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writes:Hi hope someone can help i am in a relationship wiv someone i also have a son wiv.Not long ago i was attacked who i didnt know now im pregnant i took a test and it was positive im about 2 weeks late and i dont know what to do for the best.if i go through wiv the pregnancy it would mean i would possibly have 2 baby dads and could mean my partner leaving me so the only solution is an abortion which i am dead agaisnt normally.Im also out of work and got 6k worth of debts im paying off wiv a struggle aswell as bringing up a 2 year old my partner works but its only minium wage. what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2010): personally i always thought if i was attacked and fell pregnant, i'd keep the baby because its stilll a life ... still part of you and an innocent to the sad events which happened to you. Its not the baby's fault. I would think about this child (not in terms of who the daddy is so i should abort) but if this was my partners for defo, would i abort?? Basically if you weren't attacked and still fell pregnent from your partner ... would you still consider abortion?? There is always adoption and who knows, you could come to love this child very much regardless of who the father is.
one of my friends was raped after she split from her ex but they already had one son together. The rapist was a black and she a white with white ex thus there was no way she could have passed the kid off as her ex's. However, she was honest and do you know what, the ex took on the role of father to the other kid too ... kid was an innocent. The kid is now in 20's and very happy and well adjusted and my friend never for a moment regrets her decision to keep him. And as for both her sons, they may biologically have two dads but in heart - there is only one :) Family is not defined by blood ... its love and being there through thick and thin.
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reader, CherryBoom  +, writes (15 March 2010):
I'm sorry you were attacked and now you are uncertain whether your partner is the father or not.
If you abortion is not an option for you, you could consider carrying on the pregnancy with the aspect of giving up your baby for an adoption.
There childless couples who would adopt your child and by that you have provided a family for your unborn child.
If the baby is really from your partner than I suggest you tell him. He has the right to know what happened to you since it is not your fault. Tell him that there is a possibility that it isn't from him. As your partner he should support you. The both of you need to decide on this together, so that there won't be any regrets in the future.
take care
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