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41-50,
anonymous
writes:years had bulling and rejection.missing out on love because of rejection. people who rejected me always find love the likes of me does n,t .has left me with a lot of problems.i have being going counselling since i was 6 years old.i see other people who can find love and be happy but not me.i suffer from depression,low self esteem, social problems,scared of people, intimacy problems,always rejected,i am also very over weight,ugly face,chubby, crooked eye, crooked yellow teeth,bad hair,i have being called names, threading ,attack,bulled,left suicidal.i went to the doctor he was no i went counsellors they were no help either.all i ever wanted is to be loved by some one instead i have being called names and rejected and told i wasn,t good enough,and guys tell how good all they ex girlfriends were and how i would n,t qualify and i was nothing but waste of there time and energy .i never even got my first kiss and let alone my first boyfriend and always the outcast at school,i am going crazy from being alone and unwanted.my mother does n,t understand my pain and loneliness.
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reader, CherryBoom  +, writes (12 April 2010):
dear anonymous poster,
STOP being harsh on yourself!!!!
what you have experienced lies now in the past. i know it has caused you a lot of pain, resulting into low self-esteem and depression.
this is a head thing. you need to transform those negative energy into positive energy.
i think you are still caught up in the past which is not good for you! stop looking at the negative things and start thinking of yourself in a good way.
for an example you must have a passion or talent for something or you could try out a new hobby. trying out new things helps you to socialize (it doesn't have to be a huge hobby, begin with something small), for an example you could try out a pottery class, cooking class or something else.
you may think of yourself as ugly and don't really know how other people see you. have you read the tale of The Ugly Duckling? you should google it and read it. read between the lines.
maybe you could have a new look? how about going to the salon? try out a new hair style that fits to the shape of your face. go shopping with friends or your mother.
even if people look at you, how are you sure that they are thinking of you in a bad way? it's all in your head. you can't possible think that everyone you meet automatically doesn't like you.
it also has a lot to do with body language. if your body signals intimidation or fear, people will avoid you; because who wants to be friends with someone who is a scaredy cat?? noone so have more faith and trust in yourself. noone is destined to be alone. you'll find someone. you need to believe in yourself and always remember that what has happened in the past HAS HAPPENED!
and you now have the opportunity to mold/create your own FUTURE/HAPPINESS! it is in your own hands. you are the one who CAN CHANGE YOURSELF and not any doctor!!!
i believe you can do it.
take care :))
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