings for you are genuine. you shou... (read in full...)
Suggestions for lube?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been enjoying tit wanks for a while now and she's really good at them but was wondering about maybe using some lube in the future but are unsure what type to use. Any suggestions?...
A. 7 March 2010: use water-based lubes, they are better than the oily ones.... (read in full...)
He wants to have a baby and forced me to have unprotected sex
Q. hello, im writing here because i have a problem with my boyfriend. i am about to turn 16 in a few weeks and he will be 20 in a few months. everything started off great,we`ve been together 4 months, but last night we were talking about our futures ...
A. 7 March 2010: i totally agree with most of the agony aunts that this is rape.
even if he says he loves u, u should not allow him do such thing with u.
apart from u reporting this as rape to authorities, is there a possibility that ur boyfriend has a mental d... (read in full...)
I hate my dark, dark skin
Q. I am Cuban and I am dark skin and I like to think that Im exotic with my foreign tongue and look. But all my life I have had people be mean and criticize me for who I am. The media in America portrays majority of the people being beautiful as white ...
A. 3 March 2010: hey gcruz :)
i read your post and most say that i don't like the thought that you dislike your skin just because of the american media.
yes, you are exotic and i believe you should feel comfortable and be able to love yourself regardless whether ... (read in full...)
A disturbing confession by my friend's 11 year old daughter
Q. Last night i babysat my mates little girl who is 11 and found out something im really not happy about.... Now heres the situation. They have hardly any money-Her partner works part time and she doesnt have a job-basically they are l...
A. 28 February 2010: if i were you, i would break off all ties.
there is no point is giving them a chance. if she prefers staying at home rather than looking for a job than it is not your responsibility to feed and clothe her family.
and to that Laura person, it i... (read in full...)
I really would like to emigrate while I'm still young but I don't know how?
Q. Not a relationship question..I'm 18 i've lost contact with everyone from school and college, so my best friend is the only person ive really stayed in contact with,my job is boring, i can't find a decent guy where i live, there's not a lot to do ...
A. 16 February 2010: so u want to emigrate?
it's not a bad idea but u must know that an emigration has to be planned well.
u've finished college which is good because without a college degree u will have difficulties finding a job. not to mention that we are in a rec... (read in full...)
Need opinions on what happened to me..thank you for reading!
Q. I am writing this as my "burn letter", to free me from the pain I am going through and to try to get over this and ask people what did I do wrong so please bear with me and read this, thanks! I went about 4 times with a girl in nov. 2008 (we were...
A. 16 February 2010: you really tried ur best trying to understand her but she has issues that u can't fix.
in my opinion u didn't do anything wrong. she has a problem and she can't handle it herself, blaming u of things. to me she needs counselling to get over her past... (read in full...)
The last thing I want is babies but that's all he wants!
Q. Hi, Im 27 and been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. About 2 years ago the topic of children has come up and i am 110% sure i never want to have them-i dont like children and i made it very clear to him. He however wants children and being the on...
A. 7 February 2010: i can totally understand your point of view.
if you don't want kids then so be it.
it's not like you not having kids will make the human race come to a screeching halt. ... (read in full...)
Are some people simply destined to be alone all their lives?
Q. At age 25 i have never been in a relationship and obviously still a virgin never kissed anyone and as each day passes i see myself growing older and lonlier. I suffer badly from depression and anxiety i have no self esteem at all no confiden...
A. 31 January 2010: nobody is destined to stay alone for the rest of their lives. in my opinion, i would first want to work on my self esteem and talk to a professional about my problems. u need to be at peace with urself and to cherish who u are. u may think that u... (read in full...)
I need an English name similar to my Chinese name which sounds like Melwhi Lam
Q. maybe it looks stupid to ask for help here because of my name thing anyway,my Chinese name sound like melwhi lam .and I'm a girl .in the past ,i usually teach others to pronounce my Chinese name .now it's the problem .I NEED A ENGLISH NAME.my ...
A. 2 January 2010: how about Melanie, Marianne or Melina??
... (read in full...)
I'm looking for positive quotes and sayings to write in my notebook.
Q. Im looking for quotes and sayings...or anything i can write in my notebook. I want to fill it, with positive things, and memories. Im going through a really tough time in my life, with things like school, "friends", my bf that ive lost c...
