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writes:Hi every one, pardon me for coming with questions at this late time in the night... BUt I must say a few words before I can ask...I am pretty confused right now... you see, I met a girl 2 months ago, Jenny is her name. I first got to know her at the birthday party of a friend of mine. She was beautyful, amazingly beautyful, and incredibly intelligent! I thought at that moment that I were in love, but I didn't let it catch me! It has happened often enough to me that I make this kind of things up, and I didn't want to let it hapen again! But It's hard...Well, thing is, at the day I met her, she was a little down... She has plenty of problems, mouch of them are similar to mine's. I tried to cheer her up, with success. We got to talk all the night. I eve got told that she has a boyfriend! In that moment I thought I wouldn't have a chance with her, but after she told me that he wanted to leave her because she needed a psychologist :-S what kind of partner lets you down in thos kind of moments??? After I heard that, I KNEW I had to stay at her side, but it's hard, you know? Its incredibly hard.Since the day I met her, we have been going out a few times, without her boyfriend. Many proximities have happened, but not as close as today..Today we met at 1 O'clock PM. We arranged our date a week ago. as a matter of course, we decided to watch some horror movies at my place. first we went to eat something. WE were almost 4 hours in the restaurant and talked. She was amazed, and told to me that she never had someone with hwo she could talk with for longer than 2 hours at the best. She is together with someone but at the same time I think she is lonely, And of course, I'm pulling the ass card, because I know I will fall in love with her and she will reject me, but there is more. After lunch we went to my place. The first thing that happened? Ha! Ironically her boyfriend called to ask at what hour she would go to his place, she said around 8 o'clock roundabout, and hanged up; not a single "love you", or "hi baby" or similar. We started with our session, 11rst horror film. Both on the couch, no big happenings, but she got closer and closer. Second movie: she was almost lying on my shoulder already. At the middle of the movie she started putting her hand wide open on my chest man! my heart started to blow extremely hard! I got the strange feeling in my tummy! she was head to head with me. A few minutes later she crossed her fingers with mines, and held my other hand. she started to tease my hand softly and sweetly. You see, I never had a girlfriend, thing she knows about, and I never had a girl so close to me like that. It was all a new thing for me! I was getting nervous and had to put a damn pillow ontop of my genitals... I guess you know why :-S I did NOT have those kind of thoughts! It was like out of control! This warm feeling of her face against mine! her warm breath, her sweet scent.. I got a damn erection and were incredibly ashamed, but she didn't notice it, thank god.As the matter of fact, the thing got weirder for me, sometimes she turned her face to me and looked into my eyes, our mouths were like 2 cm appart, I could feel her breathing, making highly erotical short, very quiet sounds. My heart was in my neck, my whole body warm, I felt like I could make a rugby try all alone! I was in heaven... I didn't want it to end! it was so... wonderful.. The second film ended, and there we were, face to face, hand in hand, with her laying on me. The cast titles came, we just lied both there. The cast was ended, the DVD player spit the movie out, and as if the film was still going on, there we laid; complete silence. In the streets there was traffic, but I only had ears for her breath, I could hear every inhalation and exhalation of her, I was like hypnotized!WE then started a third movie, with the same circumstances. I smelled her hair, long dark brown hair, witch cut the white colour of my couch with an enormous glare. It smell wonderful :-S everything was perfect this evening;well, almost. Her cell phone rang a few times more, and it was always her boyfriend, asking when she would come to him. She had told 8 o'clock, but it already was 11 PM! she knew it indeed!During the third movie, she looked at me more often, you know, this 2 cm situations. I wanted to kiss her, to feel her lips, to taste her flavour, be the air tht she breathed. But I knew It would only arrange trouble, and I didn't want to risk the fact of never seeing her again. I am charmed from now on. short before 0 AM she said she had to get on the way.As we stood up, i still was half erect, witch i had forgot! because I use normal boxers (the non-elastic ones) it was pretty well to see, and I think she saw it!!! God damn it man, its so disgusting! souch a romantic night and I think that screwed it all! I told her I could arrange a drive till the spot, with a friend of mine's who lives with me at my place, that it wouldn't be a problem. But she said she loves to walk. So we walked. A whole hour took one way. We talked about the moon, about rising to the moon. We talked about how special it is to find a person with whom you can just shut your mouth and fall silent for a few minutes. you know, just stop talking about crap and be silent together! a few minutes later it happened!As we arrived, she called her boyfriend so he could