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writes:I have come to conclusion that I need help other then doing stuff by myself.Since I was about six i've had high levels of stress due to my sister being quite abusive and my mother pushing education onto me to make sure I get a good job and life.Now that i'm into my late teen's I find myself anxious, feeling down, feeling ill and just mood swings in general were anything could literally set me off.I came out to my mother as gay about half a year ago, Moving up to the point where I came out that was more stress on my life and also exam's/revision and then when I did tell her she didn't seem to like it that much... long story short she told me to not make it so public.After that point I have felt our relationship is strained and we can't have normal conversations without shouting.I've never been the one that was good at dealing with stress, I had to repress my anger, my thoughts and my ideas to myself since if I voiced them I would get hit by my sister and now I feel as if I have repressed so much that i'm going to explode I feel as if i'm drifting and that there is no way of actually feeling better untill I move out and grow up.I have always loved my mother but now I feel utter hatred for her I don't know why I just feel like hitting her or swearing at her and that is not the kind of person I am.To be honest i'm probobly just whining and being an idiot but I feel as if I don't get things sorted and straight I will push everyone and everything away and be nowhere just stuck in nothingness.What should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, CherryBoom  +, writes (9 June 2011):
first of all you are NOT whining nor are you being an idiot!
like you have said, you have repressed your feelings for quite a long time and it is clearly not doing you good.
Have you thought of seeking professional help? trust me i was in a similar situation and a friend of mine made me go see a professional. talking to someone who isn't related to you can make things easier. probably at one point, the therapist could ask for either your mother's appearance or that of your sister's. dealing with your emotions on your own won't really help you.
think about it and good luck :)
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reader, Ima FreAk! +, writes (9 June 2011):
 Hiyaaaaa,Well you made my job very easy!!!!!!! You told me the root of your problem like your sister being abusive when you were six and how you feel.Firsly can I say that well done for coming out as gay because that is a very hard thing to accomplish in life. Despite not knowing you I feel proud of you already!!! :DSecondly... I think the best thing for you to do is if you tell a teacher or someone that you really trust. I know it sounds really cheesy and what not... but if you tell a teacher that you like... it can help you get over things a little and ease off the stress.Because your sooo stressed out and your right repressing a lot of things can make you explode so I think you should let your anger out in a healthy way.For example exercise. The only place a man can survive! The gym! You could have a membership or if that is too expensive like gym always are you could take a run down the park. This is a double bonus you can get rid of your anger and stress as well as getting buff!!!! :POr you could even write a diary daily of how you're feeling. Maybe right a couple of poems, draw, play an instrument.You just gotta find a way that you can express yourself without hurting anyone.If your stress does get outta control you must confide in someone otherwise your literally gonna go ballistic!!! Swear down you would!I think you mend a relationship with your mother you just gotta show her love and appreciate her. Do the little things such as remembering her birthday, mother's day or whatever, even if she doesn't appreciate it just show her love. That is the best way because you wanna show you're the bigger person and is unaffected by this. But time will be the killer... it will get better in time.Hope my advice helps!Good luck!Ima FreAk!x
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