A. 3 December 2009: heya, read your post and i'd like to share some of my favourite quotes with you :)
hope you'll like them.
"Don't worry so much about finding the guy, just be happy you're the right woman...that's the key"
"Never dim your light so others can ... (read in full...)
Should I disclose why intimacy scares me?
Q. ok, so my question is about being in a successful relationship. i'll admit that ya i'm a virgn and ya i tended to avoid relationships, but the thing is i've had a pretty messed up past. i was abused physically and emotionally and there are some ...
A. 12 November 2009: your welcome :)
I wouldn't wait till you have gotten over your fears. Because it is better if you have a partner who can support you.
How long do you know this person? If you know him for quite some time and you feel comfortable with him (me... (read in full...)
Will she get pregnant even though I wiped the sperm away?
Q. i got spirm on the top of my girlfriends virgina but not in it she used a wipe to get it off straight away will she be pregnant or shouldnt i worry ?...
A. 8 November 2009: as long as you didn't cum inside her, she won't get pregnant.
so don't worry, as far as i know, no girl has ever gotten pregnant by some sperm lying on top of her vagina.... (read in full...)
Should I disclose why intimacy scares me?
Q. ok, so my question is about being in a successful relationship. i'll admit that ya i'm a virgn and ya i tended to avoid relationships, but the thing is i've had a pretty messed up past. i was abused physically and emotionally and there are some ...
A. 8 November 2009: hey, i can totally understand you. i too, have similar issues like you. if you are to have a relationship with someone and it is going on well, then i think you should tell him at one point that you have fears, and he should try to understa... (read in full...)
The new world for a man, how do I learn to love?
Q. Hi every one, pardon me for coming with questions at this late time in the night... BUt I must say a few words before I can ask... I am pretty confused right now... you see, I met a girl 2 months ago, Jenny is her name. I first got to know her ...
A. 1 November 2009: wow! you are in a dilemma. i think that this girl knows what she is doing. she appears to you as a victim, someone who needs protection. she sees in you a good, humble and protective person, who cares for the people around you. about the half-er... (read in full...)
I need your opinions here. What does love feel like?
Q. There appears to be two types of love. One is the love for a sibling or family member, and the romantic love between intimate partners. I myself am devoid of either. I never have (and probably never will) felt love for another due to my abnormal p...
A. 22 September 2009: to be honest, you can't really find suitable words to describe 'love'.
the only way to be able to know this feeling is when you are in a loving and caring relationship. someone who is a love and a best friend. someone u can utterly trust.
i w... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and pregnant, help!
Q. I am 14 pregnant to a 17 year old it was a drunken mistake, i am 1 month gone and not showing yet only small bump no one knows, i have already got morning sickness (i dont know why they call it this i'm sick throughout the day) i cant get rid of i...
A. 18 September 2009: Congrats! i would so love to see their faces ^^
i love babies ;))
... (read in full...)
Help! my sister was raped and the police don't want to help us!!
Q. i seriously need some advice here. not even the police are helpful! it all started when my sister saw this ad in a local newspaper. this bar was looking for a waitress. so she called the bar and asked if she could come by and have an interview wit...
A. 15 July 2009: @ RAINORFIRE yes, i am an immigrant living in germany. i think that's probably why the police didn't take us serious. my sister is planning on letting the charges down. she wants to close that chapter. and yes i am emotional about what happened and ... (read in full...)
Although I don't want my ex back, I do miss him...
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up quite recently. We had gone out for almost 2 years the first time, broke up, and the second time we went out for 3 months. About a week later, I found someone new. It was sudden. He is better than my ex, and he is perfect ...
A. 29 April 2009: if i were you, i wouldn't have jumped into the next relationship after breaking up recently. you should have given urself time to work out the feelings u had for ur ex. by that u can then start a new relationship without hanging onto the last one.... (read in full...)
I have so many complexes!
Q. hello i have a question any guy i liked rejects me and i don,t know how to meet a guy who i like who won,t rejected me.becasue it always happens.i am overweight ,shy,quite ,short,fat face ,tomboy like,and i am stressed living at home and i can,t ...
A. 17 February 2009: hey there :)
i don't think that u should beat urself down by saying all of this.
believe me i know what u are talking about.
u should first work on your self-esteem before looking for a boyfriend. i think every guy is comfortable to be going out... (read in full...)
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