open the doof for her. A pretty unpolite guy I must say. He didn't even had the manners to come to the door and welcome her girlfriend with a kiss or similar! he just kept zapping the damn door, and thus living in the ground floor, 2 metres from the house door.What surprised me but at the same time not, was the goodbye. It was done in 2 seconds! a hug and a simple "bye". I Saluted her boyfriend before and asked him how he was doing.Then, full of strange feelings, I decided to run the 8 Km back home. I came here, took a shower and felt normal again. An here am I, completely crazy about what I should do.I'm a 20 yo male, I've done my recruit service as a Parachute jumper at the german army. At the moment I'm studying Nanotechnology at the University. I play Rugby, 1,80cm tall, 75 Kg, well trained, darkblond, blue eyes. Every one says I'm a beautyful man and that they really don't understand why I do not have a girlfirend. I myself don't know. I care about other very mouch and always try to help sacrificing myself...Now to the questions, before I write my next Novel..-How do react women when they se an half-erect male with who they have been cuddling around without noticing about it before?? am I screwed forever with her because of that??-Is It fair to try to take my shot on her? I only want the best for her, and a souch unpolite guy who dares to leave her hanging when she most needs someone does truly NOT deserve an angel like her!-How should I proceed twards her??I hope you can helpme, thereas I'm a very unexperienced person when it comes to love and relationships... I'd be awfully pleased to see you giving me your opinions.Thank you all very mouch and sory for telling you this endles tale and waisting you time unnecessarily!Have a nice night/day everyone,Cheers
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reader, Share Bear  +, writes (3 November 2009):
 Ooo- this is really difficult. The time spent with this girl sounds everything it should be- bar one thing. I can see both sides of this to be fair too. If this girl said she'd be round at 8pm and didn't turn up till 11pm because she was watching films with a new guy friend, who seemed to have strong feelings for her, and who even walked her to his house afterwards, its hardly surprising that he didn't leap up to answer the door to her when she finally arrived.And the phone call earlier- we've all had very quick arrangement calls when we're busy 'what time will you be there? -great see you soon!' -it doesn't seem fair that you judge their relationship for that.I agree with the other posts that this girl seems to know exactly what she's doing. I can only suggest that you are completely straight with her and tell her that you don't feel comfortable having such intimate nights with her whilst she's not single. And just reassure her that if she does become single, you would love to arrange the next movie night.Leave it at that. She shouldn't be letting herself get into situations where she's tempted to cheat, or where she's leading someone on. That is NOT the behaviour of an angel. If you respect her as being better than this, then don't let her stoop so low.Your time together sounded beautiful. But if she's genuine then let her come to you when she's free to. And don’t let yourself be led on a string or taken advantage of in the meantime.And please have a heart for her boyfriend- she's messing him about twice as much as she's messing you about. She is committed to him, and she was 'committed' to him whilst she was just 2cm away from you. Bad relationship or no, she can only fulfil one commitment at a time.
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reader, Hellium +, writes (2 November 2009):
Hellium is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI Know you aren't lying but it's somehow hard to accept the fact that I might be wrong... I usually try to make things nicer to myself, and that's the reason for the whole lot of mistakes I've done in the past 10 years of my life. Could you give me a tip to check out if she's just gambling with me please?
Thanks for your both very objektive answers, they make things (aldough sad) mouch realistic and bring me down from dreaming around dayover.
Cheers
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reader, CherryBoom  +, writes (1 November 2009):
wow! you are in a dilemma. i think that this girl knows what she is doing. she appears to you as a victim, someone who needs protection. she sees in you a good, humble and protective person, who cares for the people around you.about the half-erected-penis-situation, you should clearly know that this girl is messing with you. she intentionally aroused you, causing confusion to you. she knows that if she would have continued with her seduction, you wouldn't have encouraged her to stop it.you shouldn't think of continuing any relationship with this girl, because if it comes to a relationship between you and her, she might do the same with another guy and you might feel used and rejected.i totally agree on Satindesire's suggestions. move on, you have described yourself as a good-looking guy, all you need to do is to be self-confident with your appearence and you'll find a girlfriend. but this girl you have described needs consulting and it is not your job to take that part of a professional. by the way i also speak german :))
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